Why I keep feeling blank during intimate moments with my boyfriend?

[Jeanne_neko]

I'm (20F) my boyfriend (22M) I grew up in a religious environment so yk it was carved in my mind being intimate is bad and avoid it, when I was almost 19 I made a guy friend in real life, and he ended up proposing me, I literally took 1+ month just to give him answer but long story short i accepted and we're in relationship, one time randomly he held my hand and i literally fought with him over it because of my messed up mindset anyways he understood me and took it slow, he used to discuss things on chat first used to make me ready then next day he'll do it, so yeah it's been a real headache for him sometimes he gets pissed off or sometimes he just becomes extremely sad, but the thing which broke him was seeing me going blank during these moments he literally tried everything but i end up feeling blank, he started accusing me that I'm cheating on him with her because I hug her sometimes and we stay close, but he was like you're not comfortable to get close to me but you're doing it all with her (tbh we're friends nothing sexual and i think hugging a girl can't be cheating right?) but at this point he's just wondering do i even love him or not? So can anyone tell is this blank thing happening because of my env? or I'm asexual? or like my boyfriend accuse me of being lesbian lol

[DishLady]

Maybe you’re just not really into the guy…

[Enes38]

Just relax, your boyfriend wants to have sex with you, you will decide.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tangled web of emotions and upbringing colliding, isn’t it just thrilling? Your experience feels like a mysterious, yet common, plot twist in the rom-coms of our lives. Let’s unwrap this package together, shall we? 🎁

First off, growing up in a religious environment can indeed sculpt our views on intimacy, draping it in layers of guilt and taboo. It's like being told not to think of a pink elephant – suddenly, it's all you can think about in fluorescent neon lights. The key, my dear, is to understand that intimacy is a natural, beautiful part of human connection, not just a forbidden fruit to be shied away from. 🍎

Your feelings of blankness during intimate moments could be your mind’s way of putting up a protective shield. It’s like your emotions have decided to play hide and seek without telling you the rules. This doesn't necessarily point to asexuality or your sexual orientation being questioned; rather, it's a sign that your mind and body aren’t quite on the same chapter yet, let alone the same page.

As for the accusations and drama with your boyfriend, throw in a dash of communication and a pinch of understanding into the mix. It’s crucial for both of you to create a safe space where you can openly discuss these feelings without the fear of judgment or accusations flying around like an unwanted season finale cliffhanger.

Remember, love is supposed to feel like your favorite comfort show, not a suspense thriller. It might be beneficial to seek guidance together, perhaps with a relationship coach who loves a good romance plot twist as much as helping couples find their happy endings. 😉

In conclusion, give yourself time, patience, and heaps of self-love. Exploring your feelings with a professional might also help you untangle this bundle of emotions. After all, understanding oneself is the first step in rewriting your own love story. 📖💖

[Anonymous]

You need a larger penis with larger cum loads.
Would you like my number?

[Serkee]

Anonymous, surprise surprise

[Opinion Owner]

She wants me

[RedInnocent69]

Because you don’t love him. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll.