My girlfriend doesn’t love me. Should I confront her about it or just let it go?

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I feel like my girlfriend doesn’t love me anymore. We had an amazing start, but recently things have changed. She’s distant, distracted, and when I express how I feel, she accuses me of being controlling or uncaring. She even told me she doesn't know why she loves me. Why is this happening, and should I confront her about it?

lorenzomichael · Accepted Answer

Have some balls to do something she’ll never forget. But before you do you need to come to grips and say to yourself fuck it this relationship is over and get over it don’t be a pussy. There are too girls out there to be sadden by one. And if you can’t remember do that this is what you do take it to a nice restaurant for lunch or dinner doesn’t matter or whatever you want. Have you eaten your food? Tell her you need to go to the bathroom then excuse yourself and then walk out the front door get your car to leave. That’s what she’ll get for treating you like shit.
I’ve done it and I never looked back and she’ll never forget it as long as she lives. And just maybe she’ll never treat another partner like that ever again. However, like I said, if you don’t have no balls or guts for this, then stay a pussy and don’t do it. By the way good luck.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I would say that this relationship has been over for a while she’s just too cowardly to end it or she’s gaining something from you…. Or she’s worried that if she ends it with you who she gonna be with next.

I don’t think you need to get a exclamation from her. Tell her how you feel and all the things you said. Tell her it’s best that we move on and find someone we’re both happy with.

You will never be happy with someone like that. If you can’t communicate with her then she isn’t worth it.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

Well first I will say, make sure you are right and this isn’t just a passing feeling making you think you are sure about something if you really are not. Have you felt the same every day for weeks? If your opinion changes often maybe this is just a bad day somehow?

But if you are sure, then I think it is time to move on. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and makes you happy, everybody deserves that. JMO good luck!

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

Why? Either she doesn't love you anymore or is being manipulative. Neither is indicative of a healthy relationship. Whether you break up or not, at least get yourself into therapy to figure out why you are in this situation and make sure you don't repeat it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic chapter in the relationship novel—"Where Did the Love Go?" 😊 My aim here on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate those twists and turns of romance. It sounds like you're dealing with some serious emotional turbulence! If she's giving off those distant vibes, it's time for some honest communication. Approach it with empathy and see if you two can rediscover the connection. After all, confronting with love is the way to light up that spark again. Don't let those red flags have the last word. Best of luck, love! 🌟

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Yes, you absolutely should confront her. I'm sorry you're going through this. But yes, there is only one move here.

I know it's still a difficult thing to do, even though you know the relationship is no longer one that makes you happy.

You cannot stay with someone who makes you feel that way. It's not good for you. "she doesn't know why she loves me" is not something ANY boyfriend should ever hear. That's as sure a sign as anything that it's time to move on.

Let me be clear... I'm telling you to confront her as in break up with her and move on. There is no confronting her and saving this relationship. Not once it's deteriorated to this point. I'm sorry.

NOT confronting her would be a terrible move. How would that work? You stay in this relationship where you do not feel heard when you try and tell you how you feel, she's distant and distracted, and said to your goddamn face "she doesn't know why she loves you"... well DOES she love you? It sounds like if she does, you're not feeling it.

There's no reason to stay once things have rotted. Not unless she tries really hard to convince you things can be worked out when you break up (do not count on it.). And then, only if you think it's worthwhile to try and work through things.

As soon as practical... yea... confront her and break up with her. Really it's the breaking up and moving on part that's critical. Confront her or not as per your own feelings. Go for it if it'll make you feel better.

Just get the fuck outta there as soon as practical. Sorry you're going through this man.

🙂

Finchie40 · Answer

Just move on from her , why stay with someone that clearly doesn’t love you? She only loves what she can receive from you but when it comes down to your feelings she doesn’t give a shit. Do yourself a favor man and move on , there are plenty of girls’ out there that love like you love , never settle for anyone that can’t give the same in return

Rosexøxø · Answer

I don't know how long you been with her but I just recommend pulling away. You gotta love yourself enough to do that and spend your time better.

AviatorTom · Answer

You can't make someone love you.

Lowly_Grumper · Answer

Ah, young grasshopper! Relationship like bamboo grove in typhoon—bend or snap! If flower no longer face sun, perhaps roots tangled in shitstorm of miscommunication. You, like eager gardener, water with tears and fertilize with doubt. But flower must choose to bloom, or become compost for next fiery biscuit.

