Is it unreasonable to propose marriage to someone who is terminally ill?

[Anonymous]

So just to be clear , no gain for the asker and more than exstatic to proceed if she said Yes , and survived of course. The main idea would be to possibly extend her life , now this may still be unlikely , we had been together on and off , and I've known her for 20 plus years. I think she'd be really excited in a positive way , even if she said No , I think she'd really like to be able to say No ( if that makes sense ) . It's all about maybe continuing life , and she has always been extremely important to me , but she is very very sick ( cancer ) vastly younger than me , it seems so unfair.
What do you honestly think?

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1 mo

I'm still giving consideration to whether she is even well enough at this point , bcoz lots of cancer drugs involved.. So the idea would be pointless right now , so we will have to map progress.

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1 mo

She has now gained a blood transfusion, last time it didn't work ( blood attacked blood ) but for now a little more coherent which is at least good in short. When blood rejected Kemo was put on hold previously.

[Anonymous]

Every time I brought up the M word (marriage) to Danielle I would get yelled at and lashed out in and giant fights would take place in fact that was our first real argument a few years ago. After about the thousandth or millionth time of getting yelled at for bringing up the M word to her (marriage) I stopped asking just so I wouldn't get yelled at anymore

The screwed up part she has similar health issues as I do

[Opinion Owner]

To be honest I would I would actually marry Danielle if I were ever given the chance and fortune enough and blessed enough to be given the opportunity. It would be like Heaven on Earth to be married to that boss queen goddess

[Asker]

Well , that sounds a different set of circumstances..
In this case Yes / No is not so much the issue..

[Jamie05rhs]

No, it's not unreasonable. But it's not very wise. What if that person survives? Then they will realize that they accidentally made a lifelong commitment for something that turned out to be a much longer period of time. They might regret it and divorce you.

[Asker]

That would not be a problem , plus it's 99 % that that's impossible..
Any agreement would be fine.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. I'm just saying.

[Jamie05rhs]

Well enough for what? If she can speak, she can say vows. If she can write, she can sign her signature.

[Asker]

Yes true , if she wanted to say Yes , I would be happy with that , if she wished to say No ( which I think is more likely ) it would be in a very nice way and may give her more time.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay

[Nikki1989]

It is not unreasonable—but it is emotionally complex, and the meaning behind the proposal is more important than the act itself.

[Veronika_p]

I consider it thoughtful

[Asker]

Thankyou.. it's only meant as a survival element , I'd have no problem if she said Yes or No..

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy heart stuff without gaslighting yourself or others.

It’s not unreasonable at all, it’s actually really beautiful as long as your intention is pure, which it clearly is.

Be honest: tell her you love her, that you’re not lovebombing, that you want to honor her, not “fix” her. Let her choose freely. A proposal like that can feel like pure love, not a red flag.

[MissSunshine2]

I'd say go for it :) I will pray for your success tonight, before bed.

[Asker]

Thankyou appreciated, we spoke today and Kemo still on hold , but feeling a little better which is nice..

[ThisSiteSux]

Not if you love them. The time we have with each other is never guaranteed. It's also only finate if there is an expiration date.