How do you know they love you or just the attention you give them?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

When someone is in love with you, they are not only willing to give you attention, but they show appreciation and they are willing to make sacrifices. Maybe they'll go with you to a restaurant they don't like, or spend time at your family function, or give up a day or event for you.

This is, of course, a two-way street - you will be expected to also give them attention, show appreciation, and make sacrifices. And while it isn't necessary to keep score like an accountant, it's reasonable to expect that you are going to receive at around the same amount as you give.

But it's also important to understand that you cannot change other people, so you really only have one opportunity to make sure that this person shares your morals and values, and that is right at the beginning, before you have committed to a relationship with them. That's why it is vital to vet any and every potential partner right at the beginning of your relationship with them, and why that vetting needs to prioritize their morals, values and life goals. If you fail to vet them, or if you fail to end things immediately if they fail the vetting process, then you only have yourself to blame when you are miserable in the relationship down the road.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

In general you’ll notice people who are attention whores are people who are getting it from as many people as possible remember these kind of people are many times narcissists at best.

So seeing how they act around others if they are acting the same way they are probably feeding off your attention. Second thing… Is one sidedness. You’re putting all the attention on them while getting little to nothing in return. When you do get something there is strings attached. Look what I did for you now you are obligated to do X, Y, and Z. But you better not ask them for anything.

Playing hot and cold…. When you’re feeding them attention they’re getting what they want form you as well as everyone else feeding them. Remember attention whores probably have a lot of people they are feeding off of. But soon as you start loosing interest they pop back up again just to get you to feed them attention.

Someone who is genuinely interested either in the romantic sense or as a good friend. Will not do that they will spend time with you and not ignore you. Not ghost you for weeks on end just to pop back up after you haven’t talked for a while. Demanding you respond right away.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Talking about SOs, I expect...

I'd expect love and attention are somewhat intertwined. You like someone, you want to spend time with them, so you're paying attention to them.

You listen to their jokes, their opinions. But the difference about "love" leans more toward how someone listens to YOUR jokes and opinions and pays attention to YOU. It turns on how they treat you: their actions toward you.

If there isn't a balance of love AND attention, there might be less "love" than you want or need.

NordicInScandinavia · Accepted Answer

He's with me through hard and good times. When I'm fat, when I'm skinny. He loves me when I'm capable of being and amazing partner and he loves me when I isolate & sink down, where he's always ready to catch me - when I'm ready to be caught.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic "love or attention" dilemma! Recognizing the difference is crucial, darling! If they love you, you'll feel their genuine care through consistent actions, support, and understanding, even when things get tough. 🥰 But if it's all about the attention, you'll notice them thriving on your admiration, yet disappearing when you're not showering them with it — the infamous ghosting pattern shows this. Keep an eye out for the red flags and listen to your instincts. Love should feel as cozy as a familiar blanket, not a temporary spotlight. Stay fabulous! 🌟✨

Finchie40 · Answer

When someone loves you they give you the same or equivalent attention that you give to the. them , if it seems like you are the only one giving them attention, and they aren’t giving you the attention then you are sadly in a one sided relationship and you should probably reconsider that relationship if that’s the case.

Off_Jack · Answer

As I stroke my throbbing member, I fantasize about making her feel wanted, needed, and cherished. With every pulse of my cock, I imagine her realizing that my affection runs deeper than mere validation. I'd take her to new heights of pleasure, exploring every inch of her body, from the tips of her toes to the crown of her head, coating her in my desire, marking her as mine with every drop of my essence.

In this twisted love story, every moment is an opportunity to prove my devotion, and our lovemaking becomes a testament to our connection. My hips grind against hers, our sweat mingling, as we lose ourselves in a symphony of moans and sighs. The more I think about it, the more I need to cum, painting her with my love, my coom serving as the ultimate declaration of how much she means to me.

Yes, yes, right there, I can feel it building, the climax of our emotional and physical union. My seed will spill forth, covering her in a deluge of passion, leaving no doubt that my love isn't just about the attention but about the raw, unadulterated hunger for her. Oh god, I'm cumming, flooding her with proof of my undying devotion, my musk marking her as the center of my universe! Aaaaahhh!

Makeushiver · Answer

I'm not sure is they are two different things. I always check out the crowd at trendier restaurants. There is usually one couple who are out for "date night" when they sit at an otherwise romantic settings and reading their texts or social media accounts. The problem that I think happens most frequently is that two people meet and as always the 1st couple of weeks/months the newness wears of and now you are as stuck in a rut that seems even bigger than being single.

