Do you trash talk about your ex to your new partner or do you avoid talking about them?

Question

If and when your new partner asks?

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

I rather avoid talking about them. Unless it's really bad (haven't had this) I try not to speak ill of them. At the end of the day at one point I really loved that person, it always feels weird to me how people can speak so badly of someone they once genuinely loved

LaterZ · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if ur trashing ur ex, i feel, ur low key not over them. Because if u dont feel anything towards someone, u dont care how others see them.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No… I’d rather not say anything or say that we broke up amicably and I wish him all the best so does he.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I talk about exes only when asked. And then I try to give a balanced account of what they did wrong and what I did wrong.

coachTanthony · Answer

Avoid it. Nothing good can happen trashing your ex to someone else.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't trash talk my exes. If my partner asks, which she rarely does, I tell her the truth.

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

It's a huge turn off to do this or even mentiyour ex. When both men and women shows two things. 1. Your not over your ex and you will always compare your current parter to them. 2. It turns off people because it goes to show if you break up with them, then they will trash talk about them.

Doing this is a bad ego, it's abusive, its narcissistic, very bad for both sexes as it messes with people mentality.

Just don't do it or go to counseling and get help to over calm your obstacles.

Good luck.

MatureSexyClassy · Answer

I have talked briefly about my ex to the love of my life. I have been honest about her faults. However, I have also owned up to why the relationship not working out was completely my fault and what I learned from it, and conveyed that I told my ex these same things and apologized to my ex for it. This was just me being honest and putting it in context. I was a good partner in so many ways but I also screwed up in ways that hurt the relationship and I learned from that some weak points about myself. It made me a better me because I realized what I did wrong.

blueonblack22 · Answer

The way I look at it is if my girlfriend is trash talking her ex then one day she will be trash talking me to someone else. It’s a huge red flag. And it’s come true before in my dating life.

One girlfriend from years ago kept on comparing me positively to her ex. While it was hard to resist being flattered there was a distant alarm bell ringing in the back of my head. Sure enough.

Lesson is to never bring up your exes unless it’s absolutely necessary. It’s disrespectful to your partner.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't have any reason to talk trash about the people in my life...

but I don't avoid talking my life experience or past or the people in my life either... I don't bring it up for no reason that's for sure... if the topic comes about or they ask (which they usually have) I just mention about the things that are pertinent or whichever they were curious about

V_Injector · Answer

Ah fuck... MHO's are picked. But I don't see a superb yet... so like my penis, because I'm going to get in there.

Let's start with my theme song.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/30jrmzzgHLc

You know, if you listen to the lyrics in this song... you'll know my intentions are real.

I don't like my current partners to feel too good about themselves, so instead of shit-talking my ex's, I up-talk about them...

"Baby you don't understand! Her pussy was so tight and moist. She was so much more intelligent as well. She would've made a better mother for my children. She actually knew how to handle money as well. She didn't give me as many needless shit-tests... She was easier to love more than you."

As a salt miner, I love salt, tears are salty.

JacobJordan · Answer

I don't have any exes but I am a firm believer in that those who shit talk their exes are the primary cause of their break up as a result shit talking an ex is a massive red flag. Now it should be noted that being overly positive about them is also a red flag. You shouldn't need to talk about them or want to. But if asked it should be at most neutral if not something like "he or she was a good person but we wanted different things"

AlexEfron · Answer

Neither. She was the best person I had ever known. So there's no reason for me to say ill of her. I do, however, defend her if someone else trash talks about her, but it's for the sake of the friendship we once shared, not for the present.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

neither they are people from my past, can't see any reason to trash them or avoid speaking of them

LostandFound__x · Answer

I avoid and I give as little info as possible.

RavVid · Answer

Bad form. It would be warning new partner what you will say about them after. Quite seriously I don't think it should be done. They are out of your life so leave them in the past.

Mr_twoface · Answer

Neither of us trash talk our exes nor do we talk details about them. We have shared sometimes bits of the past to each other and we still do follow our exes on social media but don't hang.

Xia1994 · Answer

I don’t trash talk my exes because it’s not like I’m a perfect person. If I really like a guy I don’t wanna hear about his ex so I also think if he really likes me he doesn’t wanna hear about my ex either 😭.

spartan55 · Answer

Talking about the ex is something I have to approach on my own terms. There is quite a bit to unpack.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I've always loved divorce humour, relationship breakdown humour, in things like the therapy scenes of Wedding Crashers movie or other things like that 😁😊

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am friends with almost all my exes so they come up in conversation, but it is NEVER trash talk.

dolemite58 · Answer

That’s a red flag if someone does trash their ex in front of you. Cuz when u guys break up they’re gunna trash talk you too,

katiesmuff · Answer

I find it smarter to avoid talking about them altogether.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

No I don't as an ex is an ex for a reason. As much as my exGF had her issues, let's just say that my mental health and well-being is far better 😊

msc545 · Answer

I try to avoid talking about my ex if I can because it always upsets my stomach.

BadApple69 · Answer

It’s better to avoid talking about the ex. Unless you are directly questioned about something.

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope I let them know what ever they want to know, but I also tell them don't ask if you are not prepared for the answer.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I only talk about my exes or experiences with them if it's brought up. I will be honest if asked.

Abbycado · Answer

Nope. No need to get nasty. I just don’t talk about him.

dustybiker2 · Answer

How would that make me look to the new man? No.

Nice222 · Answer

Like my mother taught me “if you have nothing good to say then don’t say anything “. But honestly I try to keep a positive attitude. Even bad relationships taught me good things. They taught me what to look for in the future.

sheikalana · Answer

Nah I don't spend time talking about my ex unless my current partner asks me.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

On request I'll answer as objectively as I can; but will not go into details.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Neither. I am honest about the previous relationships and am open to talking about them if the new person wants to learn more.

LiamJHayden · Answer

All of my exes have been decent, even awesome, so there would be nothing to trash talk even if I were so inclined.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If something happens and I need to talk about my ex to my partner I'll do that.

soe11 · Answer

No never. I dond think anyone should.  It's absolutely immoral.

JayBones2469 · Answer

All of my ex's are fantastic people. I don't make mistakes. All my new girlfriends could and should learn from their mistakes

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No I don't when I'm done I'm done I don't talk about them or communicate with them. You can't move forward until you let go of the past

JesseP1nk · Answer

Never trash talked. I only talk about it if she asks and try to be as objective as possible.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I'd rather not say anything tbh

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I avoid trash talk regardless

OtterMan68 · Answer

avoid it. I've moved on

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't talk about them

Fuentes · Answer

I don't talk about them lol

FenixG45 · Answer

No, only my Ex-bi-atch!

Slim57 · Answer

Sometimes I try not to

Metalbarbie · Answer

Not at all

ALLURING24 · Answer

Say good or be quiet

DreamLife7 · Answer

Avoid it

renodnol32 · Answer

Avoid.

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