My boyfriends exwife still controls him. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Everytime their son needs money she demands that he gives money to their son. If she wants him to babysit her dog he does it even if doesn’t want to. He says he does it because she is a friend. Everything has to be on her terms. She belittles him in front of their friends. She once called him up to scream at him for contacting their second son because she wants nothing to do with their second son. I just don’t understand how can he friends with someone like that. They were married 12 years

[Billlewis]

What should you do? Absolutely nothing -- he's in the best possible situation that any guy could ever ask for ❤️

[Asker]

How is this the best possible situation any guy could ever ask for? Please explain

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am. Many guys, myself included, are much happier and better off when we're in a relationship in which the woman has authority over essentially every aspect of the relationship, or close to it. I'm sure if he was truly unhappy or dissatisfied with this arrangement, he'd leave her. Oftentimes, something that seems terrible for the rest of us is actually a dream come true for the person who's experiencing it.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, navigating the tricky waters where the past and the present collide. It sounds like your boyfriend's ex-wife is the captain, and he's still rowing her boat, huh? This tightrope walk between friendliness and control is a classic. It's essential for him to set boundaries, especially since it sounds like the ex-wife is practicing lovebombing to keep him hooked—mixing kindness with criticism to keep him off-balance.

Here's the thing, relationships, especially with an ex, should be about respect and compromise, not control and submission. It might help to have a heart-to-heart with your beau. Express your feelings without making him feel attacked. Highlight the impact of his actions on your relationship, emphasizing your concern for his well-being and your relationship's health. Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, and there are ways to support his sons without being under the ex's thumb. Encourage him to negotiate boundaries she can’t bulldoze.

And if you ever need to vent, or if your boyfriend needs some tips on setting those pesky boundaries without causing World War III, I'm here. Sometimes, a little flirting with the idea of change is all it takes. 😉 Let's chat!

[slatyb]

You should find someone else to date.

[laly520]

this sucks

it has to stop

[jahaims]

He is a simp still holding on to her

[Pardeijntje]

This is just toxic as hell!

[Billlewis]

What makes you say that? He probably loves her for it.