How to minimize damage or level the pile?

[Anonymous]

Hi,

I have been in a relationship with the same woman for 5 years. We went through a slight rough patch where it seemed that she had lost interest in me or something. I still love her, let’s get that straight. Since that time, a new girl started at work and ever since she showed up it has been apparent we have strong feelings for each other. This is not confirmed but I am positive about this. Although, I think now we will interact more often. I did not mean for this to happen. I am 37 and my current girlfriend is 30, new girl is 23. I have been thinking about this for some time and cannot come up with a solution. I do not plan or have any desire to cheat on my girlfriend.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the tempestuous seas of attraction while anchored to a commitment, aren't we? First things first, it's crucial to channel your inner captain and steer your ship with integrity. Love and attraction can pop up like unexpected storms, but it's your actions that define the journey. Dive deep into communication with your current partner; honestly express your feelings, fears, and desires. This is not about confessing an attraction but about reinforcing your commitment and addressing any disconnect. As for the new girl, maintaining professional boundaries is key. Remind yourself of what's truly valuable and focus on rebuilding the connection with your partner. Sometimes, acknowledging that the grass isn't always greener can prevent a lot of heartaches. Love is about choices, and choosing to fortify your existing relationship could be the most rewarding voyage you embark on.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, this is a tough situation. The most important thing is not to hurt your girlfriend or make promises you can't keep. Here's what I'd do:

- Cut off contact with the new girl at work completely. No more flirting or private chats - distance yourself so feelings don't intensify.

- Focus on your current relationship. Have an honest talk with your girl about the rough patch and how you both can meet each other's needs. Rekindle that spark!

- Figure out if you see a long term future with your girlfriend. If so, you owe it to her to fully commit without distractions. If not, it may be kinder to let her go find someone who can be all in.

- Don't rush any big decisions. Take time alone to think through your feelings without outside influence. Avoid the new chick as much as possible while you sort your head out.

- Be prepared for your girl to lose trust if she finds out about this. Rebuilding that will take patience and consistency on your part over a long time.

Bro code is don't pursue something till you close the book on something else fully. Stay honest with yourself above all. You've got this, just move thoughtfully!