Greatest emotional pain?

[MLGbreezy]

For me nothing hurts more than realizing that the person I cared for deeply and immensely and would’ve did damn near anything for. It’s realizing that this person didn’t care about me fissure then saying so despite all the pretty words it’s them turning their back on me. I recently got into a heated argument with a close female friend and potential lover. This girl basically told me in the past I was her world or that she didn’t know what she’d do without me to be exact, she then did some things that hurt me and when I tried to confront her about it she through that all back in my face and then said we were better off cutting ties. The argument itself wasn’t that bad we never said anything egregious to each other and I went back after the fact reread everything and took accountability for my actions that I felt I did wrong and apologized. She did not, she cut me off which I find funny cause in the past she got into a heated argument with a fellow coworker new guy and he was basically a Jack ass to everyone he worked with and he disrespected the hell out of her in front of our entire staff the first time they worked together and then within that same week I heard that they actually went out on a date. I doubt that’s all they did if they just went out once since she was so quick to go out with a man that did her so wrong. But she through me out like I meant nothing, I feel so betrayed and lied too I don’t get it I just don’t get it at all. This is obviously without a lot of added context but sorta the gist, ik I’m better off but man does it still hurt.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I had a similar experience long ago and, by far, the most painful of all breakups.

She also dated a guy just a couple weeks after that was a complete asshole (I don't think I was being biased).

Almost a year after, we ran into each other and got in a friendly convo and she was still with him but praised him a lot. Yet one of the things is that she was no longer allowed to go out so much and also had a curfew to be home by 8 PM. I was so amazed that she was complimenting him still and asked, "You don't mind having a curfew?" Then she replied that she actually loves it and that he reminds her of her father.

So maybe she wanted a controlling father type all along. That's definitely not me. I like to protect women but not control them, and actually many things clicked at that point. For example, she used to give me shit tests all the time asking me things like, "What if I became a stripper? What would you do?" I replied that's it's her choice to make but I would be extremely unhappy. Then she got furious at me saying if I truly loved her, I would forbid her from it and then she ran off crying and I found myself apologizing. Actually with her, I found myself apologizing all the times for things that didn't seem like I did anything wrong.

Anyway, I know it's very painful and you might not want to hear it but I'm pretty sure you dodged a bullet.

[MLGbreezy]

It’s crazy cause me and the girl I’m talking about never got together. We were still in early stages and she ended up dating another dude while leading me on which lead to our argument and ultimately us cutting ties. The thing with the shut from our job happened before me and her had anything but it still feels like a slap in the face. Especially after she told me she never wanted me to leave her or at least implied that. In the end I feel like I was just someone there for her to have attention and she betrayed my trust. And while she did apologize she gave me a half ass apology I still feel like I took the majority of the accountability even though I ultimately wasn’t in the wrong

[MLGbreezy]

I don't know dating nowadays is really destroying my perceptions on things which sucks

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Hang in there. It's especially tough when they say things like they'll stay with us forever and then leave. Sometimes we can sort of fall in love with a girl from those words if we place too much stock into it.

One of the ultimate things that experience taught me is to never place too much stock in words expressing love and commitment, especially when they are offered very quickly.

[MLGbreezy]

I had some friends tell me the same recently words can hold a lot of weight but ig in dating people tend to say a lot of things they don’t truly mean. And that sucks cause I would think in a setting like dating that’s where you’d want your words to count the most just as much as your actions. I’ve still got a lot to learn plus we only cut things off recently so things are still fresh in my mind. Thank you for the advice I truly appreciate it 🙏🏾

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, you're definitely better off.. It seems like maybe she was already done before the argument.. Maybe she was into somebody else while having something potential with you, and just used the argument as an excuse to break whatever you guys had off..

I feel you when you say it hurts.. That's betrayal basically.. But in the end she eventually showed her true colors and hopefully it gave you some clarity of mind and the strength to move forward..

[MLGbreezy]

I wish I’m the type who gets attached easily and I hold on to things especially relationships even more so if we were close , plus I’m a very bad overthinker. it sucks cause I lost my friend and potential and lover It’s weird now cause while towards the end we stopped talking to each other before the argument because we were being petty before that things were good and I can’t help but miss that her and those times we shared and think maybe if I did something different we could’ve had maybe a relationship but ik thinking like that isn’t healthy and it’s gonna drive me insane hell it already has been.

[MLGbreezy]

Thanks for the advice tho

[Joshydavid25]

Nah I feel that one, I'm similar.. I overthink, and get attached pretty fast and hold onto things.. I'm basically sort of a sap or sappy.. Well damn, hopefully you guys can make up one day or hopefully you are able to move forward soon.. And no problem!