How should I handle this 🤔 ?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I came home from church yesterday and I noticed that my boyfriend of 6 years had packed up some of his stuff and left... he didn't call or text and say anything... and I really don't know what to think of the situation... we have 4 kids together the youngest is 8 months... I mean this is not the first time this has happened and every time he leaves and comes back there is never an apology and never an explanation and he always wants me to pretend that it never happened... so what I want to know is if he came back should I let him stay or should I just let him go this time

Work it out

Let him go

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I agree with u 100%... an imma do my best to do wats best for me first cuz when I'm at my best I can manage myself and my children better... even though they have no clue about wats going on

[Finchie40]

That’s a huge red flag that you shouldn't overlook , Have you tried calling him? Did he answer the phone? If not , then you are best to contact the police and file a missing person report and also contact a divorce attorney and file abandonment claim on his ass , do not let him walk away like everything is fine , you are just setting yourself up for disaster if you do., you are also allowing him to walk over you , like you are just a convenience to him , if you allow him just to walk back into the house , he will just assume what he does is ok and think he can get away with it So the right thing to do , is to protect you and your children , whether you are right or wrong. it doesn’t matter , because he is the one that is wrong for his selfish actions. My ex use to pull shit like this on me , and just leave the house without letting me know where she went or what she was doing , so I immediately called the police and reported her missing when she didn’t answer her phone , for all I knew she might of got kidnapped. After a day or 2 she would just come walking in like no big deal and made excuses as to why she didn’t answer her phone and excuses as to why she didn’t tell me where she was going , and saying things like you don’t own me , you aren’t my boss , you can’t tell me what to do blah blah blah , All I said was you aren’t right , I can’t tell you what to do , but I can tell you to get the fuck out of my home because I called an attorney I got you for abandonment, because we have children at home. So I told her to grab her things and to get the Fuck out of this house because how would you like it , if I just walked out of here for days without contacting you? So you either leave or I will have you removed So get your shit and get out. , She begged and begged for me to accept her apology and I told her nope, I don’t stay with girls’ that get respect and control mixed up , if you can’t respect me , I will not respect you period. Someone that claims to love someone , doesn’t do shit like this to their partner , so all I see is a cheater right in front of my face , so get the fuck out before I have you removed. You either pack your things or I will throw it on the lawn for you. She eventually left the house and I told her I will see her in court.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I agree with all that ur saying... and at least she got u to marry her... we aren't married he just lives with me in my home... when we first got together I didn't know that he was married... I found out through secret msgs and meetings and then one day she showed up at my door... he eventually got a divorce from her bit that was within the first 3 years of us being together and after I had two babies by him already... I don't think that if I stay with him I will ever get to experience marriage... which is something that I do want but wasn't in a rush for

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Also the dialog that ur stating sounds the same as our conversations as well

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry you are going through that , the fact that he lied to you about being married , is a huge red flag right there as well , that indicates he can easily lie to you. I know you have kids’ with this guy but you will never experience true love of your choose to stay with someone like this , He is a selfish POS person that only cares about himself , and what is best for himself , Selfish people do not know how to love anyone but themselves , they are manipulators and controllers that can never admit they are wrong for their selfish actions. You are best to kick this guy out of your life and go after his ass for child support , Life is too short to be used and abused by someone like this , He sounds very similar to my ex from what she did to me. Love will not save the day, Mark my words , you deserve to be loved not used. Also it’s better to be single than to be used by someone as well. I’m sorry to say this but he doesn’t love you , he only loves himself. Do not let this POS back into your home , and do not accept his apologies , you will be right back to square one of you do. He is t going to change whatsoever. He will just keep walking over you like you are this Sucker that can manipulate you to fall for his shit again. The best thing I did for myself was to kick my wife to the curb where she belongs , she has a good side to her but mostly a bad side to her , by her selfish behavior and actions. She didn’t change on me until after we had our 3 rd child together , still to this day , I blame social media for molding her into who she is today because she got so addicted to social media apps the second we got cell phones with internet. She was living on Facebook and constantly comparing our lives to everyone else , to the point I was no longer I protect to her , everyone else was better than me. She started making friends with toxic girls’ that just divorced their husbands and they were influencing her as well, anytime I tried to express my feelings

