People who have cheated, WHY did you cheat? Was the person you cheated with super attractive, or were you mad at your significant other, or what?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

We were long distance (different side of the globe) and it’s been almost a year since we haven’t seen each other. I already came to visit him twice but he didn’t want to visit me in return so that explained why we haven’t seen in each other in such a long time. Things got dull and I felt neglected, I was loyal though. Until I met this guy that I vibed with instantly. I didn’t plan on acting on my lust/crush for him. I kept my distance, but he kept on pursuing me. Ended up sleeping together.

Tbh I didn’t feel any guilt at first, I was so detached emotionally and physically from my then LDR boyfriend that I felt like I was single. Eventually I initiated the break up with my ex, but he said he needed time so we just had a break for a while so that he could adjust to the break up. We still talked but not as a couple. I used that justification to continue sleeping with the other guy. That was in my early 20s. If I could go back in time I would’ve just broken up with my ex first before I start hooking up with the other guy. Took me years to get over the guilt of having cheated…

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I've never cheated (either physically or "only in thought") on anyone I've been with… I don't see the point in dating if that's what's going to happen. But I was very good friends for a long time with someone who would describe himself as "a serial cheater" — he didn't even WANT to cheat, it was just part of his character. He went to counseling and even tried some kind of hypnosis thing… nothing worked. Something inside him was just never satisfied. Personally, in observing him and a few others who I know have cheated… it seems like either they hate themselves and cover it up with this roaming tendency OR they just don't know themselves well enough to read people and situations.
(Sorry, I know this was directed for people who ARE the cheaters, but I thought perhaps my former friend's experience would be helpful here, especially since it shows a person who puts an effort to try NOT to do it and still struggles with it. That's not the case with all cheaters, obviously.)

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

I cheated on my first girlfriend in HS and vowed to never to do it again for the rest of my life. I can proudly say I kept it after all this time

I will admit I’ve been flirty with other women while in relationships and had some inappropriate conversations. I once was secretly on a dating app talking with other women just because I enjoyed the fantasy of the idea.

I make zero excuses for that above. It’s not cool at all. Not respectful to the girl I was dating at the time.

But the biggest problem I have with cheaters is not the act in itself but rather their attitude about it. The way they try to justify it and gaslight their partners.

I guess if you cheat because you were cheated on first then you are both equally scumbags. It’s the backward idea that two wrongs make a right.

But why can’t people just dump their partners when this happens?

BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

Wish I could respond to this guy… I would tell him he is dead on target. These soy boys on here saying “oh I’m a good boy” no you’re not. You’re just trying to convince girls here that you are worth dating.
It’s simple… when you are ignored at home you go out and find it elsewhere. That is true human nature… girls you do it to.
I do know the 20 somethings on here will say “not me!! Never”. Then later you will.

People who have cheated, WHY did you cheat? Was the person you cheated with super attractive, or were you mad at your significant other, or what?

kareenakapur · Answer

I cheated. He never figured out about it. We broke up for a different reason. It was long distance. bc we got into diff grad programs in different states. Together for 7 years. :( He didn't like facetiming. We would just text a couple hours at night. I wanted to get married and then he could come over more often. (His parents were strict and didn't know about us.) I only ever had been with that guy. I never was hit on by anyone else. This really hot guy was in my dm's on insta for years and I never responded to it. I responded to it realized he had a really great job now and lived in the same small city that I lived in. He was really hot and gave me attention. Wanted to facetime. Told me I was sexy. My ex man he didn't have a big sex drive. We would facetime sext sometimes. but this new guy he wanted to facetime sext every single night. I was excited. This is what i wanted. He ended up hurting me really badly and I got my karma 100000 percent. I got karma.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

I've never cheated but my dad did so frequently in his past. When I asked why, he said it was because he craved the validation from others - the most intense kind of validation is sexual desire. Having a person want you is addictive, especially for a person who was neglected and bullied all his life. It was to fill a void, basically.

joesheks · Answer

Basically anyone who has cheated acted in primitive instincts -/ anger, lust, selfishness, emotion rather than more advanced cerebral ones.

The outcome: emotional damage, loss of integrity, loss of trust, broken homes, abandoned/abused/hurt children, and financial damage never enters the cheater’s mind. Almost sociopathic.

Anonymous · Answer

I had the opportunity. I think I speak for most men here when we realize we only get a finite opportunity for sex. Why would you let a relationship (that let's be honest probably isn't going to last) deter you from some side action? Odds are she's cheated on you already or will anyhow. So get yours! No guy on thier deathbed goes "I wish I had been more faithful".😆

Peridot25 · Answer

They did it because they’re cowards. And they know they’re cowards.

Anonymous · Answer

Men generally cheat because new vagina is offered and that isn’t a common thing.

Women generally cheat because they are bored, unhappy, someone “made them feel special”, or they want to see if there is a better option while keeping the fallback in case it doesn’t work out.

Anonymous · Answer

It was a combination of things. My ex came back into my life at a time when my husband was working out of town a lot, and I was lonely and feeling bad about myself. It was a mistake (obviously) and I wish it never heppened.

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

The person who I cheated with tricked me into thinking that we had very deep emotional and mental connection so when the time came I couldn't resist. That was lame lol ik

Anonymous · Answer

My fiance knocked up his ex while I was attending my older brothers funeral (other side of the country). When I found out, I went out and hooked up with a guy at a bar and had an amazing time.

Overandunder89 · Answer

Yes, she was SUPER attractive. For most guys, such opportunities are exceedingly rare, so when that unicorn appeared, I made my move.

OddBeMe · Answer

They’ll say it was “accidental” or “going through a rough time” but it’s in their nature. Playing two sides, dominance. Etc.

mbarsi01 · Answer

I’ve had a seizure and crashed into a pole going 50 driving a car and being cheated on burned more

jahaims · Answer

All cheaters cheat because they are broken trash. The reason is just the excuse.

CocacolaGirl1993 · Answer

I didn’t know person I was with was cheating as soon as I found ended it and told the wife.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never cheated and never would. There is never a valid reason to cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

Because she cheated on me first. Most of them were hotter then my SO.. some were slightly above average.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Availability, attraction, anger.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I would think opportunity meets novelty.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

There was pussy to be had.

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