How can I deal with grief and violent husband in the same time?

[Anonymous]

Less than 2 weeks ago i lost my grandma due to a infection, I'm in shock... I'm going through some unbearable pain. Since it happened my family was by my side, and they supported me especially my husband.. but today me and him got into an argument which escalated and he became violent to me to the point that he pushed me, throw me etc... on top of that our neighbors heard everything and came to ask if i was fine.. I'm so embarrassed but mostly the pain is much worse, the shock is double and I feel humiliated for the way he treated me.

Now I have to fight with both the grief pain and the pain he caused me. I'm all alone and I don't know what to do..

We had such calm moments these days.. it's unbelievable that this is really happening now. I relied so much on him and I felt so protected and supported but it's all gone now.

[Roxilicious]

That honestly sounds like such a scary position to be in and honestly really sad. I’m genuinely really sorry that you’re even going through this especially being that you just lost your grandmother. He should have some more compassion for you.
The fact that he was able to put my hands on you though that’s really a red flag and if I were you, I would always get out of that relationship because it’s probably not worth it and he’s likely to end up killing you at some point because what else would he be willing to do if you can, that’s usually how it starts.

[Julie_TS]

Fuck that... why would you ever even consider 'dealing' with a violent anyone, let alone a SO. Sorry, time to hit eject.

#harsh? #maybe #menshouldNEVERhitwomen #EVER

[Asker]

I guess because if I need to consider break up now , it's gonna be much harder. I already feel I lost a big part of me when I lost my grandma and he was there and supported me.. but yes you're right, I know I shouldn't put up with this.

[Julie_TS]

Thanks for the MHO!!!

[Cutegirl06]

Anyone that is violent isn't worth having in your life.

[Anonymous]

Consider spending some time alone or away from your husband so you can grieve properly.