Why don’t guys like me at all I don't know what I’m doing wrong?

[laurlaur101]

I don't know why but I feel like no guy has ever liked me at all that I would also like back. I don't know what’s going wrong other people have it so easy and be myself and talk friendly but guys just don’t like me I don't know what it is it’s very frustrating and heartbreaking for real I don't know what to do anymore. I don’t want it to stress me out but it does I’m worried maybe I won’t get anyone ever

[Effably]

So you're concerned that you lack social skills?

Generally I'd just advice the same thing one does for guys. Stop focusing on the end goal and just focus on having a good fun time communicating. Prep a joke or story. Tell it. Fail horribly halfway. Get laughed at. Suck it up and improvise. Get cheered on. Have a good time.

And eventually as long as you meet people, new ones especially, often you will find and fall for someone. The gist really is just that. You're either doing something wrong or not giving yourself enough chances for things to turn out right.

[laurlaur101]

But I don't know tho I can’t name anything I could be doing wrong but I do want to know though I just don’t want to get hurt anymore I feel like I’m always hurting inside over these things like I don't know what to do

[Effably]

If you don't know what it is, outsource the problem?

I see no issue with you messaging sone guy who is remotely your type and telling him he's your girl friend for the day and you're going to talk about why you haven't found any awesome guys. Ask him , her, to spill the honest reasons.

My point is just that social convention, do's and don't's are not nearly as big of a deal as they might seem in your head.

If tackling it yourself is not an option we'll need a narrative walkthrough of where it usually goes wrong.

[Anonymous]

1. You come across as unconfident/insecure. This is unfortunately an attraction killer, even if you're stereotypically attractive.

2. You're shy. The honest reality is that shy people hold back from unfamiliar social interactions, and so you're not creating as many opportunities for guys to get to know you.

3. You aren't making yourself approachable. If you're with a group of friends all the time it takes a very confident guy to to approach you. Are you hanging out with male friends? Other guys will assume they are partners and won't approach. Do you have "resting bitch face's? If so, men won't approach.

These are just a few examples of what could possibly be happening. Ask for honest advice from friends that you trust.

[laurlaur101]

The first one maybe subconsciously I don't know not necessarily shy I do talk to people depends on my mood

[Opinion Owner]

Men are visual, period. If you are even below average looking, you'll get attention as a woman, unless there's extenuating circumstances. Like I said in my opinion. People who know you what they think the issue is.

Hope you figure it out.

[Opinion Owner]

You could also try dating apps. If you haven't already.

[petitedollbabee]

Are you sure that guys don’t like you at all, or is it just the guys that you’re going after don’t reciprocate the feeling?

[laurlaur101]

I don't know tbh

[Slapmynuts]

I'll tell you exactly why! You are trying to hard! When you are wanting or looking for it to happen, it never will! You are a gorgeous young lady trust me on this! Just give up looking and focus on you! Don't think about dating, love, relationships, or anything of it and hit me back up! I guarantee you will be in a relationship!;)

[laurlaur101]

Thank you! Maybe not knowing subconsciously doing things that look desperate but I’m not acting that way but maybe they’re getting some of energy that seems that way I don't know. But I did meet some people unexpectedly the one guy and I seemed to hit it off I guess seemed like it but I can’t answer for him I don't know what was in his mind but he told me to hit him up and he hung out with me twice we got along and had a fun time too took me for a ride in his car asked me to go eat I didn’t end up going was tired and I don't know how some fears with it I don't know why I shouldn’t have had any fear of unknown I think then we seemed to get along well then one day he stopped talking to me kid conversation I don't know if his friend influenced him he was around too it’s a shame that happened unexpected I wasn’t feeling this way and looking he just popped up but he just had to stop talking then I saw him again a year later he acted weird like distant didn’t feel up to talking he did talk but noticed something off then this other guy seemed to want to talk to me interested then he never got my info which is odd never saw this guy after that but the other guy that stopped on me literally watched me and thus other one talk. The point of the story is I thought I was heading somewhere it was unexpected but it stopped I don't know been hurting inside eve since but this happens a lot not the only time but I thought this time was different like both liked eachother but I don't know then I heard rumors of him not wanting to get close so I don't know. Then the guy that wanted to talk to him I could’ve had him but never got to talk to him after that encounter both were my type and seemed alright but I don't know if the first guy was a douchebag or not prob was a lie the whole time this is why I’m upset I feel like I have to get a move on it and try to get someone I don't know

[Slapmynuts]

I hear you! Please feel free to IM me so you don't have to put your business out there for everyone to see!😁

[laurlaur101]

That whole thing really was a slap in the face for me because I really thought I hit it off with somebody it was unexpected on top of it I had no clue I would just click with so some like that I feel like there’s a connection I don't know if both sides but I feel like there was, but It’s not fair not having anyone liking me feels odd I don’t want to be myself for life I don’t think my personality is bad either I’m positive like to have fun go out and do things adventurous there’s a time to serous on things too but be funny and silky energetic type of personality

[laurlaur101]

I don’t mind about that but just had to answer back on here yeah I can talk about things in the PM

[Slapmynuts]

You are fine! You can't hold his actions against yourself! Sometimes things don't work the way we want but there is a bigger picture in place!😁

[ChicoFromThe305]

Relax you are 20, you made a whole estimate of another 50 years of your life by just talking to how many Guys?

Cause you do know there's billions of them in our world right? Ha

[laurlaur101]

Yeah I do know but I’m worried that everyone will eventually be taken and I’ll get the left overs

[ChicoFromThe305]

To be fair we are probably already dealing with the left overs, good thing people keep making more people tho cause then we would be doomed, you'll find someone Laura, it will just take patience.

[spartan55]

You have zero self confidence and that is like bug repellant to guys.

[darkforcebooty]

maybe they are intimidated by you?

[laurlaur101]

I have no clue but I know for a fact there’s better girls then me looking wise so that could be it too

[darkforcebooty]

I don't know :)
do you wanna talk?

[noohair]

Personality?