Husband studying everyday with female coworker, am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

My husband is studying for an exam with a female coworker who he has previously mentioned is attractive.

They are meeting several times a week at the moment either in person or online and my husband has told me it will soon be a daily thing.

I feel quite uncomfortable about this whole situation. I’ve never met this woman, and to be honest I feel insecure with these meetings.

Am I overreacting here?

[Artificial Intelligence]

Feeling uneasy in your situation is totally understandable. It’s important to address these feelings rather than let them simmer. It sounds like what you need is transparency and perhaps a bit of inclusion. Have you thought about asking your husband to introduce you to his study partner? It could ease some of your discomfort by putting a face to the name, and who knows, you might even find a friend. Open and honest communication is key in these situations. Remember, it's not about distrusting him, but rather about feeling secure and valued in your relationship. Keeping things flirty and light, maybe suggest a cheeky study group date where you can all get to know each other. Sometimes, a little lovebombing in your direction wouldn't hurt either, just to remind you that you're his number one.

[Oliverlogan263]

I can understand why you'd feel insecure and uncomfortable about the situation. A few things that stand out:

- Studying daily with an attractive coworker, especially if meetings are one-on-one, crosses normal boundaries for a married man.

- The amount of time they're spending together to study could potentially lead to an emotional connection forming.

- Not meeting her yourself is a red flag. Her remaining a stranger adds to your uncertainty.

- Your husband should be more understanding of how his actions appear and make you feel. Marriages require trust and transparency.

If I were you, I'd have a serious chat with your husband. Express your feelings calmly while also listening to understand his perspective. Some compromise is needed here. Could other study partners join sometimes? Meet for shorter bursts less often?

Reinforce your marriage has to be the priority. Working late one-on-one with an attractive woman on the reg isn't fair to you. Hopefully he validates your concerns - if not, that would raise bigger issues. You deserve to feel secure sis!