[Finchie40]

To her, I was automatically insecure and jealous , when that wasn’t the case at all , I was being disrespected because she never did this to me before. I saw right through her selfishness and realized she is a POS person that only cares about herself , I realized she used me and truly didn’t love me , she just loved what she could get from me , She would tell me I was a nice guy and that’s why she was drawn to me , she said she never been with a nice guy? I would just laugh and say so you treat me like shit for being nice to you? The girl is mentally insane , I felt like I was married to Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde , one minute she would love the shit out of me and then the next I was a POS to her and she would say vicious thing s , when I tried to express my feelings to her , she would try to turn it around that I was the bad guy and she was this Angel. When I was t the one disappearing and choosing my friends’ over her , so i eventually started doing the same shit she was going to me and she didn’t like it whatsoever , when she confronted me me on it , I would just say how does it feel? After i separated from her , i eventually met a girl that treated me like Gold , this girl was complete opposite of my wife , I felt like this girl was sent from above. Things were going great until her husband knocked on my door. That was the end of that. After a year separated from my wife I stupidly gave her another chance because she was by my side when my mom and brother passed away , so she moved back in with me and things were going great between us , mmm for a little while until she decided to be selfish again , Now she still lives with me but we sleep on separate bedrooms , we are trying to be mutual for the kids’ sake , until they move out on their own , which isn’t too much longer , as for her and I , we are going to sell the house and split the money and go our separate ways. I am finally open to dating again but not rushing anything. You should do the same

[Finchie40]

If he decides to come back , just be room mates and don’t give him the time of day , and try to be mutual until you both can afford to go your separate ways , unless you can afford the home without him , if that’s the case kick him the fuck out

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I do feel like he's into his apps way more than me and yeah I think that ur right what I want and what he's willing to contribute to me r two different things... I want something r eal and genuine and I don't think that he thinks I'm worth anything like that

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Oh I don't need him here... he doesn't have a job and can't contribute anything... at times he might clean... but at the end of the day im the one who takes care of everything... he's never taken me out on a date, celebrated a mother's day, birthday, Christmas Valentine's day for me at all... even when he had a job... he had a job for the first 2 years of us being together

[Finchie40]

Yea he is just using you , because if he truly loved you he would t be disappearing like he is , I don’t know your financial situation , but if he is paying the bills and providing the money into the household , he is the type of guy that will say it’s cheaper to keep her because he knows his ass would be handed to him if you take him to court and file for child support and alimony. He will play a victim and much as possible to make other people feel sorry for him , when really he is the POS. Stand your ground girl and do not let this POS walk over you , do what you got to do for you and your kids’ he can go be selfish all he wants and cheat or whatever he is doing but at least you will be getting paid for his selfish behavior. People that need space in relationships aren’t relationship material whatsoever, They want their cake and want to eat it to , they have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. He is not a good man whatsoever by walking out on you and the kids’ so give him a taste of his own medicine and tip him a new asshole , cuz he deserves every bit of it. He is more than likely cheating on you , if he cheated on his wife for you , he is more than likely cheating on you for another girl , he is a selfish loser that has no love for anyone but himself , I know guys’ that are this way and they are shockingly on their 4 th or 5 th marriage because they can never admit they were wrong , it’s always the girls’ fault but never his own. I feel bad for the girls’ that fall for these type of guys’ . as well , sadly they are blind to it not realizing he is really the POS person. . So do yourself a favor and kick this fucker to the curb and get all the money you can out of him at the courts , I know you aren’t married to him so be grateful for that , but you can get him for child support

[Finchie40]

