To break up because your girlfriend or boyfriend often asked you questions to communicate how they felt and he or she took it as you complaining or starting an argument?
that's how things go sometimes and have to work through it. basically, the issue is vulnerability and trust. realize that the brain isn't even fully formed for another... close to10 years! He may not know what he is feeling and it is very difficult for men sometimes to express what the feel and why, its frustrating and scary. Why? I'm sure you can figure out why.
So it takes time and effort to communicate.
Or decide that this is not tolerable and try someone else. Reality is, he should spend some time working on himself to connect with emotions so he can share more of himself.
It's not easy sometimes... hopefully gets better. Without effort to change, cycle repeats to something breaks.
If they sorta get icky about you talking to them, this is most likely a kind of avoidance to me, as if you were only friends or something. Not saying they're your therapist or your mom/dad, but they should love you enough to not run from you when you approach them. Anything else is a reason for breaking up in my opinion.
Men don’t usually like to talk unless they want something from you or they’re going through something stressful that you can help with. Nagging them to communicate usually pisses them off. In their eyes, you’re “needy”.
Yeah, that's definitely a weird reason. It sounds like he such a person isn't that committed and was only there for good times and shallow reasons.
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Yeah. That’s weird. Communication is a good thing. I guess there is a extreme to everything. Just not meant to be. Guess it’s time to find someone else
u Sounds like maybe there was another reason and this was just used an the excuse to break up.
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Yes it is a weird reason - it might be because the actual reason can't be explained well.
For example, I was dating a person who did not take accountability for how they would speak to me. For example, make snide/ condescending remarks. If I reacted they would act like I misinterpreted or they didn't mean it like that. It got frustrating communicating with them because they never apologised. They thought I broke up with them for their behaviour. I broke up with them because they never took acountability for their behaviour. This is very hard to explain to them - because at the time they didn't have much self awareness.
It might be like your situation. I don't know.
u this seems to be one of those situations in which... other things have been happening as well and for some time too... and this question or questions in particular might be just the excuse to keep avoiding
this is avoiding any responsibility or commitment from his part, so... he did something or something has been done a few times and he just doesn't want any of it anymore
If the other person is somewhat angry then it likely means they have some unresolved past trauma they haven't yet cleared or resolved. This is an issue that likely affects people who mostly have had past bad relationships, and for some could be something they bring and carry forever (into old age). Having the trauma uncleared means they can never truly get intimate with another. That's why having and developing trust with people you meet is an important issue in life.
I understand it's tough, but trust me, you're going to get through this. Breakups are hard, but they're also a part of our journey to learn and grow. You were brave enough to open your heart, and that's something to be proud of. Remember, it's okay to feel upset, but also know that with time, you'll find strength and happiness again. You're doing great in facing this, and you'll come out of it even stronger. Keep your head up—you've got this.
"he or she took it as you complaining or starting an argument"
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with such a person. They have some unresolved anger they need to work out before they can be in a successful relationship.
First, im sorry this happened to you :(
If one side asks questions all the time how i feel i would feel bit suffocated and my life is not under my control. Even though her intension would be good (to take care of me and worry about me) I want to be her boyfriend, not her 5 year son 😬
Sounds like this person doesn't want to have discussions about or be questioned about their behavior. Good riddance.
So the two of you aren't getting back together again? :'(
Communication is good. But was it a healthy amount? Were you in need of constant reassurance because of insecurity?
Sounds like someone felt the other wasn't emotionally expressive enough.
But maybe there was insecurity at the core of always asking this question?
I think that's weird. You should be able to communicate in a relationship without judgement. If there's something they don't like they should tell the other person, not break up over it
mm yeah RED FLAG. relationships run on communication
That seems like a strange reason to break up... sometimes what we say and what the other person hears are two totally different things 🤷🏽♂️
I'm not really understanding what you mean. Can you be more specific?
Communication breakdown
https://youtu.be/vGYvToUMLeU?feature=shared
I'm not sure that I understand the question. It sounds to me like someone is annoying the other person with too many questions, that shows you are insecure about the relationship?
Sounds like they had no intention of being serious with them. asking for more communication is very important
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