What are your thoughts on the open or a swinging relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Open relationships can work for some people, but only with extreme honesty, clear boundaries, and emotional maturity.

Most people think it’s just about sex but the real challenge is managing jealousy, communication, and trust.

Some couples thrive in that setup because they’re genuinely wired for non monogamy.

Others try it thinking it’ll “fix” something, and it usually makes everything worse.

If both people want it, understand it, and can handle it emotionally, it can be functional.

If one person is hesitant or doing it out of fear of losing the other, it tends to fall apart.

So my take is simple it’s not wrong, it’s just not for everyone and it only works when both partners are built for it.

[MisterPandemonium]

Have you been in an open relationship?

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I haven’t been in one, but I’ve seen enough to understand how they work and why they succeed or fail.

It’s one of those dynamics that looks simple from the outside but is actually very complex in real life.

[MisterPandemonium]

Would you personally ever want to be in one?

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Only if it felt natural for both people.

I’m not against the idea, but I wouldn’t force myself into a dynamic that doesn’t fit how I connect emotionally.

If the trust, communication, and stability were solid enough for it to work, maybe.

If not, I’d rather stay in something simple and committed.

[MisterPandemonium]

I can't imagine ever being in an open relationship.

The idea of me sitting at home while my significant other was getting plowed by some other guy just seems like a nightmare scenario.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

That reaction makes sense, a lot of people feel the same way.

Open dynamics aren’t for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

For most people, the idea alone already clashes with how they’re wired emotionally, so it’s natural to see it as something uncomfortable or even unsettling.

That’s why I said it would only work if both people genuinely wanted it not just one.

If monogamy is what gives you peace, that’s your answer.

[MisterPandemonium]

Are you monogamous?

[FreyaRed]

I don't think I would ever have trust to person who sleeps with other people. Without trust it's not a relationship in terms of deep emotional and psychological exchange. Such a partner would be for me nothing more than a biological dildo.

[RavVid]

To me relationship means long term.

With open or swinging, I think that there is a declaration it is not long term for either partner.

Some people seem to want a partner to pimp for them and I think it would amount to that.

I certainly would not invest in one which is the acid test of a relationship.

[Summeroflove]

Well… unless you mean swinging on a swing. Most are miserable and fail…. I’m sorry it feels disgusting and gross for me. So it’s a hard pass… maybe it works for some people. I don’t know…

[AI Opinion]

Hey there! As your friendly relationship coach here on Girls Ask Guys, let's dive into the spicy world of open and swinging relationships. They can be a fun adventure if both partners communicate super openly and are totally on board with boundaries. Without clear communication, though, things can get tricky faster than a Tinder swipe! If it's working for both of you and it's handling any potential jealousy or concerns, then great! But always keep an eye out for those lovebombing or sneaky ghosting situations that can pop up if feelings aren’t handled with care. 😉 Remember, every relationship should feel good and drama-free!

[OlderAndWiser]

If it does not require commitment, why would you call it a relationship?

[AviatorTom]

Open relationship and swinging works for some, not for others.

I try not to judge others, especially what they do in their private lives.

[Hardon-Collider]

Nonsense. If we are gonna talk about "nature" "tribal societies did this so we are genetically wired for it".

Then talk about how sex is actually a tool for reproduction too and mention the societies who did not view it as entertainment. ㅤ

[lightbulb27]

Same as swinging from a helicopter over the mountains without a parachute. it's all fun and games until something goes wrong you didn't plan for. Then you've got to rely on someone else to bail you out, which may be impossible as you deal with reality.

Adults make decisions and and accept responsibility and consequences. Noone should get involved in anything like this if they cannot handle the above statement.

I've forewarn you we have a large population of young people that have not been trained to understand responsibility, consequences. Huge opportunity to suck in and corrupt a generation of humans.

Bible says not to do things like this, that you'll suffer.. probably some good reasons.

[nothingtosee]

I can't give you an opinion as to what it's like to be in an open or swinging relationship, but I can tell you what it's like to be asked to be in a threesome with a couple.

I LOVE it! I love fulfilling a couple's sexual fantasy (or fantasies). I love being used like that. Plus it challenges me to try different (naughty, kinky or taboo) things (sexually) that I never would have thought (or fantasized) about.

