Have you ever had a crush on someone for years? If so, how many?

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GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Never ending crush, no. Crushes that pop up again? Yes.

There’s a woman that… is just very busy. And we don’t live near each other. She’s gorgeous (at least to me) and is very cool. She moved. Then moved back, and I moved further away. and she moved a bit closer, but still like 45 minutes - far enough where it’s highly unlikely we’d see each other just out of coincidence. To me, 45 minutes is long distance. She no longer seems to come my way - I have nothing to do over in that area. The friends we have in common have mostly dropped off the face of the Earth (relationships, jobs, married, had kids, etc) and I haven’t seen THEM in ages, so it’s unlikely that there’s any parties where she’d be invited and show up. I know it would take a lot of effort to even start seeing each other more in person, let alone make anything work, and while we have some things in common, I don’t think she’d be attracted to me “in that way.” Not that she would ever say it about me, but I’m like a chimp compared to her. I’m the gum on the shoe of the gum on her shoe (as far as almost any measure in life). Most girls treat me like this, whether I really am “beneath them” or not… but so far, she hasn’t. So sometimes those feelings will crop up, but realistically, it’s not going to happen.

There have been times with a few women where I try to flirt (over their heads, or not interested… dunno). And if I still got a decent reaction (where she’d want anything to do with me), I’d still give up because it just seemed to go no where, or it would make no logical sense, or… or she didn’t seem interested… or we’d just keep missing each other for whatever reasons. But then years later, I might see them, or suddenly they do something endearing, and that might come back (well, MAYBE…? No, dude.)

Or I see a woman… we get along, the crush might start… and then I only see them twice a year. Or two years later. It’s not enough to get to a point where I can ask her out or even really get to know her… and I can know in my head it is unrealistic. But sometimes it’s hard to shut off that interest. And again, while we might have friends in common, my friends would NEVER bother to set us up or make it convenient to be around each other. I could say… Hey… why don’t you invite _________ out to this party… and they won’t. And most friends will happily “cockblock” me - I can’t trust THEM.

But nothing where I pine for someone and it keeps going for years.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No never had a crush on somebody that long of a Time and if I have it's more or less a fantasy instead of a crush and I guess I probably have a lot to those LOL

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

I used to have a crush on one of my best guy friends I known him since I was 6. I guess I started liking him when I was 7 and liked him until we got serious partners and went our separate ways at 23.. So  maybe 16 years . He tried kissing me when we were 8 but I rejected him saying we are cousins (we aren't actually he is just a family friend). Then when I was 15 and he was 16 I asked him to sleep over and he was like okay and he asked where he would sleep? I said in my room we can sleep in my bed and he said nah, I'll go home so I let him have my bed and I went on the couch, but I knew then he wasn't interested in me lol.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

Yes I was not anymore. I had a crush on a guy I was never involved in a relationship with him. I hear rumors in between mutual friends we had about him crushing on me but if that was truth why he never some to me. Yes we did gazed at each other but that was it. He was a grade ahead of me back in highschool his name was Juan Longoria. But he is now history time showed me that millennial men are just not husband material. I found someone better who actually appreciates me and loves family time and he is also most importantly a Christian.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to dish out advice and sprinkle in some fun! Having a longstanding crush can feel like a whirlwind romance with someone who's unaware they're starring in your romantic comedy. Crushing on someone for years is like subscribing to a never-ending series with unpredictable plot twists. If that crush's been going strong like a classic rock ballad, just make sure the tune is worth it or find one that lets you star! 😄 Remember, love's playlist is vast, so keep jamming! 🥰

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David5668 · Answer

Just the one, and I still have a crush on them even though it’s nearly 47 years since I last saw them. We were both 10 in 1979, just as the academic year was about to end. It was the school assembly and she was taken out of assembly. It wasn’t till later that day (15th July, a Thursday and forever etched in my mind) that we found out that her father dropped dead from a heart attack within moments of her leaving the house for school.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh yeah.

Many years

And the crazy thing is that life kinda came full circle for me where that girl is actually still in my life today but we both changed so much that the love faded away

I still catch glimpses of the old her and quickly remember why I had such a crush but that helps highlight the fact that the old her is gone

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe from 6 years old to 12 years old….

I didn’t have a crush on her anymore, realizing we were better as good pals. Never thought about “what might have been” with her, though I did have a different crush that lasted 4 months because she had to leave.

art84 · Answer

In my college years when I was 20 years old and there was a girl who was 17 years old. She was in high school and 3 years younger than me. Her name was Esther Hernandez and she looked like the girl next door type with glasses and her shy demeanor turned me on. We never in a relationship though I told her that I liked her. It was a crush though eventually went away after 4 years. She got married at 19 years old and haven't seen her in 20 years.

thundernugget · Answer

A few times actually. When I was a little girl I had a crush on a boy in my class from 1st grade to 5th grade. Thought he was the cutest thing, his attitude and personality didn’t match (as I found out in 5th grade).

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I've known her for like 8. I don't know how long I've been crushing on her, but pretty long. More than half that time for sure. I'll say 7, maybe even more, considering I develop feelings for people very quickly

SnowyOwl · Answer

5 years of crushing on my friend. Then we dated. Then broke up. I'd arguably still be attracted to him.. but it just didn't work.

glennos89 · Answer

I know a girl that I liked already when we where in elementary school together and she still is hot af

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I am totally crushing on Babygirl_S here on GaG. Her racialist squeaking gets me hot! 😍😄🥵

Nikki1989 · Answer

I had grown out of the crush phase by the time I was 14.

disappoint3d · Answer

I'm still hung up on a girl I lived with for 6 months 10 years ago. It's super unhealthy but I compare everyone to her and probably always will.

exitseven · Answer

When I was in high school I liked a girl in my homefmroom.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Longest was 2 years in a row, well a year and a half when I was in school.

Yannae · Answer

No I do not have the patience for that. A week is the limit.

jamesgoldman · Answer

My first girlfriend, it was from when I first saw her so about 3 years before we got together

Anonymous · Answer

Yep and I went for it and it was a bad idea.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Back in my school years i had a crush on a girl for like 4 years

LiamJHayden · Answer

My only crush was when I was nine and it did not lsdt.

Emmytexrex · Answer

Lol it's been long that happened to me I had crush for 4 years

12karen · Answer

I usually change crush every year, from middle school til now.

Petermorgan343434 · Answer

My ex fiancé , some crushes are meant to stay crushes…. (For 15 years)

Anonymous · Answer

Yes ,, she was my neighbour and at least 4 years ,, but I was so young that time.. and she was 10 years elder than me 😊

Suvorov · Answer

I did for at least 4 years when we were classmates. I still like her tbh so even longer

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

3 yearsre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

It's happened with all 3 crushes I've had.

Miristheiss · Answer

In 2nd and 3rd grade.

NewWaves · Answer

Oh my, yes. A good 7 years.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes. 35+ in some cases.

genericname85 · Answer

yeah. was like 3-4 years.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, nine and counting…

kelseyyy_06 · Answer

3 years it was more of an obsession than a crush.

Partygirlsj · Answer

Yes. Like three now or maybe more.

roxystars19 · Answer

The longest I’ve had a crush is 4-5 years

DaBiggestBird · Answer

1.6 decades

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Nope..

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yes. Many

In_Trance · Answer

never have

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

DEFINITELY

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, 5.

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