Would you date a girl who didn't like sex?

Question

rebeliouse · Accepted Answer

do you not like sex @camillaopez1

I think most people see sex as part of a male female relationship its kinda missing something without it

depends would the girl be ok the guy fulfilling his sexual needs elsewhere with other girl if he is loyal to the girl he is dating in all other respects?

if not then your basically saying that the guy is never allowed to have sex ever again and that would be hard pill to swallow!

Surely · Accepted Answer

Only for a short time. Unless there are health reasons that she can’t get enjoy sex.

ohsheeT · Answer

no not really
I mean that's who I am I love pleasing I love making it all about them making them feel something that they never might have felt before each and every time different I love that experience and becoming one with her
I don't think I could do it I don't even think I need to try but you never can tell

AviatorTom · Answer

Probably not. Well, maybe if she was extremely rich and beautiful, perfect trophy wife material, and didn't mind if I had several mistresses. 🙈🙊🙉

Sonorous · Answer

Gonna go with no. If I'm with someone, a huge part of why I'm even with them in that intimate way would be so that I get access to those things. I'd expect the same feeling from my partner towards me. I'd just stay friends with that person.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I’d just be friends with them instead If I was a guy, why would I date them if they were not interested to ever have sex?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would want to hear the explanation for why she says she doesn't like sex.

Apple1996 · Answer

I think most guys wouldn't

zeitgeist057 · Answer

hmmm maybe. I like sex, so if she doesn't we aren't going to do something she doesn't like. But I'm also polyamorus and my other girlfriend loves sex, so that's not a big deal to me. If she doesn't like sex, nbd, but it becomes a problem for me if she doesn't want ME to have sex either. Like if she doesn't like pizza, fine. But if she wants ME to give up pizza because she doesn't like it, that's a boundary for me.

Would you date a girl who didn't like sex?

But a big question for me is why would we be dating? Why not just be friends if she doesn't like sex? Does she not like physical contact at all? What does she want out of a "romantic" relationship? Intimate talks? Someone to hang out with? To me, I can do those things with a friend (or bff, if you like to differentiate). I have several friends with whom I am so close we do pretty much everything short of have sex with each other, but I don't consider us "dating".

To me, the difference between romantic relationship and platonic relationship is the physical intimacy.

Anyway, it would be a situation for me that required a lot more conversation and getting some answers to my questions.

If this is you you're asking for, my recommendation would be find someone who is asexual like you, if you are asexual. Or if you have sexual trauma/history of abuse and that's why you don't like sex, then I suggest therapy and you would need to find someone who would be patient with you and gentle to help you heal and hopefully enjoy physical intimacy eventually.

HawkPerception · Answer

No I would not. Sexual compatibility is an important aspect of a relationship as is similar:Interests
Views
Way of thinking
Type of life we want
Communication style
Sense of humor
Etc.

The only way time I would be okay with no sex if if my partner that I'm with for many years has an injury that prevents them from having sex, but even then I'd ask for at least oral or a handjob. And only if they can't do those at all, I would be okay not having sex again. If they weren't willing to fulfill me sexually, I'd know they didn't care about my needs and don't love me. The desire to fulfill your partner is a very important aspect of a relationship.

RingOfFire · Answer

No because sex is an important part of a romantic relationship and without it I know I would feel unfulfilled and unable to feel the level of closeness I need. It is one of the most important bonding experiences a man and woman can share. So I would not want to start a relationship that is about romance when I know from the start one of the most important elements will be missing.

That does not mean there has to be immediate sex. There is no hurry for that. But if I know she doesn't like it right from the start, then I will have to assume she never wants that to be part of the relationship and that is a non-starter for dating.

NoOneEver · Answer

Yes.

Being single you don’t get sex anyway.

To me as long as my own needs are met, and she may not like it, but we still celebrate it every once in awhile, because she cares about me and my needs would show to me that even though she doesn’t like it. She still loves, appreciates and values me…

But if she doesn’t like sex in the capacity that she refused to do it ever. It would be harder and more difficult and I could only be in that kind of relationship depending on the capacity of how much I truly loved her. And was willing to sacrifice for that love…

patrick994 · Answer

Honestly it depends, if she does not like penetration for example, but we can have satisfying intercourse in other ways (oral and masturbation), yes I would be happy to do it.

if, on the other hand, she did not like sex in general and did not want to be intimate with me, absolutely not.

Being with a woman without being intimate is like being with a relative.

Chill_Thoughts · Answer

I mean, it really depends on the girl, I've met few people that really don't like sex, most that apparently don't, just haven't been interested / haven't had the right experience with it.
That said sex is amazing and is an important part of a balanced relationship. If you don't have it, then you need to be extra special on everything else, to balance it out

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

No, waste of time. Sex is still one of the better ways to build and maintain relationship intimacy.

In my opinion, it's just a platonic friendship, why would I date someone if not to build in a relationship?

If that's the case I'd rather hang out with my friends.

Lliam · Answer

Nope. Absolutely not. I wouldn't waist time on someone with such a handicap. I date healthy women.
I look for relationships with soft, juicy, fully functional women who revel in sex. I'm not just looking for a friend. Personality, values, intellect and behavior are super important, but so is sex.

ZackBan · Answer

Tried it once. Never again.
The relationship quickly reached a glass ceiling where we where basically good friends and nothing more.

