Why do women make things so complicated so early on in a relationship?

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Just go with the flow, quit overthinking everything and spend time with each other. That's the must exciting part in my opinion. Going out having fun and learning about one another naturally. Opinions? None of this well I don't know how I feel about you bla bla bla? Well same here, but let's see what happens! Opinions?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

It's not that complicated… women like to know up front what a guy is offering, especially since there's "limited time" for those women who are looking to marry and build a family. So why waste time wading through a quagmire of dedbeat losers and players when she can cut to the chase and ask questions then sort through to the serious guys more easily?

(They might not state it so bluntly, but that's what they're thinking when they whine about "oh… he hasn't called me in two whole hours… oh… he slept with me and then stoppted texting… what does it mean…. oh… he blinked at me in class a few times and then now is blinking at my friend…..")

Women flash the vulnerable side to a guy because the guy is presumed to be attracted to the vulnerable side…. but don't expect the floodgates to open and close at will. If vulnerable female is what you want, she's there. Go get her… and deal with her complicated thought patterns… and treat the lady properly. Be vulnerable along with her and remember that you're not perfect either.

BUUUT if you can handle the heat in the kitchen and have a woman tell you "I want this" and answer her "Yeah" or "No, that's a dealbreaker" right away… then go get that girl. She's also out there. Go get her… and hear each other out… and remember that neither one of you is perfect.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

For people who date for serious relationships are not just go with the flow. And why would someone not wanna know how the other person feels about them? You are sounding like you want a friend and not a partner

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Yep, it's the age old question, and these situations have annoyed the hell out of me too. Women always think they can try to figure a guy out from very limited details, or they will overthink what details they do have about him without enough to go on, not enough time to learn. Or they will think something about him should be alarming to her or raise a concern about his value in a relationship. Some of them even go as far as paying money for background checks on a guy, even though it won't reveal things they can't see like mental health issues, secret crossdressing habits, secretly sleeping with men, using drugs, etc.

All of this overthinking is a big reason why women mess up dating and relationships for themselves so much. But then the irony of it is that they almost never overthink the wrong dudes. They will latch on to them and think they can fix him, or they know very well he's not good for her but she tries to hold on to him anyway. Meanwhile the guy who really likes and respects her is the one she will overthink and wonder if he's good for her not. It's just sick.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends on the woman. If I think a woman’s gonna be too much drama. I don’t usually pursue her into a relationship. Especially if she’s not pursuing me as well. I don’t need people like that in my life. No hard feelings. I just break it off.

If someone expects me to be able to read their mind and refuses to communicate like a adult. If someone wants to cause drama for no reason. If someone wants to start testing me to see what they can get away with… I move on.

You deserve better and there’s better out there.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

In my experience, most women don't behave this way. It is an occasional problem, at worst.

sage2021 · Answer

One thing that really get's on my nerves is when a woman is telling me about something and she goes on and on, and takes the whole conversation around the world and back. She uses too many words*!
I'm am a woman and I can't deal with it. Sometimes I interrupt them and ask them to cut to the chase, or I'll look directly at them and say "So, in a nutshell?"

If I have a problem with it, I can only imagine how guys deal with a woman like that. Gee's!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

<< Sitting here chuckling, because I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes following a date, I feel like I would be better off filling in a questionnaire and posting it to her instead of all these questions thrown at me that are CLEARLY designed to be a trap!

Anonymous · Answer

Some people has not much time and they want to get settled sooner instead of trying and testing every relationship. They don't have enough time to spend on every person but they want to make it faster so they want to know where this is going etc so that they can decide sooner that should they stay or try someone else.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Sh*t tests are designed to give people, usually women, escape plans before they get too invested in a potential mate. There’s nothing wrong with a little prudent caution. Some people go too far and seem to self sabotage otherwise good connections.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Most girls are like that…some men can tolerant (I don’t know why)…

especially when they ask what their hubby, bf… is thinking 😂 … when they are not thinking…

I don’t get girls who talk like that.

Peridot25 · Answer

Because we want you to like us. If you don’t, there’s a good chance you’ll bad mouth us to your friends and family after you end things.  Ok, I’ll admit that’s a fear of mine.

jshm2 · Answer

They don't. If you're the "man" in the relationship, then you need to make these changes early in the relationship, rather than when it's all too late.

Truthatanycost · Answer

If it was just about getting to know you, and spending time with you, it wouldn't matter where you went, or what you spent... but it does matter. The reasons should be obvious...

Whitedog1 · Answer

Women are not superficial. Most take relationships serious from the beginning.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You must be meeting the wrong women. I just go with the flow, one day at a time.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

It’s not woman it’s men too they like to do that too

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's in their nature. It's not her fault. My wife does the same until I had to sit her down and tell her that I already liked her, that she didn't need to do anything else to make me like her, and that I wasn't going anywhere.

82lynx · Answer

I don’t have the time or patience for any more monkey business, and that’s like facing down a chimp with a gun.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some do, some don't. The ones that do I bail on.

Anonymous · Answer

She has to compare you to every mistake she's ever made. It's just the way they are.

spartan55 · Answer

What do you mean 'early on'? Like it stops?

dustybiker2 · Answer

I agree with you.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Because sometimes there fucking stupid and dumb.

dolemite58 · Answer

It’s their job to be fussy about things

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