My boyfriend doesn't do anything special for my birthday or our anniversary. How would you feel if you were in the same situation?

[blunty]

We have been together for 2 years, I like celebrating special days like everyone else. Even if there is no gift, I want to be remembered and feel valuable. My boyfriend is acting reckless about this. It was our anniversary 1 month ago, I reminded him. It was my birthday last week, he got over it with a simple message. And I am so tired of this situation, what should I do?

[Makeushiver]

Reply to his. message with."same here". Or come up with something truly fun and more glam than usual and add a note with" when we used to be more exciting I'd have come up with this. Going to a restaurant that is truly what the Michelin Guide calls " sorry of a destination " in the its 3 star rating. I used to think going to a nearby metropolitan area with that type of restaurant and spending atnleastn1 night at a high and hotel used to be worth a treat but hotels have add ed so many charges on the bill and BnB or airBNB have insane cleaning fees that they often apply daily that it's rarely worth it anymore. I haven't done this II n years but Manhattan hotel an used to include a 14% tax on what they termed "luxury" hotels. The most ridiculous part was that they included any hotel charging over $160 a night as a luxury hotel room. I don't n know what it is now but when I last saw it only really ch we AP hotels him hells kitchen or alphabet city had rooms nor that cheap and they were not luxury hotels. Forget about nite Pierre or Plaza. They charge that much for a BLT

[RingOfFire]

It's funny, I enjoy remembering other people's special events and doing something special for them. But I actually don't like when people want to celebrate my own birthday or special occasions. No it's not because I'm getting old, I've always felt that way. I don't like receiving gifts or special recognition because it's a certain day or certain achievement in my life.

Not sure what the psychology is there. It's easy for me to figure out psychology and other people but not so easy to figure out my own psychology. I think that's true for everyone. If you were able to figure out your own psychology, you wouldn't have issues like this.

I know from experience that women especially like to have these special occasions recognized, and in the relationships I've had I've always tried to make that happen for them.

[Alwayreckles93]

You have each and every right to be upset! You Should be your boyfriend's number priority and his everything. I don't know your boyfriend but according the way you describe how he never does a nice thing for your birthday makes me want to hates his guts. A men must ALWAYS no matter what he should always spend time with you. Male you something special. Your boyfriend is a looser I want to punched his nose!

[TrueConfection]

I am in that same situation. My husband acts like those days are like any other day of the year unless it's his birthday. This year, I didn't do anything for his birthday. No card, no gift, no cake, no mention. He looked like a lost puppy and I felt really bad about it, but I still think it was the right thing to do.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, darling, I totally get why this would feel disheartening! 🎈 Relationships thrive on feeling valued and cherished, and the lack of enthusiasm from your boyfriend could definitely be a red flag for you. It seems he might be suffering from a "romance amnesia" 🥴 Instead of holding onto that frustration, it's time for a heart-to-heart chat with him. Share your feelings and what these occasions mean to you! Hopefully, he’ll be ready to put a bit more lovebombing into celebrating your fabulous self! If he doesn't make an effort, it might be time to do some reflecting... 💖

[Finchie40]

Sounds like you need to find yourself a new boyfriend, I could understand if you were together 20 years , but only 2 years and he isn’t acknowledging your Birthday or Anniversary? You are best to get out now because it won’t get any better

[civic]

If my girlfriend didn't care about my birthday or our anniversary, I would honestly feel ignored. Like, how hard can it be to make a little effort for someone you care about? Even a little something is better than nothing. I wonder if she values ​​the relationship as much as I do. Things like that stick with you.

[birds]

I'd probably be a little disappointed, but I'd try to look at the bigger picture. Maybe he's not very good at celebrating that kind of thing, but he shows his love in other ways. Sometimes I'd bring it up casually, and people would just want a hint. Or better yet, plan something fun together and make it special.

[Potteplante]

Talk to him. Believe it or not then not everyone is like you. The whole world doesn't have the same need as you to be celebrated just because they were born. Not everyone has the same priorities as you. If you can't speak to your partner about your wants and needs, then you shouldn't be in a relationship, period.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

"I am so tired of this situation, what should I do?" Break up with him. It will cause resentment, sooner or later. I hope you find someone who will treat you waaaaay better.. they're still out there.

[NewWaves]

I've seen that quite often in long term relationships. You choose to get over it or not. Because maybe HE'S not into celebrating things like that.
Personally I'm not, unless it's Christmas or something.

[haynes]

I would probably go with that. Not everyone likes big celebrations, and that doesn't mean he doesn't care. People show love in different ways, and maybe he just isn't thinking about those. If it's important to you, it can help to talk about it. Even just a quick chat can make things clearer.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, dump his ass. This isn’t going to change and he will not give a fuck the entire time you’re dating him.

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds like he is self centered and only cares about himself. How old is he? Maybe he needs to grow up a bit. Is he into your relationship just for sex?

[noohair]

He is who he is. Don’t try to fix him. The only person that you can change is yourself. Once you break a man, he will lose all his value to you and he will resent you too.

[Nikki1989]

I couldn't care less. We never celebrate any of those days.

[AngelBritney]

I don't know it any different. Our anniversary and my birthday are just normal days. I accepted this and don't make a drama out of this.

[jahaims]

Not everyone places value on the same things. I personally find it weird when adults celebrate their bdays.

[chocolatetwopointo]

personally id like that, i dont wanna make a big deal ab smth that small

[CarolinaGirl5]

He doesn't like you. Are you slow?

[the29thhuman]

That’s ur choice being with someone like that 😅

[Sunlight4]

Really upset and annoyed.

[Cheerfull009]

Just quit, why with such careless person

[WhitneySnow]

I’d be upset