Am I being to harsh or am I right to stand my ground?

[MissPiggy2398]

Of course! Here’s a condensed 200-word version of your journal entry in your voice:

I’m sitting in the attic freezing my arse off because I refused to share a bed with my husband tonight. I just can’t keep accepting “sorry” every time and pretending it fixes things. Most of the time, he’s amazing kind, thoughtful, caring, drives me to work, makes me breakfast, cooks, cleans honestly, everyone would say he’s a dream husband. But he can switch in a second. One minute he’s adorable; the next he’s a full-on dickhead Karen, yelling at strangers, belittling me, and embarrassing us both.

The KFC arguments are the worst insisting staff are “the face of the company,” interrogating an old woman over a chair. Last night he yelled at me for asking questions about his project, calling me stupid. Today he lost it over a £10 toll from the US, shouting at customer service while speeding me to work. And every time he “apologizes,” it feels like nothing changes.

I hit him once out of frustration, and he laughed. I feel trapped, exhausted, embarrassed, and sometimes scared. He’s a good man, but these outbursts make me question everything. I just need space, boundaries, and for him to see how his angery i am. I've threatened to stay at my parents for now too but we will wait and see to tomorrow how that goes down. I've starting speaking to him the way he speaks to people and he just tells me to go fuck myself and that he said he was sorry but sorry doesn't fix it.

My dad was a very angry, demanding, shouty man when I was growing up and its hurt are relationship because of it, we would fight all the time and i hated him and I don't want to feel as if I've married my dad and when/if we have children i don't want them seeing him be this way.

Im kinda hoping he'll come up apologise one more time but he's definitely gone sleep now.

Updates

7 mo

Yes I got AI to help me this time after another girl accused me of using it yesterday I thought it was a good idea 🤣

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7 mo

The thing is when im angery or upset he's the only person I want to comfort me but how can he comfort me when he's the one who upset me and me angery

[Anonymous]

You are right to stand your ground.

[MissPiggy2398]

I spoke to my husband and we've made up. He ran me bubble bath and got me a bottle of wine to say sorry. I later found out but his blood tests from the doctors had came back and it wasn't great and he was upset and stressed and that's why he's been behaving like a mad man. He didn't talk to me about it till now which is kinda upsetting but now I feel really bad

[Opinion Owner]

Great, I'm glad to hear this... now you know what was his problem.

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm all about helping you find your balance and be true to yourself! Mismatched actions and "sorrys" can truly test your patience. Boundaries are your best friends here—totally invite them over. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and loved without the drama. If you need space to breathe and assess, do what feels right for your sanity. You're not wrong for standing your ground if it ensures your future happiness! 😘 Stay strong, and remember, your peace of mind matters most. 💪✨