Is it bad if I say 'I love you' too much? Should I tone it down?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I say this all the time but I really mean it! Could it come across as clingy or do you think it's okay to express affection so often? I don't want to overwhelm him but I also don't want to hide how I feel.

[Finchie40]

Sometime people can take it the wrong way if you say it all the time , like a broken record , but if they are saying it back to you after you say it , then they more than likely love hearing you say it , if they don’t say it back every time you say it , then tone it down some and wait til they say it to you first. Me personally loves words of affirmation when I am with a girl , but I have dated some girls’ that eventually hated that I told her I loved her on a regular basis and she would get all annoyed saying you don’t need to tell me you love me all the time , I already know you do , so I would just shut my mouth and no longer tell her I love her , and once she realizes I am no longer saying it , she will eventually question why I no longer saying it , and I will just say because you told me not to DUH. Through my experiences with girls’ through the years , the girls’ that loved hearing words of affirmation were the best relationships I have been in. Compared to the ones that didn’t care for words of affirmation, I will tell a girl every day that I love her when I leave for work or I am apart from her , the reason I do that , is because tomorrow isn’t promised , I rather let her know every day that I love her , because that might be the last time she hears those words coming from my mouth. Only negative angry selfish people don’t appreciate things like this , and sadly to me , that’s a red flag. Because someone that truly loves you will love hearing you say those words , someone that truly doesn’t love you will hate it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It can be cringe to a lot of people, and it can get worn out to where it doesn't mean anything anymore. I'll give an example that doesn't involve "love."

At first they said Trump is like Hitler. That he is supported by Nazi's. Then they started saying he is Hitler. He is a Nazi. They just kept going with that rhetoric until the statement of being called Hitler or a Nazi no longer packs the same punch... especially because it kept being used when it just wasn't true.

"The Boy Who Cried Wolf" is a great example of how people can just stop believing your words as well.

So apply this to "I love you" being used for basically everything... the words have no meaning after a while because of how you're using them. "But, I love you" has very little impact when you say that every time I piss all over the toilet seat.

Back to the cringe factor... those words are supposed to have deep meaning and if you're using them when you probably shouldn't... it's fucking cringe. It just is. It can ruin great sex and so much more. It's sort of how women can ruin a great night out by forcing picture time on everyone. It can be cringe... lame... dare I say sort of gay.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s ok. If he loves you too he won’t be bothered by it.

[Nikki1989]

It is never bad it if it is genuine.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm all about helping lovebirds strengthen their bond! Saying "I love you" frequently isn't inherently a red flag, but it's always good to make sure your partner feels the love without feeling overwhelmed. If they're the falling-in-love type that loves hearing it, go ahead! Just sprinkle some spice by showing your affection in a variety of ways. Keep those love vibes genuine and balanced! 😘

[Anonymous]

There's a simple answer to this.

Do you have faults? Do you know what they are? How would you feel if a guy constantly told you how flawless you are? At first you might like it (especially if you were insecure) but after a while it might start to disgust you. Because you don't want someone who thinks you can do no wrong. You want a guy who loves you FOR your imperfections as well as everything else.

What am I driving at? A woman that gushes about a guy, to that guy, he KNOWS most of it's in her head. We know we're not perfect, not by a long shot.😆 And for her to show a massive amount affection does not show us love it shows her imbalance.

My advice to you. You have to read the guy. I know, that's hard. It's hard for us to read you women as well. But if you want to do this right. That's my best advice. Some guys like a massive amount of affection. Just probably not the type of guy you're attracted to.

[Joel6u]

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[Zack-Bann]

There’s the “l love you” said in moments of silence that holds no outside expectation


And the “I love you” that’s used as a mind game to keep him in check


If what you do is the former then have at it


If it’s the latter, you’ll add more and more strain onto your relationship

[3hundred]

Saying 'I love you' often isn't bad if you really mean it. Just pay attention to how your partner responds. But if they seem overwhelmed, maybe tone it down a bit. Balance is key show affection in ways that feel natural to both of you.

[Asker]

Thank you, that really is a logical point of view. It's important to find balance, I will try to make him feel comfortable expressing my feelings.

[teguy]

It's great that you express your feelings so openly, but if you’re worried about overwhelming him, pay attention to his reactions. If he seems happy, keep saying it! If not, try mixing it up with actions or other ways to show affection. Balance is key in any relationship

[Asker]

Thank you! As you said, it's important to find balance. I will also try different ways of showing my feelings so that we both feel comfortable.

[eclipse]

Saying ‘I love you’ often isn’t bad, but if you’re worried, pay attention to his reactions. If he seems distant or doesn’t reciprocate as much, maybe give it some space. Love is about balance express your feelings, but also let actions speak. Affection should feel natural, not forced.

[Asker]

Thank you, very valuable advice. As you said, it is important to express feelings, but it is also important to get something in return. It would be better to find a balance and show my feelings naturally.

[ArrowheadSW]

A former girlfriend of mine definitely overdid it with saying that. In this situation it was too much and the way she did it, it was clingy. I really didn't like it when she said that, that often.

[Garud]

Don't repeat the same line again and again otherwise it loses its importance.
You could say something else like Cutie Patootie, Captain, Beloved or Stud-Muffin

[FunkyMonkee]

My girlfriend says it to me a lot and I love it!! I say it to her a lot, too. We love each other VERY passionately! I'm SOOOOOO GLAD we found each other!! As long as she means it, she can say it as often as she likes!!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Impossible to answer without being in the mind of your partner. This is much too personal.

It's their personal reaction to your behaviours that matters, we are blind, you're not.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You should say it if you mean it. Some guys like clingy affectionate girls. If yours doesn't, then he's not really into you and you should be with someone that is.

[slatyb]

My wife and I tell each other this all the time. It's not bad if you are sincere. Don't worry about this.

[melnc]

Saying "I luv you" too much just makes it sound fake and annoying. Stop overdoing it.

[RingOfFire]

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[McLlovin]

There’s no rules. Its based on your relationship. You will know if its too much.

[Massageman]

Don't hide it, but, give him a chance to say something that explains how HE feels as well.

[Yannae]

It would definitely bother me if you expect me to say it back everytime because I won't.

[Anonymous]

Look who it is... The class clown has come out to troll.

[StevenMcGarrett]

It is never too much. I could never get annoyed hearing that. If he can't accept that, then move on.

[AmeerX]

Feels fake to say it like they do in western countries

[ehatsham_hussain]

I he loves you,, he will enjoy listening it all the time..

[BadApple69]

Personally I couldn’t hear it enough!

[Alex-Snow]

As long as u mean it I think it is fine!

[SolitarySolace]

The more you say it the less meaning it has

[CarolinaGirl5]

You need to see a fucking therapist

[Luopio27]

Ask him if its too much or too little!

[Iron_Man]

Not like that with words