How can I explain my side after being resented and torn down by others?

[Anonymous]

So was doign super well.

Then people pushed me when I was down.

I couldnt' understand what the root cause was.

I was a high status person with very little time and lots to do. I thought maybe they felt neglected during that time so it soured the relationship. I was 26 at the time.

I realize now this was nothing but resentment towards me for doing better than them.

However now since I was so affected by being pushed down I became a shadow of who i was before.

I'm in need of both therapy and a voice to explain what happened. But the story has now flipped to maybe I'm too emotional etc. which is hogwash.

[SueShe]

One would think that after 10 years, things would have changed and that people would have matured enough to understand that their behaviors at that time was inappropriate and mostly caused by jealousy.

It is always easier to push someone down onto the floor than to recognize the mistake and help that person to get back on their feet because that would mean that they have to admit they were wrong.

You will have to learn to overcome the idea that jealousy that you did better than they did was the cause of what your condition is today. Best is of course to cut all ties with those that pushed you to the floor and stepped on you. Good luck.

[Asker]

It most certainly is.

I will say this though - never forgive the jealous.

Sometimes people hurt others unintentionally that's forgivable. People who intentionally hurt someone else hoping to see them fall - never ever forgive those types.

[Nikki1989]

This is what sustained targeted negativity does to a person.

[Asker]

As in it destroys them?

[SamIam96]

No one enjoys being around someone who views themselves as "high status". In fact, most would get pleasure in seeing you pushed down a notch or two.

Try showing some humility when you're around people with whom you would like to engage. You will probably have better experiences. Or, you could seek out others with a similar self confidence.

[SamIam96]

Thank you for the MHO. Good luck!

[jahaims]

Why fight for negative people to be in your life or care what they think?

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle messy relationship drama and rebuild your confidence, sweetheart 💋

You don’t owe anyone an apology for being hurt. Their resentment and tearing you down was a massive red flag, not your fault. You’re not “too emotional”; you’re reacting like a human.

Get therapy, rebuild your self-worth, then calmly state: “I was succeeding, you resented it, and it hurt me.” If they dismiss that, they were never your people.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Zero context and a victim narrative? Narcissist

[Anonymous]

Thats why u don’t mix with low life’s

[Asker]

I didn't know that at the time. I thought everyone is good because good people think everyone is like them.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol u don’t need therapy u need standards and people like u. That’s why do not interact with lower caste people.

[Asker]

Lower caste people (assuming you are referring to the Indian caste system) are not necessarily bad people.

I agree about the fact though that the people who were treating me like that lacked standards and weren't anything like me and I shouldn't have ever let them get close to me.

But I would argue there can be some very kind low status people. We shouldn't judge others based on status

[Opinion Owner]

lol 😂. They will always hate u. U are the representation of what they can never be. And look what happened to u

[Opinion Owner]

Stay in your own class / level

[Opinion Owner]

Look at u still confused. Show those losers why they are losers

[Asker]

Yes there are people like that for sure who will always resent you I agree.

But to say everyone is like that is too harsh.

It reminds me of someone once saying homeless people the reason they are homeless is because they had bad habits growing up drinking smoking etc.

I felt uncomfortable with that. It may be true about some of them, maybe majority but it can't be true about every single one of them.

There probably are some where something horrific happened to them.

Those losers didn't deserve five seconds worth of my time and took away so much from me. I wish I could erase them like they never existed.

[In_Trance]

Don't bother