He will be forced to get a job

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Yeah if I put him out and he wants to be able to still look the way he do... yeah he would hlf to get a job... I support him... and no he doesn't pay any bills he can't he doesn't have any money

[Finchie40]

So a dead beat father , , sorry to hear that , so you are best to file for child support as soon as possible and get your locks changed on your home

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Yep im gonna find out the steps to take to get it done... as for the locks... he had no keys to my home anymore I took those as soon as he started acting funny

[Finchie40]

That’s good , if he tries coming back to your home , don’t let him in and if he threatens you call the police

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Yep was my plan at the end of the day

[Finchie40]

Hang in there sending prayers your way

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Thank u and I appreciate u

[Finchie40]

Thank you , I just somewhat know what you are going through , it’s hard

[Massageman]

I suppose I can give the old maxim that "insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result", but I won't. I think people should be married before raising a family, but I'm not going to go into that either.

Yes, this is a red flag. Yes, it is time to get your life- and that of your children- defined and together.

Your live-in guy just takes his vacation whenever he wants- big red flag. That is what is going on. This is setting a terrible example for your children, icw commitment and follow-through on promises, etc.

Example - About 6 years ago, there was a lady who had two daughters and came to our church Food Pantry. The husband was a wild man. At the very least (I don't think IO ever heard the WHOLE story), he would sneak money out of their joint accounts, etc. buzz around with other women, etc. We became her extra pair of grandparents via the Pantry contact. She was an accountant, but dealing with two youngsters and a husband who wanted to drain her money- and her life way- was taking its toll. With the help of several people at our church including us, she was able to get support for her food and babysitting needs, was able to get her job life together and now she is the CFO of a company and married a nice guy. He's dealing with an abusive wife who is giving HIM a hard time, but they are truly a good match for each other.

Bottom line? She was able to set boundaries and with a good support system, is now much more secure in her life. She couldn't have done it without putting up a strong wall around her and her kids , and letting her ex know that she was not budging, regardless of his threats and financial crap.

[SueShe]

This is not so easy as just going or leaving. You have 4 children and let him leave definitely will leave you raising 4 children by yourself. Do you have sufficient income or funds to raise them? Is he going to give you alimony or does he even deny of wrongdoing?

However, this situation has to be cleared once and for all and I would have a legal document prepared by a lawyer that stipulates that if he ever leaves you again, he will be liable to settle a specific amount on a monthly basis to finance the education and raising of the common children. That should have him think about leaving again in the future.

But that may not solve the issue that is afflicting your couple. Why is he doing that? What are his reasons? Perhaps the first thing to do is to seek couple counseling.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I don't mind raising my children by myself... I'm weighing my options... weather its better for him to set a bad example for my sons and my daughter or weather its better for him to have a relationship with his children... at this point I don't think that it's good for me I don't think he values or thinks I'm worth it

[SueShe]

Just make sure that you have full custody of your children in case he decides to leave for good and don't let him off the hook without accepting responsibility for his acts.

A person that pulls the same trick over and over again is the kind of selfish one that does not think of the consequences and implications of his gesture. If you can raise your kids on your own, then I would let him go but not before you can secure a financial help from him. Good luck.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Thank u very much

[SueShe]

You're welcome and by the way, don't expect any further comments from this "Love Doctor Brad". It is an AI bot that is spamming most G@G content and answers to his comments are not monitored.

[_Maya_]

I can freeze him, but what would that really do? He's already useless once he spams an opinion

[SueShe]

@_Maya_ I have blocked him yet I can still see his posts. No need to freeze a troll, G@G will find a way around it. Thanks anyway and have a great start in the week.

[Cutea]

This is your choice to make it work or let him go.

But personally I see it as disrespect from him towards you. He just think you will always be there waiting for him

Girl before he come back take your belongs and kids, go on vacation or stay somewhere else for some time you too. Don't give him any news just let him guess what you might be doing.