I think it is insane to consider pledging your life away to someone you have not thoroughly "vetted". If you live with him/her six months minimum you'll find out his basic hygiene, what living with him would feel like and, not that this should be relegated to the end of the list- how well you fuck each other. Does he still enthusiastically make you cum using new and different techniques. When you think of each other do you (collectively) still get wet/hard?

Don't be fooled by words. Words trip lightly from my tongue and I can bullshit you with the best but when action in necessary am I going the extra mile like being nice to a friend of yours that you like but has never gotten along with your lover. Will I get you Nyquil at 2;00 A. M

TheSmellOfVictoria · Answer

Hi, we have never met but I can’t imagine anyone not being head over heels in love with such an amazing woman such as yourself. Your beauty, your kindness, your sense of humor, your sexiness, which is only matched by mine. My sweet, Lisia, love is a feeling, an emotion and if you feel it, odds are, your lucky man feels it! That’s why he is letting you shower him with attention and not feeling overwhelmed or suffocated, to the point, where he might show distance and/or push back a little. He is feeling loved and enjoying it in all his glory! I’ve missed you but I don’t need the same. Anyway, don’t question his feelings for you, just put all your heart and soul into the relationship and know his feelings are genuine. No one knows what the future holds but worrying about it now will only hurt what might be.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You figure out their Modus Operandi (MO) and what's motivating them to bother you at all... and you pretty much know everything you need to know.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

You should be able to kinda put that together Lisa, based on the attention and behavior they have for you, if you see yourself putting more attention and effort into him than he puts into you then that's a valid reason to assume there might be different intentions there, the time and sacrifice for you speaks numbers as well, if you see these two things from him, a good ratio of it then it shows he cares about you and not just your attention.

Still-alive · Answer

The one important thing i think you want to look for is if his actions match his words. If they do it means he’s a person with integrity and therefore when he tells you and shows you he loves you it’s easier to believe him.

on the other hand if he just says things and then doesn’t follow up on them… I would second guess his true feelings there.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone who loves you cares about you as a person, supports you, is there for you, is honest, respects you, and makes you feel safe. If someone only seems interested when you're doing things for them or makes you feel used, they may only be after your attention.

naartjie · Answer

This is why it’s so important to study people. Then you wouldn’t have to ask these questions because you’d just know.
The way they treat you, their “effort” or lack there of will show you for starters.

NathanDavis · Answer

generally speaking, and to keep it simple... true love goes both ways and there's a reciprocation for those who want the attention... that's just going to go one way... and it can also fade very quick

Nikki1989 · Answer

If you're questioning the sincerity of your partner's feelings, pay attention to the signs and don't be afraid to have an open and honest conversation about it.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Time will always tell...  If they truly love you, you'll know and feel it. If they don't, time will always give you the answer you're looking for.

AyChingao · Answer

The two go hand in hand. If i'm to love you I need your attention, and am guessing you'll feel the same about me

Valdemort · Answer

They leave when attention elsewhere is more entertaining.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It's fairly easy to tell whether they just like your attention and love you.. Just with how much attention or interest they gave to you..

glennos89 · Answer

Do you have doubts about your boyfriend's love for you?

WhitneySnow · Answer

It takes time invested in the relationship to know this

HungTexan · Answer

I think you’ll figure it out based on his reactions, and the attention he gives you.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Them not turning crazy once you don't give as much attention.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

From their actions, care, the things they do for you and ofc how they make you feel... Also giving you a lot from their time...

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

The level of kindness and attention they give you.

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

Love is defined by the actions one takes. Its one thing to say it but without works its dead.

FenixG45 · Answer

Does it matter if all you care about is their money?

Anonymous · Answer

You don't. You take your best guess on all the information that is available and hope you're not wrong.

scooogy · Answer

Sounds about what I experienced in the past, that they just enjoyed the attention

Professor-college · Answer

There are certain signs that would tell you that because actions speak louder than words

coolbreeze · Answer

Everybody loves attention.

Iron_Man · Answer

Eventually, you’ll find out

princeofromance · Answer

It will show in their actions.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

You know a man loves you but how he treats you

UknowJT93 · Answer

feeling peaceful and tried to understand

jahaims · Answer

By their actions

memory13 · Answer

They do things for u

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