After a certain age if you are still single and can't find your soulmate would you just stay single for the rest of your life or just settle with someone so you won't grow old alone?
That is such a negative question so is better to reframe it.
Is it better to take the bird in your hand rather than wait for a different bird in the bush, that may never be there. If ya keep thinking... you end up back at your question, but don't go there.
Focus on the value of the person you have and your ability to appreciate and love that person. thats what it is anyways.
Thinking of "settling" is a statement about your own expectations which may be in fantasy or false, and may be a negation of the true value of the person you have.
This is an element in being content. We humans always quest for more, something new, fresh, exciting.. the best, according to your disposition. You have to manage your humanness.
I one refuses to let go their perfectionist mentality, I'd suggest staying single lest you attempt to perfect the flawed one you have, rather than accepting, honoring or loving them as they are. That be abusive to no end.
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I don’t think anyone should settle for someone they aren’t truly in love with. It’s not only bad for the person doing it but it’s worse for someone who is led to believe someone genuinely loves them and they don’t.
It’s better to be alone then with someone you’re not happy with. It’s also just not fair to them.
It wouldn’t be fair for a man or a woman. To pretend to be in love with someone they’re not in love with. Unless both people are honest with one another. Maybe someone finds someone else who can’t find anyone and both people just say they don’t want to die alone… But at the end of the day they could be miserable. But at least they were honest.
If that’s something you want to do. Then be honest about it.
I will speak from experience. When I decided to stop looking for a husband and I given up considerng millenial guys are spoiled mommas boys. I stop dating after I dated a jerk and they were more intrested in dating younger woman. Well a friend of mine invite me to this church gahering dinner event I had no idea I bump into my future husband yeah bumping into someone isn't exactly looking for a husband. Let's just say one day you decide to go to the grocery store you never know what's going to happend you ca even find your future husband at a grocery store. It happened to me when I seriously tough I was way to old.
Always pick single over settle. Just don't exclude happening to find the right person along the way.
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Makes more sense to compromise on some things, but not all.
Single and out there , with young boys 18-25
No. I think the opposite happened. After a certain age, I lost motivation to look for someone. Not because of anything negative, I totally love women and think they make the world a much better place to live. It just stopped being a priority for me.
If anything, I think I'm a lot more picky than I used to be. Since I'm perfectly fine being single, I can afford to be picky. On the other hand, even though I'm not looking, if the right person came along, I'd romance the heck out of her. If she was the right person, I'd give her my heart.
But no, I would absolutely not settle. I'd walk and be fine with being single.I think you can find a soulmate at any age...
I don't plan anything, being alone is not a problem mainly because I'm never truly alone... it sometimes pisses me off but in long-term I appreciate my family and friends
but for sure I wouldn't settle with someone I don't love...
I don't think anything should be given a timeline. We are human beings and not robots. we have feelings and living things cannot be alone is my belief. Just get on with your life and do what you love and when you meet someone on your path, give it a chance and don't close any doors. I recently heard of an old couple in their 60's who fell in love and married. Not saying it'll take that long... but you don't have to close the door at all.
According to the US Census Bauru, more women are already single than men and there are 90 men to every 100 women. On top of that, men that have money to travel outside of the USA are more and more finding their partners outside of the USA. American women need to get used to the idea of many of them staying single for life. They can wish and deny it all they want, but in reality, many of them are going to stay single regardless if they want to "settle" or not.
Their bad morals and listening to the lies of feminism have ruined the relationship prospects for many. I have no sympathy for them.
"Settling" reeks of long-term regret if you ask me. Unless you feel the person is someone you like, love and can have fun with, what's the point?
And simply because you're not partnered doesn't mean you're alone. Most people have families and good friends to interact regularly with. A SO is ideal, especially when you're older. But if it s not possible, you have to live your life as well as possible.
Stay single. Been there and had that done to me. A girlfriend in my 20's was going to 'settle' for me, (based on my experiences with her a prior lovers) I knew for a fact that she felt that way, and I knew it and rejected her wanting to get married for that reason.
I don't think there's a certain "age" to settle. However, since I don't want to marry or have kids, you kind of have to wonder if I ever actually will "settle".
To me, marriage, is pointless. It's literally a piece of paper, of the state telling you that you're "in a relationship". Once that marriage ends (which a lot do these days, it causes multiple problems, including if you have kids)
Kids are just demon spawn. I don't know why people have kids
Some say you should never SETTLE unless you are in a courtroom & others say you should never SETTLE for anything less than the best.
As for a relationship I rather be single versus settling & as for me I rather be with a person for the right reasons instead of the wrong reasons.
Depends on what you consider "settling". If you are one of these that dismissed out of hand anyone less than 6 feet tall, making less than $100,000, yeah you may need to realign your priorities. Don't, however settle for an addict, an abuser or anyone unwilling to seek help for serious mental illness. Being alone can be better than being with some people.
Good question. I would love to have "grown old " with someone years ago. But now I've developed so many habits on my own an like doing what I want to do when I want to, and it's not bad at all. I have a guy who is similarly me, who I think may be interested in pursuing a relationship--but I think he is just like me--likes being alone. At his age, he isn't going to change for anyone, and neither am I.
Well I'm 35 single broke up with my ex I feel freedom without love but it's also good to be single to I just feel I want hugs and then I say but what if the guy I get with doesn't accept the fact I have a crush on Uma thurman and can't take that away if he doesn't like it it's see yaa later alligator sorry
Please don't feel like this is an attack, but do you have some fears of commitment? You probably are not going to find a soulmate depending on your definition, but you can find a person you have a lot in common with if you are willing to commit to working on a relationship.
To answer your question more directly, I would rather live my life with a great friend than be alone.
So , I just don't think age matters , as life goes in cycles , in your 20s you have this vision of " lasting forever " the reality is , that's simply not going to happen in real life.
Soulmate? Honestly I think that's bullshit , it's just a series of compromise , in life anything can happen , and all those experiences help create who you are.
Things evolve as will relationships and sex at different stages.Well... do you WANT to grow old alone? If not then keep searching, otherwise just keep an open mind and maybe someone will cross your path.
If I had not found my partner (I was 34 when I found her), I would have stayed single, but I would keep looking around... You never know what happens.
And better to have no match, rather than a bad match.
If I was still single, I would continue to date and have hookups. If along the way, I would find someone to share the life with, that would be lovely. Otherwise, I would continue until I grow old.
Yes. I've only been in 2 relationships and sometimes I feel like I just settle with the first person who talks to me. I'm very mutable so I adjust to just about anyone... So after this relationship- I almost don't even want to try again.
I'm already married but if I was single I would want to find someone to share my life with. While being single is great I think it must be sad and lonely to spend your days by yourself when older.
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