See what his reaction will be towards you. You will see the truth. Communicate with him, let him know that you won't always wait of him when he acts like that. He needs to be responsible.

Then, depending how you feel towards him you can chose to stay or leave your relationship

[AI Opinion]

Oh wow, it sounds like you're stuck on an emotional rollercoaster! 🚀 Your boyfriend's vanishing acts without explanation or apology are huge red flags. Consistent ghosting like this can be draining and confusing, especially while juggling four kiddos. Your heart and sanity deserve to be a priority here. If he comes back, think about what you really want and deserve in a relationship. It might be time to set some boundaries and focus on stability for your family. You deserve love that's reliable and communicative. ❤️

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Thank u... and I agree...3 r boys and im starting to think that this is not the example that I want to set for them... I don't want them doing this to women... and as for my daughter... I don't want her dating anyone like this... as for me I put my all into my family and my relationship... they take priority over all... and I don't feel like he feels like I'm worth anything and like I hold no value for him... at the end of the day I feel like if I let him stay it would just be for my children to have a relationship with their father

[WhitneySnow]

Agreed

[nawtee_me]

@WhitneySnow if he wants to play around then make him pay to play.

[nawtee_me]

Sorry wrong person

[ohsheeT]

You go down to the box place and you pick up some more boxes and you load up all his crap and you put it out there on the front yard

[ohsheeT]

Because when you allow him back in what you're doing is you're allowing him to go to whom ever house that he's going to and spend the night spend the night spend the night do whatever do whatever and then when she kicks his ass out he comes back to you why because he can get away with murder with you he can do whatever he wants and you allow it to happen you need to start loving yourself let him go you don't want to guide it's using you like that let him go the reason why he's gone right now is because he's not meant for you

He made his decision when he walked out the door he wants his cake and eat it too and that's because you'll allow it to happen

I guarantee it if you don't do it now you'll be doing it later and the drama that comes with later is just not worth it get all drama out of your life that's what holds you back

In life you have two sides to every story

Positive negative yes no hello goodbye right wrong love hate God devil

You got the walk into the light side and you got the dark side the dark side is drama drama creates fake ugly scenarios to hold you back from living real life all the negatives all the above that I just said that's drama go to the other side the light side positive love that's what side you need to go to it that's what side you belong on he belongs on the dark side you belong on the light side

There's a holy war going on and it's so minut of a baby holy war people think but it's not all the people that cause drama are going into other people's homes affecting them so they become negative and on the dark side drama creates negative it's the evil side let it go

Do not allow any more drama in your life no more judgment no more ignoran

[ohsheeT]

There's a holy war going on and it's so minut of a baby holy war people think but it's not all the people that cause drama are going into other people's homes affecting them so they become negative and on the dark side drama creates negative it's the evil side let it go

Do not allow any more drama in your life no more judgment no more ignorance

Become one with self one with others and one with this universe the universe is God everything in this universe is God and then you become the fabric of the universe of God I'm telling you you need to do this or I guess you'll just have to live it out and see but I hope you're strong enough to one day figure it out is using you

[OlderAndWiser]

Why should be think that you won't allow him to return again, just like all the previous times?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I'm not sure... but I would never assume anything about anyone... I would always ask questions

[OlderAndWiser]

The best predictor of a person's future behavior is their past behavior.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I dont think thats true... if u base ur life off ur past then u could never mover forward... thats like saying that a person who has a criminal past can't do anything good to make their future better... or a stripper could never stop strippen... that is not a true statement at all... we r supposed to learn form our mistakes and mover forward and learn... we r not suppose to stay stuck in the past

[OlderAndWiser]

I never said that someone cannot change. I only said that past behavior is the BEST (not infallible) predictor of future behavior. If you ask an experienced psychologist or psychotherapist, at least 90% of them will strongly endorse my statement.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

That would mean that u r judging people based off their past and thats not right

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't wake up each morning and start anew as a tabula rasa. The person you are today is the cumulative result of everything that happened to you before today.