I can respect a girl's choice not to wanna have sex but will never again let that come before my own choice of wanting to. And so I'll only date a girl who's in the same mind frame as me

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I'm looking for a future wife. I get not wanting to feel pressure to have sex all the time. That's totally fair. But if she's genophobic, then I don't see much room for anything beyond friendship. Because if I ever got married, sex is expected. That's a bad setup from the get go.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

No there'd be no point. We can be friends, but that's what the difference between a girlfriend and a friend is... I'm sleeping with the former to the exclusion of the latter. If I'm not going to be sleeping with either then what's the difference?

Nikki_0508 · Answer

I don't like sex. i discovered this about myself halfway into my relationship when he was already really into it with me. despite this, he has completely ignored his drive during times i am not in the mood. so yeah, i am a girl who doesn't like sex who has a promise ring with her boyfriend

NathanDavis · Answer

no, because it would not be genuine...

because I do like sex, and I do love it with someone I love... and am into fuller relationships like that so we would not compatible nor both satisfied...

and if we're not compatible and we won't be satisfied, then... I would not make her waste her time with me like that either

sawno · Answer

No, I want a future with plenty of sex and am very monogamous. I have not been holding out for someone special to then end up with a sexless relationship or one where sex is seen as a chore. I want my sexual fantasies fulfilled and her enjoying sex is essential to them.

SeymourBill420 · Answer

No. If she stated anything negative about sex in her profile say on a dating app I wouldn't even message her. I would plague her as being boring and no fun. But, at least if she was open-minded to try it with me I think I could change her mind on the topic. Especially if she was your age.

Berethor · Answer

Don't like don't mean can't do it, if she is virgin then she worth a try I would say.

RebelinSteel · Answer

It really depends on the why, does she not like it because of previous sex or an event, does she not like it because she’s nervous about the entire thing, or is it she does not want sex but is saying she doesn’t like it. If it was never ever then that would make it harder to have a relationship.

JacobJordan · Answer

Lol. Vast majority of men don't need a female best friend. Women have 3 main focal points in a relationship. Intimacy, children, emotional stability. Most men do not need the emotional stability anymore. So that leaves intimacy and children. Both of which require sex. So what reason would a man have to be with someone that doesn't want either of those?

Anonymous · Answer

In retrospect, no.

I had concerns before I proposed to my wife. I have since learned that sexual compatibility is very important to a healthy relationship. It's been years since we had sex. I still love her and don't want a divorce. Still, I don't like having to be secretive, getting normal, sexual pleasure from other women.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not liking it and not doing it is two different things. I could date a girl that would have sex now and then even though she did not like it. But not having sex at all would be a problem unless she had some girl she would let have sex with me.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Well, I'm a very sexual sit on your face everyday type of girl so...  I mean yea I'd still date her but like, she'd need to have sex often despite not liking it which is not a realistic expectation.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I don't think most guys would, but I am sure you could find one of those guys who don't like it either.

MemeSupreme · Answer

welp

Billlewis · Answer

I think I'd be challenged to remain join a relationship with her for a long time , but I could probably serve her temporarily.

altaboy · Answer

If she has other qualities that I value, I probably would. I like women for many reasons beyond the physical, and who knows? If she is particularly delightful I might be very happy to devote time to her.

genericname85 · Answer

i personally would not. 0 chance. no point in that. what's the point of dating if you're not gonna have sex? might as well just hang out as friends.

Nik1hil · Answer

Never, I am one of those asshole, who would put up with a committed relationship. If it comes with regular sex. like two out of 3 days!

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

No, but if I want to date a woman in my age group, I doubt this will be a problem lol.

DextroShade · Answer

No, that would be an absolute deal-breaker for me and every other man who has self-respect. If you don't want to put out your only companionship will be of the feline or canine variety.

jshm2 · Answer

That a nice way of saying "hire a maid!"

HighlyQuestionable · Answer

Needs clarification: by "sex" do you mean penetrative intercourse? Kissing, heavy petting?

JHNS98 · Answer

Well, I used to date a girl like this, and almost dated another one too.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I would date a girl who wasn’t super crazy about it. But didn’t like it at all, would be hard.

jahaims · Answer

Nah, if she is asexual a relationship won't work and I wouldn't take on the baggage of it if it were from trauma.

Vegasrunner · Answer

How could you date a girl thar didn't like sex, wouldn't that just be a friend?

LiamJHayden · Answer

I dated a girl who was afraid of being touched. At least for the first month or so.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd consider it if she was cool with me having sex with other girls and even more so if she had a pipeline of hot friends she could provide.

iFarted · Answer

It wouldn't work, so no.. sex brings in another level of intimacy.

justabuddy · Answer

If I felt it was honest, and not her trying to get the most out of a relationship with minimal effort put it. These girls do exist.

Anonymous · Answer

Would you date a guy that didn't show any interest in you at all?

Tallbestfriend80 · Answer

I couldnt i know a relationship is all about sex but it helps x

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I KINDA DID BEFORE ONCE

Luméa · Answer

Most guys would not ig

MissBoogus · Answer

Surely they can show her otherwise 😇

rigmarole · Answer

What would be the point of that?

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I need sex.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes but I would want to know why.

exitseven · Answer

No, hard pass.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Is that a question, or an admission?

Forceinhand · Answer

That'd present quite a dealbreaker.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I'm asexual so it doesn't interest me anyway

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

aren't ALL women like this?

Staximus · Answer

Might as well just be friends

Tomisworthless · Answer

No, I’m trying to have sex

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