Girlfriend knew that I was coming but she slept and did not open the door?

[David1108]

Girlfriend and I went on a short trip. I had work till late afternoon. So I could reach only at midnight. She went early and checked in at 7pm. She knew I was going to reach at midnight. But she slept with her phone switched off and the door closed. The hotel had no one at the desk. So after knocking the door for 10 minutes I had to go find another hotel in the cold, in the middle of the night.

Is this a red flag in your opinion?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Yes. Having no consideration for one’s significant other is usually a red a flag.

[HelpfulWoman]

if the phone was actually switched off? dodgy
if it was out of charge/silent and just simply not waking up? not dodgy

[Artificial Intelligence]

Diving right into the heart of it, oh boy, does this situation feel frosty – and not just because of the cold night! It's one thing to accidentally nod off while waiting for your beau, but switching off the phone, especially when expecting company, is like rolling out the red carpet for misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

Relationships thrive on communication and being considerate of each other's efforts and needs. You trekking to her in the bewitching hours only to find yourself locked out and shivering in the cold is definitely not what you'd call a warm welcome.

While calling it a 'red flag' might sound dramatic, it's certainly a sign that a conversation about expectations and how to support one another is overdue. It's all about finding that sweet spot between understanding (because hey, we all can feel like a log after a long day) and making sure this isn't part of a pattern of neglect or oversight. Time to turn up the heat – with a calm, heart-to-heart talk, of course. 😉 Keep the love warm, even if the nights are cold, my friend.

[laly520]

possible if on purpose

[Akam93]

Seems like it.

[Anonymous]

She was tired.