[es20490446e]

And there is your deception: thinking that a person may change.

You think that because YOU can change. Because you are genuinely willing to change, and probably your character is mostly healthy.

But when a person is a deceiver that's not the case. They don't really want to change, they just don't want the consequences. But they don't want to put the effort.

And that effort that for you appears reasonable, for them is very high. Because they have not the life experience of honesty you have.

People can change, if they are willing to, within certain margins. Everything else takes plenty of time and dedication.

But you waiting there to do so, putting your life and happiness in a lottery.

[Jessica405]

Let him go. Then find a new guy. There are some decent ones about.

[es20490446e]

I have been in a similar situation than you. I was with this woman for a year, and she treated me very poorly sometimes, and others she was the most loving person.

By talking a lot with her I expected things to improve over time. And it did somehow. But it was like going from 0 to 3.

One day I just realized the truth, which was:

- This person really doesn't care about me at all. She doesn't feel empathy. She only cares ultimately about getting what she wants.

- My empathy for her, which is generally a good trait, was being used against me. Me wanting to talk about things and solving issues was used against me.

- The important part wasn't what the other person was doing, but what I was doing by allowing it and why I was doing so.

- I was putting my well being below hers, where all the drama was actually created by her.

- The past showed a consistent pattern to repeat the same again an again, so it was safe to assume that the same will repeat again. Hence the choice is if it was something acceptable to live with.

You are with a con artist, and he's sending you into the darkest alley. I was lucky to saw it on time, you weren't. Still you will be better cutting your loses, or it will get worse.

Summary: Your well being is condition number one. Trust nobody that omits it.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/U_UyuMVCFQc

[es20490446e]

Also I was told to think like this, but I didn't believed it at the time.

I thought I was very prepared to anything, that I had a strong personality, and that this situation was special.

It wasn't special. It was just a deceiver.

[es20490446e]

Also you may need therapy, and not notice it.

The stress this creates is very subtle sometimes. You may not feel stressed, but you may do all kind of weird things that exhibit you are in survival mode and not thinking strategically.

Like skipping sleep, justifying the aggressor, avoiding people, etc.

[D_Bone_Steak]

He's probably up on Broke Back Mountain doing some butt stuff with the fellas.

Sucks a bunch of dick

Is this what gets him going before he makes another baby with you? He wouldn't happen to only want it doggy style, would he?

Like, has he ever called you 'Billy' or some other man's name during sex?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Naw none of that

[D_Bone_Steak]

Sorry... I was living in Japan and was out on a first date with this Japanese chick... it was before I learned out to read Japanese. That movie was playing and I thought it would be some Clint Eastwood type stuff... it wasn't. It was gay. Very Very gay. I didn't even get to bang that chick, because she probably thought I was a gay. That shit is burned into my brain and connected to a major fumble of the pussy in my life. Fuck that movie. No... wait... don't fuck it... that would be gay.

If I could've just read in English that it was about two men finding butt love in the mountains... I would've watched something else and been in that girl's vagina that night. Instead fuck I couldn't even speak Japanese back then...

"Betsu no eiga ni mitai ka? Sono no eiga gay as fuck desu. Look bitch, we got to get the fuck outta here, this shit is gay!" Horrible... horrible experience. It was worse than that one time I accidentally blew a guy's face off with my shotgun.

[Garud]

It is his duty to inform you before moving out, if he wanted so much freedom he should have never had children, warn him if he doesn't agree then go to court.
It is your fault too that you had so many children with such a useless man

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Even though that is hard to hear... it is my fault for being such a sap in my selection in such a man

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

However I do not nor will I ever regret having my babies

[AManOnTheWeb]

You need therapy. And I mean that in the kindest way possible, for your children's sake.

