My boyfriend works too much does he love me?

[Anonymous]

So I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant and I don’t work. I stay at home and eat sleep and clean. Maybe I’ll watch a movie or two. My boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable with me working while pregnant. He doesn’t like the thought of it unless I insist but his preference is that I don’t work right now. So I listen to him and I stay home all day everyday. He works two jobs to support us and the baby that we have on the way in march 2024 . He pays all the bills & He works an afternoon shift to almost midnight. Then he works from midnight till six am in the morning. So right now it’s 230pm and I won’t see him until tomorrow morning at 6am. This is frustrating for me and makes me feel unloved and unwanted. Im very lonely and pregnant and makes me want to cheat on him I have his live location so I see when he pulls up to work and when he leaves for the next job. I am depressed that I’m alone so much and honestly thinking of just breaking things off with him. I feel like he doesn’t love me and doesn’t wanna be around me anyways. I really wanna accuse him of cheating because the fact that it’s 2pm now and he won’t be home until tomorrow morning is crazy. But I watch his location and he’s definitely at both jobs at the times he says. so I don’t wanna seem crazy and start accusing him. But I’m feeling very upset and lonely about this. What am I supposed to do? Today I got a little standoffish towards him because he told me he’s gonna be working on Christmas Eve and a few days leading up to that. He says he hates leaving me here but we need the money. I can’t help but think he secretly likes being away from me anyways. I’m starting to resent him and now I feel like f*ck him ! He can stay gone cause I don’t need him. Should I call him out on this or should I let it go?

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+1 y

The plan is I go back to work and he quits his second job after the baby is born. I don’t have a problem with working and we don’t have any family or friends in this state

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+1 y

I can’t take this anymore!!! This man got off work early and hasn’t even been here for a full hour and he’s already sleeping. I’m done !! I get no attention or love I need another man because he’s just not it !!!

[jennifer_bloom]

A man that gives you money does not always give you practical support or emotional benefits and a man that gives you emotional benefits does not always give you money because he might be poor. We live in a world where there is distance between what we want and what we have because the world is built around physical laws and those laws are built by people other than ourselves. If you feel you need support when he is not home, try bonding with other mothers or best friends. Or see if you can find a grandparent or jobless cousin that is willing to live with you when you are at your most tired. My uncle had a poor sister who lived on a farm and he said he wanted to help her out by hiring her to be his personal support worker when he retired from his job and needed help around the home.

[Anonymous]

you are being extremely unreasonable. you're not working. he has to work 2 jobs to keep you two comfortable. and then when the baby comes? you'll be seriously scraping by. and here you are, thinking of cheating on him when he's trying to make money so you two can eat and keep a roof over your head? wtf? selfish much? count your blessings. it must be nice to be with someone, live with someone, have him provide for you, as you're pregnant. most don't get that luxury. god get a hobby or something.

good luck being a single mom. you sound absolutely psycho.

[Asker]

I can’t believe u said that to me

[Asker]

I’m not psycho

[Danny_dan92]

I think you need to grow up because I don’t think you realize how expensive your lives are about to become.




Given he wants you to not work so you can be ready to be a stay at home mom, that means he as a man needs to do whatever he needs to do to have enough money to provide for himself, you AND the baby. Kids are NOT cheap.




The man is busting his ass so you can relax and focus on the baby. That’s love. On the other hand, he could do what many men do, and run away and leave you alone.




Grow up

[Asker]

But the baby is due in mid march 2024 . don’t you think he can afford to miss a few days of work to spend time with me?

[Danny_dan92]

Ok and? Do you realize how much money you guys will need for when that baby is born and then on?

[Danny_dan92]

Look up the average cost of labor that hospitals charge people in your area. Let that sink in.

[Asker]

I mean it’s my first baby so y would I know all that

[Danny_dan92]

Well for context. In California, the average cost of labor and delivery can cost up to 37k

[Danny_dan92]

So yeah, he needs to get the money ready. And that’s just the cost for you to push the baby out. That’s not taking baby clothes, food, diapers etc.

Like I said, babies are not cheap.

[Staximus]

You can get a job or work from home. You think your bills are going to pay themselves? That guy is working himself to death to support you and you want to go and screw other guys? Do you honestly think another guy is going to support a pregnant slut?

[Asker]

I’ve been looking for work from home jobs. It’s just not a lot of safe jobs for pregnant women in this town. How does that make me a pregnant slut?

[Staximus]

Cheating on your boyfriend makes you a slut. You said you wanted to cheat on him. You also said you wanted to accuse him of cheating when you know he's at work. You sound like a real cum dumpster. Try going and hanging out with your friends or family while he's at work, instead of sitting at home by yourself everyday. Or be a decent human being and go to work when he's at work and tell him to quit the second job.

[Staximus]

The way you want to treat a guy who is out there working 2 jobs to support you is disgusting

[Asker]

Ohh I guess I’m an ungrateful little bitch then huh

[Staximus]

Being lonely is not an excuse for acting like a shitty human being and throwing this guy away like trash

[Asker]

Yeah well I need love and attention

[Staximus]

You need to not be an ungrateful hose beast

[Staximus]

Who's going to support you after you leave this guy? Jesus? Wake the fuck up

[Asker]

I can support me but once employers see my belly is huge they make up other excuses not to hire me. No one wants the burden of hiring a pregnant girl.

[Staximus]

Yeah wake up and smell the bacon, genius. Try being a blessing instead of a curse. Try being helpful instead of being a scumbag. Since he doesn't have time, take his resume and apply for better jobs for him. Then he can quit working until bedtime and be home evenings and nights with your ungrateful ass.

[Staximus]

He's tired from working all the time you ungrateful scumbag

[Asker]

I understand that but What about me? what is the point of him getting off work early if he’s just going to only talk to me for a little bit and then fall asleep. It’s the holidays so is it crazy to expect him to spend time with me?

[Apple1996]

Yeah sounds like he's just taking good care of you while you are pregnant. Pregnancy can feel lonely sometimes but definitely don't cheat or take it out on him

[Apple1996]

Your update 🤦‍♀️ the man is just dead tired from working so hard. Let him rest

[jarkitor20]

He loves you. He loves you so much that he works 2 jobs so you don't have to be uncomfortable during pregnancy. Therefore he also loves the baby because the baby can be taken care of by your body without any extra pressure.