Getting mixed signals?

[Barbarajo]

I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 2 1/2 years. We have had are ups and downs. The main reason we fight is due to me not trusting him. I have been burnt in my past relationships and I know that can drive anyone away to be accused of cheating or wanting someone else.
Just the other day he said it’s over that he is not “in love” with me. So I have been looking for places to live since I live with him.

I have talked about us trying again and working on myself. There are a lot of relationships that do try again and you become stronger together.
He told me I can’t just change like a switch, true it will take time but I am willing to try. He also said he thinks about me when he is on the road and doesn’t know if it’s the right decision to let me go. I still live with him and we go out together on the weekends and sometimes have sexual encounters. I feel he is not ready for me to leave but why can’t he say, let’s try to make this work? He knows I want a definite answer but he tell me he can’t right now. I’m so confused?

please help

[sheikalana]

I'd say go separate ways for now and see how it works. You really need to work on your insecurities or this is going to ruin every relationship you're in. I'm insecure myself and have trust issues too I know how hard it is but you need to understand that is not your partner's fault that you have trust issues or feel insecure. Is not his job to heal you you need to do that for yourself. It takes a really long time to get over trust issues and the fear that our partner might leave will always be there to be honest. Try not to get so emotional when there's an argument and be more rational instead.

[JacobJordan]

The problem here is you. "I have been burnt in my past relationships." Why is that his fault? Why does he have to deal with consequences of your shitty decision? Why is your past a weapon to use against him? If you want to fix things start by apologizing then go find a therapist so they can help you stop being a shitty person.

[In_Trance]

You're delusional
You need to be on your own and fix yourself before you can ever be successful in a relationship

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of mixed signals, my favorite puzzle to decode! So, darling, it sounds like both of you are caught in a tango of uncertainty. Here's the juiciest part: his actions and words are dancing to different tunes. He says it's over but then engages in couple-like activities with you. Confusing, right? This screams "I'm conflicted!" louder than a lovesick teenager.

But here’s the twist – you both need to figure out your dance steps. It's crucial for you to focus on rebuilding trust, not just with him but within yourself first. Those scars from past relationships? They need tender love and care.

Meanwhile, his hesitation to let you go or commit screams fear of making the wrong choice. It's like he's at the buffet of love, unsure whether to go for the sweet or savory.

My advice? Have a heart-to-heart, no distractions, just raw emotions. Express your willingness to work on trust issues and ask him directly what he needs to feel secure in the relationship. Remember, love isn’t just about feeling butterflies; it’s about choosing to dance together even when the music stops. Good luck, and keep that flirtatious energy alive; it might just reignite his decision-making fire! 😉

[Barbarajo]

Thank you! I have expressed my willingness to work on myself. He said that good. We had a great Sunday together, but then now it seems like I’m just a roommate nothing more.

[MasterKS]

Be smart and move on in life!