It's shocking to me that you were capable of ignoring so many obvious warning signs for so long. You are seriously miscalibrated about what are good qualities in a partner. My guess is that if a decent guy approached you next week, you'd reject him or sabotage it because you've become so accustomed to abuse and mistreatment that when a partner treats you with kindness and respect, it will feel alien and wrong.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I mean u have a right to ur opinion... however I would say thats y I'm in the situation that im in right now is because I didn't judge based off of how I've been treated in the past or by others... just because I'm able to over look some things doent mean I need therapy... at the end of the day in a relationship and for any relationship to last someone in that relationship is going to be over looking something its just a matter of how much a person can take... we are all human and not one person on this earth is perfect... everyone has made mistakes in their lives and some people wish that they had a 2nd chance, a do over, just to make shit right and never had that opportunity... so maybe I'm just a strong person and right now I have just had enough

[AManOnTheWeb]

Look how you're defecting though. We're not talking about the normal kinds of imperfections, like leaving the socks on the floor or forgetting to put the toilet seat down. He cheated on his wife with you--lying to both of you. That right there, to a properly. calibrated asshole compass, would have been more than enough for most women to run the other way.
It's like adopting a dog that had killed the previous owner's cat and then acting surprised when that same dog kills your cat. The guy is a piece of shit who lies and abandons his family, and you let it keep happening and had even more kids with the loser.
File for child support and then go get mental health support or this will keep happening, and it's going to screw up your kids, but maybe less so if you have mental health professionals helping you through it.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Again no on is perfect and the only way this can affect my kids is if they r going through it... he doing this stuff to me not my kids and had I known about his wife I would have never gotten wit him in the fist place... next I would like to address my mental health i am already seeing someone so saying all that doesn't mean anything to me... everyone has their point qhen enough is enough and im at my point and that is everyone... some people have a higher tolerance than others... an I hold my standards to no on but me

[AManOnTheWeb]

"an I hold my standards to no on but me" What does that even mean? You're delusional if you don't think your decisions are going to have a major impact on your kids.
Best of luck to you and your family.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

U can act as if ur perfect and u would know what to do if u was in my situation... how ever saying stuff and doing something when ur in it is two totally different things... everyone can say what they would do but until they r in the situation the words being said don't mean anything... also keep bring up my kids however and again he doing what he's doing to me and not them... my kids r happy they don't want or need for anything and unless someone says something to them about what their dad is doing to me they don't have a clue and that is the difference about being in the situation and just talking

[AManOnTheWeb]

I'm not perfect, but I have studied the abuse cycle, what it does to kids when the mom is emotionally abused and I see a lot of warning signs in your responses and behavior. There are professionals who specialize in helping people deal with this. I encourage you to seek one out and I wish the best for you and your family.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

U have studied but ur not an expert... and warning signs do not Necessarily mean thats wats happening... there r ways to get out before it does affect children and as an adult I have to make sure that I make that decision in time... also my kids don't see me down I don't do that around them because as I stated thats my problem and my burden to bear not theirs... it affects children when the parent or parents include them and make them a part of the problem which is not wats going on here

[Flower7]

He is living a secret life, probably with another woman.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

That would make me very sad to find out I've invested a lot into this relationship and also into him

[Flower7]

Might be other kids too.

[katiesmuff]

You have said nothing about what brings these disappearances on or where he goes, however it does lean towards this not being a good relationship. You need to work out financing for these 4 kids you and he produced and then go separate ways.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

He didn't say anything and we weren't fighting so I'm not sure where he is or what he is doing... we came home from church and he was gone and thats what I know

[katiesmuff]

Your my age and old enough to see that there seems to be zero communication between the two of you which that alone is a death sentence for a struggling marriage.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This man is fully expecting you to allow him to continue to be an unworthy POS. Leave him, your kids will be happier when you’re happy.

[nawtee_me]

File for a divorce and seek child support for the children. Enough is enough….