[4ngelic]

i think it can help people who've been married for a while avoid divorce and also to each there own, so i'm not completely against it. but personally i could never do that myself. if a boyfriend asked me to open up the relationship, i'd dump him right there

[SoccerPlayer99]

At first glance, it's sexy and sounds fun to have variety while maintaining your go home to person. In reality, I doubt it's sustainable and will only eventually lead to the break down of the relationship. I think that if poly is your goal then maybe don't get into a relationship with someone unless they are also poly. That way you both know what you are getting into from he onset.

[Vevv123]

I don’t understand it, but I think if someone where to ask me that I would know they are not taking me seriously. I think these things are just driven by lust, so I think I would already understand his mentality.

[nothingtosee]

What I think you are not understanding is, swinging is a great way to fulfill your most naughtiest, kinkiest sexual fantasies without cheating on your partner. But, if you don't have any of those fantasies, then I can see how you would be against it.

[Lliam]

I'm not into it. I wouldn't want to share my partner. And my partners would have been insulted if I wasn't satisfied with them.
I always preferred monogamous relationships. The sex was always amazing.

[OneViewpoint]

Intellectually I can see it. From a practical standpoint it’s a minefield. It would take exceptional personalities to make it work. I’m betting 1 in 10,000 could pull it off. 9,999 would get hurt.

[Zack-Bann]

Being single with extra steps


I don’t even share my fork when eating a salad


Why in the world would I share my bed and partner with another couple

[melanieeeB]

Hell no.
You do you but me? Never and honestly I do low key judge people who do that but it's not my business to care

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I was in a couple. It was fine. definitely a different approach. Most people who do it are pretty delusional though. At least in my experience.

Mine worked out great though.

[jkreuger95]

I don't think it works long term but I don't care if anyone has an open relationship. It really comes down to if their honesty and feeling are out in the open too

[slatyb]

I know two couples with open marriages, one reported, one confirmed, and they seem happy. It might work for me, but definitely not for my wife.

[Berethor]

I tend to be against it, as I am not okay with my woman being with other men.

[Nikki1989]

Open works for many couples, but you still need some rules and restrictions.

[Bricealan]

@Nikki1989 Yes, and these are the rules: no punching in the clinches, no rabbit punches, and of course no biting, and for Pete's sake, break when I tell you to "break".

[Noredcarpet]

Not for me. Others are on their own Journey and need to figure out what work for them.

[Spencer10]

Who am I to judge. If it works for a person and is not hurting anyone well carry on.

[msc545]

I think it works a lot better for women than it does for men because generally speaking it is a lot easier for women to find sex partners than it is for men.

[Dennisjf12]

I like the idea but if my girl is not in to it than than there is no playing around for me.

[DrPepper12]

Like Joe Walsh said... 🎵 Life's been good so far 🎶

[MJVillarama]

Only if there’s complete trust and agreement. it’s not for everyone.

[Jersey2]

Not for me at all. I think less of those involved. I see the husband as weak.

[kaucky1]

If cheat cheat together ever transform self look diferent

[DTH57]

If you are both ok with it and that's what you like. No one should have a say in it.

[Anonymous]

It's not really a relationship. I mean you can call it that if you like. But it's not.

[midnightmoon05]

Not recommending.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

More like relationshit. Not my thing.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

As long as everyone involved is consenting, idc

[siezuresalad]

It will eventually backfire and implode

[beenherebefore]

Not something me and my Partner are opened about.

[Phoenix98]

Stupid and something I want no part of.

[Kelly6]

It works for me and we are happy this way

[nothingtosee]

I'm happy for you! Are you able to fulfill your most naughtiest/kinkiest, most taboo fantasies? PM me if you want to share stories/experiences.

[Staximus]

The hell with that bullshit

[blackeagle007]

Whatever works, e anyone’s different

[Sebastian100]

I don't consider that as a relationship at all

[In_Trance]

They're not for everybody

[Anonymous]

Zero interest.

[Anonymous]

I'm not into that.

[NervousIndividual]

Relationships should be monogamous

[MasterKS]

best, enjoyable and experimental.

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t like it

[dudeinohio]

Don't agree with it.

[zombiewoof]

Yess

[Anonymous]

Despise it