“I feel accused of something I didn’t do, and it’s making me consider leaving the relationship. How can I address this with my partner?”?

[Greeneazy]

I’ve been in this relationship for a while, and we have a 5-year-old daughter. On Saturday, I took her to the mall to buy items for a picnic planned for the next day with her and her mom. While there, we bumped into Santa, and my daughter wanted a picture. I asked about the price and got her a few photos. It was a fun day for her.

When we got home, I shared the pictures with her mom, and she seemed fine. A couple of hours later, while I was in the bathroom, I heard a commotion. Her mom sounded angry, and my daughter was crying. I came out and asked what was going on. Her mom suddenly shouted, “Jany got r*ped!”

I was shocked and asked, “When? How? What?” She claimed it happened at the mall. I told her that wasn’t possible because I always keep a close eye on my daughter—she’s never out of my sight. She insisted we go to the hospital for a checkup, so we did.

At the hospital, while I was filling out forms, her mom spoke to the doctor. When I joined them, the doctor asked me to step out. This surprised me because I’m very involved in my daughter’s care—I help her change for swimming lessons, bathe her, and get her dressed. I thought her mom would say it was okay for me to stay, but I stepped out.

Later, her mom messaged me to come back in, but the doctor whispered to her, excluding me from the details. On the way home, I suggested checking the mall’s surveillance footage and my car’s tracker to prove we didn’t stop anywhere else.

I feel hurt and shaken by how I was treated. What happens if I don’t have proof next time? Can I take my daughter anywhere without being accused of something so terrible? Is it safe for me to be alone with her?

This has left me scared and uncomfortable. I’m afraid to touch or care for my daughter, even though I’ve always done so without issue. I’m seriously considering leaving this relationship because I no longer feel trusted or safe.

What happens if this happens again? What if…?

[Finchie40]

Sounds like you had a baby with a severe mental case , you have every right to want to end that relationship, I went through the same shit with my ex , the mother of my children , who accused me of things like that with our children as well , my mouth would drop , when she would say fucked up things like that, to the point I lost all respect for her , that she could even consider or assume something so fucked up like that whatsoever. I would look her right in the eyes , and tell her she needs serious mental therapy big time , cuz you are completely fucked up in the head. I know you felt completely uncomfortable and embarrassed by being accused of something you clearly didn’t do. My ex used to go get off on hurting me for whatever sick reason. So I ended up hurting her in return by leaving her sorry ass and meeting someone else that treated me like Gold , My ex was begging and begging for me to give her another chance , apologizing for her mental selfish behavior , I told her No for a long time until stupid me eventually gave her another chance, thinking things might be different and I wanted my kids’ to have both parents’ as well , things were going good with her and I for awhile , until she flipped on me again , so I ended it again and not giving her another chance whatsoever, the girl is a complete wack job that needs shock treatment or some shit. Do yourself a favor man, and leave that psycho and try your best to get full custody of your kid , and document every psychotic episode your ex has. Document that she accused you of raping your child as well. If you aren’t married to her and she doesn’t work , you will more than likely get custody. Lucky for me my kids’ are old enough to tell their Mom they wanted to be with me , they knew how psychotic their Mom is.

[Greeneazy]

I appreciate you. Thank you so much for this.

[Finchie40]

No problem man., females’ can sadly turn a good man into a bad man because she is a psychotic mental case that needs mental therapy big time. Most females’ do not take accountability for their selfish actions and behaviors , they always try to play a victim and clearly they are the POS. I wish someone told me this shit when I was going through this with my ex , I honestly felt like love would save the day but all it did was leave Sucker written on my head to the point I no longer accept a selfish psychotic female into my life that accuses me of shit that she projects in her sick mind onto me. There are way better girls’ out there man , never settle for mental basket cases period Check her medicine cabinet if you have to , Find yourself a submissive girl that cherishes you the same way you cherish her. And you will be a happy man. Never let a girl walk over you period. A good girl will bring happiness into your life a bad fork will turn you life to a living hell if you stay with that psycho

[Loki97]

I mean if she could think that of you why stay? For the kid? It’s not worth a woman who will make you feel how you feel. Sure it’s both your responsibility to tell each other how your feeling and if she’s unsympathetic then leave.

[Greeneazy]

Yeah! I'd stay for the kid. I want to be a good father.

[Loki97]

You can still be a good father from a distance it is more harmful on a child to remain in happy with someone however again if you can work it out, pull your balls out of your chest and man up and confront your woman. Then that will determine your best path because either she will see the error in her decisions or she will act like she was justified and entitled and you know that is not the woman you need in your life and tbh your child’s life either

[Jessica405]

She has trashed your trust. Sadly, your daughter will be the one to suffer most.

You have to tell your partner how you feel, and ask her for an explanation of why she virtually accused you of a serious crime. You also need to know what the doctor said to her. She has to explain everything.

This will be a long road back to trusting her. It may be the road willmlead to a dead end...

[Iron_Man]

Well what did the results say

[Greeneazy]

Results are negative. She didn't get r*aped. It's just a normal illness toddlers catch.

[Iron_Man]

Then don’t fool with the other woman anymore just spend time with the daughter

[Greeneazy]

I'm still having a hard time accepting the way she treated me. How could she possibly think I'm capable of something so terrible. I'm sad, and getting depressed.

[Iron_Man]

That’s horrible. I wouldn’t fool with her anymore after what she did. Did she call the police to? Why would she think that your daughter got raped by you? That sounds kind of like a set up. You can actually sue somebody like that for slander.

[Greeneazy]

No, she didn't call the police.

She said my daughters socks were low, and her private area was red. Even my daughter told her she was playing with her socks. She's is unemployed. There's a chance she won't be able to pay dime

[Iron_Man]

She probably needs help mentally

[Nikki1989]

If you can find the time to post a long-winded rant on here, you can find time to discuss this with your partner.

[Greeneazy]

The context totally went over your head

[strateguy632]

But she didn't accuse you.

[Greeneazy]

I trust her with my daughter. I believe she will do everything in her power to protect her. If anything happend to my daughter. Having private conversations will make her feel alienated. She will feel like she's being blamed for whatever happened.

[HДLILБΞУ]

talk among yourselves..

[Greeneazy]

Every time I look at her.
I feel like saying "it's over, we are done" and get out of her life forever.