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Right

[nawtee_me]

If he wants to play around then make him pay to play.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

U right... and the sad part about it is we ain't even married

[itsannalee]

Ask him for explanation, if he refuses it let him go.
People who don’t apology are red flags 🚩

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I dont think I want to ask and I know for certain that he's not gonna apologize to me for nothing... I know he's not gonna tell me the truth... so I don't want to hear anymore lies

[Fireguy17]

there are kids involved.
relationships do not have a revolving door on them.
My guess is that if you take him back, he will only do it again and again.

[HelpfulWoman]

man is living his best life with no consequences to his actions.
do better for your kids

[Anonymous]

Let him go. But you will have to sue him for child support.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Let him go... he's been doing it for some time... If he didn't change then, why would he change now? 6 years...

[Pete671]

Work it out if you can, the kids are the important people here, maybe agree on a story like he's working in Europe or something?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I agree that my children matter the most... however I can't help but to think what about me... I can't support my children the way I want to support them if im not in my right state of mind

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

And I don't want to lie to my children either

[DJB72]

Change the locks and file for child support.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

He doesn't have any keys i took those away when he started acting funny

[DJB72]

Change them anyway

[Anonymous]

Well you know not to have sex out of marriahe. I would contact him and repent

[StevenMcGarrett]

But you need a relationship counselor.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I dont want one

[StevenMcGarrett]

Well, if you can't discuss a major problem in the relationship like him just randomly leaving and not discussing it. Then you kinda do need one.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

At this point we can't talk about anything when I was willing to talk nothing was ever on him it was me... trust has been broken to many times... so at this point I don't want to talk about anything with him... its not hard to send a message or to make a call and let someone know wats going on... people do it all the time whenever they feel like they need or want something

[StevenMcGarrett]

Oh, well if you don't want to talk to him, then he sounds like you've made up your mind on what you are going to do.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Yeah well like I said I've been wit him for 6 years and this isn't the first time... I have looked the other way many time over... the trust has been broken... tell me if u was in a relationship for as long as me and ur women has betrayed ur trust multiple times and u have tried to talk about it, u have looked the other way and it still keeps happening... how would u feel

[StevenMcGarrett]

Oh, I would have thrown her out of the house the first time.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

C what I mean... I have been thinking about it since I got home from church yesterday and he could have called and said something and guarantee he thought that I was gonna call him and ask questions about y... then he either wouldn't answer the phone until he wanted to or sent me msgs saying watever he thought that I would believe so that when he do decide to come back here he can get back into the house not caring if I believe him or not... not caring how I felt at all and expecting me to not ask any questions when he got back and to act like it didn't happen... and all I have is time right now to think about the situation and how its making me feel right now... anyone else would have never let him back the first time but I did... so its not like I didn't try to work it out or give him chances

[StevenMcGarrett]

Good luck. Where do you live?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Thanks im in Boston... hbu

[StevenMcGarrett]

I'm in Tampa. But I used to live in Manchester, NH

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Ok kool

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Y did u move down there

[StevenMcGarrett]

Lots of Dunkin Donuts there!

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

😁😁😁

[StevenMcGarrett]

I liked Manchester but I don't like to be cold so I moved where it is warm

[StevenMcGarrett]

I saw that there is a black ice warning in Boston. Hope you don't have to drive anywhere.

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Didn't c it so its probably not in my part of town

[StevenMcGarrett]

Yeah, I think it was more north of a Boston thing. So it will be wicked slippery out there. ;)

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Yeah but it home for me

[StevenMcGarrett]

Nice, you must make a good living to live in Boston.

[ehatsham_hussain]

Does it happen suddenly?
No argument before?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

Yes we had no argument... I went to church he said he was gonna stay home and clean and qhen we got back from church I noticed that he was gone... oh and I also noticed that he had unplugged our home cameras

[ehatsham_hussain]

Sorry ma'am, no clue but i hope best of luck for you 🤞

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds immature... dump his ass

[Rockey_the_bicker]

Does he have any affair with someone else?

[Snuggle_Bunnie]

I have had my suspensions about things but never had the time to dig or investigate... but with that being said I should be able to trust him... so