What are some realistic expectations to have entering in a relationship?

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[alonso]

Setting realistic expectations is definitely key to not diving into the deep end without a life jacket. Let's break it down:

Communication is King (or Queen): Expect to have open, honest conversations. It's not all about lovey-dovey texts; sometimes it's about discussing why you're irked they left their socks on the floor...

Two-Way Street: You gotta give as much as you take. Relationships aren't just about what you can get out of them, but also what you put in. So, expect to invest time, effort, and sometimes, patience (lots of it).

Not a Fairytale 24/7: Hollywood's got us thinking it's all grand gestures and perfect dates, but let's be real, sometimes it's more Netflix and choosing what takeout to order. The mundane moments matter too.

Personal Space is Still a Thing: Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you morph into one person. You'll still need your "me time," and that's totally okay. Don't expect to be joined at the hip 24/7.

Growth and Change: People evolve, and so will your relationship. The person you start dating won't be the same a year down the line, and neither will you. Expect some growth pains.

Compromise, Compromise, Compromise: You won't always get your way, and that's alright. Whether it's deciding on a movie or where to live, compromise is part of the gig.

Conflict Happens: You're going to argue. It's inevitable. But it's not the end of the world.

It's Not You vs. Them: When you hit a bump, it's about tackling the problem together, not fighting each other. Teamwork makes the dream work, as they say.

Keep the Romance Alive: It's easy to slip into a routine. Remember to keep the spark alive with little gestures, date nights, and remembering why you fell for them in the first place.

Mutual Respect is Non-negotiable: This is the big one. Respect their feelings, space, opinions, and boundaries. And expect the same in return.

Relationships are a mix of the good, the challenging, and the downright ordinary. But with the right mindset and realistic expectations, they can be one of the best parts of life.

[MrOracle]

No one is perfect, or even close.

You absolutely will not find 30 different things you want in the same person - hell, if you can find 4 or 5, you are lucky, so you'd better make damn sure you are prioritizing the CORRECT 4 or 5 things, because if you prioritize the wrong ones, the relationship is going to fail.

This means you are going to have to accept that you aren't going to get many things that you'd prefer to have in the way you'd prefer to have them. Your partner is going to have to do the same with you. EXPECT to have to make some compromises and sacrifices, because that's absolutely normal and to be expected in any long-term relationship.

If you've chosen well, and you got the big things right, then it's going to be easier to let the little things go, even if it annoys you from time to time. If you choose wrong - especially if you choose to prioritize shallow things - you will be miserable and your relationship will fail.

Having a quality partner you can count on, especially when things are tough for you, is one of the most calming and steadying thing, and can give you strength when you think you have none. Having someone who is genuinely in your corner is amazing.

Many will never experience that because they're too focused on the "wrapping" or on trying to get their whole laundry list of attributes, so they'll either choose poorly or will end up single - and worse, they'll lie to everyone, especially themselves, why that happened.

[dynamicyandere]

Solid advice. 🥂

Yeah, I agree. It’s about knowing what’s most important to you in a relationship, knowing what to prioritize, and looking for those key things you undoubtedly want in a partner.

After going through several relationships and carefully thinking about what went wrong and what went right with each of them, I’ve come to know what’s actually important to me in a relationship and what’s not as important.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe good things require sacrifice. People think models have easy lives but they don't consider how much dieting and exercise and self control they have to go through to get that body. Or how many hobbies they had to sacrifice so they would have time to go to the gym after work. I know people are jealous of doctors but doctors work very very very very hard hours all their lives and the vacation you see enjoy on Face book is less than 2% of how they spend their time to maintain their lifestyle. I've seen guys that I think look amazing, but I know my pain tolerance is too low for me to share the same lifestyle they do. I've seen very good looking girls do for one hour work outs I cannot do for even 30 seconds while I was in the gym exercising.

[picachixa]

Arguements will happen and it will get worse the first two -three years of moving in with eachother, because you have been used to living alone so the change causes tension. After that, its easy. Been with him for 10 years. Pretty chill we know eachother now.

[wysiwyg2525]

Never expect the guy to pay for everything. Always offer to pick up the bill or go 50/50. It's a huge turn off for giys who have to pay for the bill each time. Always offer to plan a date or invite him/her to go with you. Never ever compare them to your ex and never accuse them of cheating just because the check out someone and you catch them doing it shouldn't matter you do the same and didn't get caught. It human nature to appreciate beauty and good looks in both guys and girls. Always be honest. Communication is a huge plus even if it's telling a guy/girl saying I will ge back to you later I'm at work. Talk tou you later etc.. Never ghost them and jist be you and not someone else. So another words don't be fake. Best of luck.

[Gent207-2]

Monogamous

Truth & Trust

Loyalty & Faithfulness- It's easy to keep your pants on. But what do you say to those who shit talk your significant other without permission or cause behind their back?

Commonality & Differences - Enought to keep the conversation flowing and life interesting

[HighValue]

No contact with any ex, no posting provocative/revealing pictures online or adding/responding to others online that are flirting with them. Honesty and being up front about stuff. For example, if one of them has kids from a past relationship, or a job that requires frequent travel out of town, or any serious health problems, etc.

[MysticDevice]

Your parnter should be able to support and take care of themself. (Not that you shouldn't be willing to help them out if needed but both parties should be benificial to eachother. Not a liability to the other.)

Point being if you're both perfectly capable on your own imagine what you could accomplish together.

[sage2021]

That I hope he doesn't play games with me using his cellphone. That thing can do so many things to hurt someone.
Like not answer, not text back, put her to voicemail, put on do not disturb, not call back, etc.

[Kaneki05]

Loyalty, trust and been less of a slob. Unless both are okay with been slobs together lol.
When we are single I think and do myself let go of motivation but when trying to be with someone that motivation should increase.

[bobalife]

Fundamental foundation of a relationship is building trust, honesty, and aligned intentions/values. I don’t think a relationship can be establish without those initial and ongoing factors.

[Jennz6]

I need some discipline and training to be a good woman

[RedInnocent68]

And some accessories, no doubt… 😉😂😘

[Jennz6]

@RedInnocent68 how do you know these things?

[RedInnocent68]

@Jennz6 it’s a gift. I just want to gaze into your eyes and strip you down to your soul. 🤔😉😘

[Jennz6]

@RedInnocent68 strip me? Just gaze into my eyes

[RedInnocent68]

@Jennz6 I will. It’s how you’ll feel when I do. 🫠

[Jennz6]

@RedInnocent68 I will feel better if you do

[RedInnocent68]

@Jennz6 we both will. 😉😘

[RedInnocent68]

Expectations entering? None. Desires? Intimacy and loyalty.

[nawtee_me]

Trustworthiness both ways, looking to be exclusive, willing to work on the relationship to make it work out, sex, sex, and oral sex….

[Booklover_90]

The other person is human. In other words, he or she will let you down at times.

[CharlotteNoivern]

Some that accepts my kiddos

[GregorSamsa]

Have no expectations. It is what it is.

[Crankor]

To not have expectations

[Brandi555]

Is it a serious long term relationship.