Confrontation is double-edged katana—slice truth from lies, but risk cutting own balls. If heart say "karate chop," then strike with honesty, but hold fist gentle as cherry blossom. If she deflect like seasoned sensei, then know path of warrior is lonely, yet dong remains mighty.

Remember, love like drunken crane—balance tricky, but flight possible. If she no flutter, become phoenix, rise from ashes of heartbreak! Boom boom short time, then find new dojo of passion!

OneViewpoint · Answer

Get off the train at the next stop. Do it like a gentleman. Admit it didn't work and wish her well finding someone she can love. And exit the train. She's broken and you can't fix her. She doesn't respect you.
Why stick around? For how long? Where's this train headed? Give her what she wants!

And DO NOT reverse direction when her fear of being alone kicks in and she suddenly becomes less accusing and more conciliatory. That'll last 2 weeks or 2 months while she searches for your replacement. Get out and go find your replacement for her.

chiquita · Answer

If she's acting distant and doesn't know why she loves you, that’s a huge red flag. It sounds like she might be checked out emotionally. Confronting her might not help, especially if she's already defensive. You deserve someone who shows you love and appreciation, not someone who makes you question your worth. Time to reassess.

celticman · Answer

Bro, she straight-up told you she doesn’t know why she loves you that’s not a phase, that’s a warning sign. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn’t make you feel like a burden. Don’t beg for love that isn’t there. Confronting her won’t change anything; just walk away with your dignity intact.

cigarette · Answer

that’s a tough spot to be in. But honestly, if you have to question whether she loves you, the answer is usually pretty clear. Instead of confronting her, take a step back and observe her actions. Love isn’t something you should have to beg for it should be felt. Know your worth and don’t settle for less.

alice55 · Answer

Well to me it sound like she love you but feel like you're the one who don't love her so she wait for you to prove that you love her. Maybe organize a day where you take her out on a date and stuff.

Cormac995 · Answer

Some of those are indicators of potentially her cheating but if she isn't you need to tell her "we need to have a real discussion about us." If she won't talk to you and refuses to open up and work on the issues in the relationship dump her.

Miristheiss · Answer

If she doesn't love you then why stay? by the way, love is an act, an action. It isn't just a feeling. No one will ever FEEL in love all the time. But they should take the daily actions and decisions to love their mate.

MisterWack · Answer

sit her down calmly and tell her how you feel, ask her if she loves you…. Tell her everything on your mind in a calm tone and if she doesn’t give you what will make you feel good then you should just walk away & break up.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you don't feel loved. Regardless of whether she actually loves you or not. However if she's being completely dismissive of your feelings when you raise them, it's very difficult to resolve the problem and being in a relationship on your own is very hurtful.
You need to decide if there is enough underlying love to tough the situation out or whether you are better finding someone more suitable and who wants to build with you.

HungTexan · Answer

All relationships go through stages. If you love her, just make an extra effort to show her, and do little things you know she likes. I’m assuming the sex is fine?

Kelley1 · Answer

Dump her and find another girlfriend. Hides near your age are a dime a dozen and it only takes a few days to replace her.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Perhaps you have become the feminine energy in the relationship. You need to walk away from this.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Therapist? Either she makes effoet or doesn't. She sounds like she's stuck.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

She probably found someone else.. Just ditch her..

Ariesman81 · Answer

Let it go man. Don't be the guy that wants to talk about feelings.  Get into the mindset of what the relationship isn't doing for you. Stop trying to save something that isn't working for you.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Don't say anything and don't contact him, I'm sure he won't even care about what you say.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Hear that? That's the bells. They toll for thee. Cut your losses.

rienna888 · Answer

She just said she loves you lol. Give her some space and try again

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She is banging some other guy but wants you to breakup with her, so she can call you the bad guy.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Let her go

Anonymous · Answer

Can't choose who you love. Cannot force it.

onedarkcloud · Answer

Novel idea just leave it is not going to get any better

Crazzyyworld · Answer

she loves you no more. Find other girl. There are plenty of fish in the ocean

Twalli · Answer

I don't think I can explain why I love my girlfriend that well. It's not easy/

orange_roach · Answer

You already did and she reacted negatively to it. That right there is your answer to leave.

Priya99999 · Answer

Maybe she has got other priorities, or maybe she doesn't trust you?

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Break up with her.

tzdc21 · Answer

Time to dump her.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

DUMP DA DAISY !!!

MikeRJ · Answer

You need to talk to her.

Anonymous · Answer

She found new more exciting dik.

Eros91 · Answer

Let her go.

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