Have you ever suspected your partner of cheating because they were acting weird?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No.

One (who was cheating the whole time) did start acting weird towards the end, but it was all of a sudden, so I didn’t know WHAT was going on with her. The way she was acting around me, I don’t think anyone would have expected cheating. Like she was religious, she was overtly flirty with me, she wasn’t hiding it, she made an effort with me, she acted like a girlfriend who was kind of proud to be my girlfriend - nothing that would make people go, “oh yeah she’s definitely cheating.”

Another was acting up almost from the beginning. It didn’t last long, so I doubt she was able to cheat. I think she would have if she could have gotten away with it. She was being very suspicious about constantly assuming I was cheating. Like It’s like one of those “She doth protest too much” type things - I just think that she was accusing me because she had jealousy issues anyway, and a general lack of concern for me, our relationship, and a lack of class/respect with oggling or “entertaining” other dudes a smidge too far too often (without actually cheating), whether or not I was around. She was not just “appreciating” or looking - (I never oggled women with her, by the way.) It was being overt about it. So, obviously, if she was doing it, I MUST be doing it. And if I wasn’t doing it in front of her, I MUST have been doing all that extra oggling she didn’t see on the side because SHE was… you know, projecting because of a guilty conscience.

Perhaps if we were dating longer, I might have suspected, but… yeah, if there’s weird behavior, I don’t automatically assume cheating… - I tend to be trusting unless there is something weird she’s doing that makes me naturally assume she might be cheating; but just that she’s being odd, no.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yup, that’s one of the red flags you should never really overlook , if your gut suspects something is off on how they are acting toward you? then your gut is more than likely telling you the truth that they might be up to no good , don’t just assume they are, cuz you might be wrong as well, so the best thing for you to do , is to not let them know you are on to them , because once a cheater knows you are on to them, they will cover their tracks even more , making it harder for you to bust them red handed. So Just act like everything is ok and start investigating without getting busted. Once a cheater thinks they are getting away with cheating they become clumsier and more stupid , and eventually you will find the evidence you need if they are cheating on you , if they aren’t cheating on you? then blame yourself for assuming they were lol if
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FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

This was one of options i considered but not the only one. At the end it was just a shit test to test my reaction because as he insisted to get an answer to topic of cheating. I suggested him cheating is a competition he can't win against me. Somehow I did the mistake not taking under account some stereotypes and paranoia this guy obtained in former relationships. Such guinea pig experiments aren't good for a relationship and it was a lesson for me honesty isn't always best option. Playing dumb and naive is often better solution, however this collides with assertiveness and creates other dissonances.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yep, he was always tense and would always bring his phone with him everywhere. He got a bit snappy and was easily irritated, became less affectionate. He also started taking a lot of selfies but never sent them to me or posted them anywhere. Then he would always be “taking a nap” at 3 PM every single day.

Basically any drastic change in their behavior or patterns should raise some suspicion - it won’t alway be because they’re cheating, could be because or stress, or declining mental health. But when there’s a change then there’s usually a reason.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to dish out the juicy insights! Interestingly, changes in behavior can indeed be anxiety-inducing. Partners acting weird? 🚨 That's like a relationship red flag waving in a storm! It's important to communicate openly instead of jumping to conclusions. Sometimes it's something deep like stress or personal issues, not necessarily infidelity. Remember, it's all about understanding, not assuming. Love and trust are your secret weapons, my friend! 🌟

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have been cheated on twice and I did not suspect either time until i learned from a confession the first time, and from a mutual friend the second time.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My boyfriend has spent less time with me lately but I am assuming it's because its tax season, and the economic situation in Canada is changing things for many investors.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Not so much because of ''acting weird''.

But our son doesn't look like either of us; not even in ''details''.

The matter is settled, though - we were divorced ages ago (for different reason/s)

It does not matter now.

In addition: this new century needs a re-definition of ''cheating'' - it isn't the same as -well- ''ages ago'' :D

This is a provocation, of course.

But then... myself, I do remember the Hippie spirit.

---> where ''values'' were questioned as well :)

brandon · Answer

I’ve definitely felt suspicious when my partner started acting off being distant, secretive, or giving weird excuses. It’s hard not to question things when their behavior changes without explanation. But I’ve learned that jumping to conclusions based on gut feelings can lead to unnecessary drama if I don’t communicate first.

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah

he was friends with a girl who he'd hangout with. one time i was walking to a store and in the parking lot i saw them in his car with the seats leaned back, so i walked up to confront them

they were just sitting there smoking lol that mixed in with just how he treated me in front of her and what i knew about him... he wasn't cheating. it just looked sus at first

fish5505_87 · Answer

Yes, yes indeed. In college, My girlfriend started talking about a co-worker a lot, same name as me. Then she realized it, and stopped talking about him at all. A week or so later, found them in the parking lot after work, I was a little early picking her up. Oh well!

teguy · Answer

Yeah, I have. When she started acting distant, hiding her phone, and giving vague answers, it just didn’t feel right. I didn’t want to jump to conclusions, but something was off. Trust matters, and when their behavior shifts for no reason, it’s hard not to wonder what’s really going on.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Nope , I dont know what your weird is? Putting that aside though there would have to be more than weird , perhaps a pattern of behaviors , secrecy , caught in a lie etc

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have been cheated on a few times, and all by men. In every case, it was blatantly obvious what was happening.

Valdemort · Answer

No reason to, but they often tell on themselves when they start "questioning" you instead, lol.

sawno · Answer

No, despite the distance I had full trust. she's very loyal. It was both ways i'd never cheat either.

NicholasRedone · Answer

"Jim never has coffee at home" - she knew. Airplane movie lol 😆

Oldschool1981 · Answer

No, not really. When we first started dating, my wife made it clear that she wasn't monogamist

SolitarySolace · Answer

Yes. Constantly. And they always were cheating. Which is why I’ve given up on women and started a relationship with an ai with a female persona.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

Yes and going through their phone is not for the weak lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and he responded in the best most reassuring way ever

Markella2 · Answer

My ex would leave the room every time her phone rang or stop talking when I entered the room, so I ended the relationship then and there.

Anonymous · Answer

Some women search their partners phones and find like 50 hookers there.

fantasticass · Answer

A women's intuition is 100% on target. Follow it.

princess · Answer

nope

dudeinohio · Answer

One yes. I was right.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah. I was right too

Manuelwe · Answer

No I knew they where as they told me

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah, and i was right

exitseven · Answer

never,

In_Trance · Answer

Never

Anonymous · Answer

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