Was this girl genuinely interested in me or just playing games?

[Anonymous]

Two months ago, I met a girl in class. Through a mutual friend, I let her know that I liked her. She said she wasn't ready because her relationship had just ended. I didn't say anything for two weeks. After that, we started meeting up and hanging out after class. Sometimes she would reply when I texted her. However, even though she acted close and friendly, she wouldn't lean towards a relationship, and she had other problems in her life, like the possibility of going abroad. She was focused on her career."

After all this happened, we met up and hung out five times. Once university was over, she stopped replying to my messages and said she had a boyfriend. So, I blocked her and I'm not going to talk to her anymore. Probably, the last things she said were just a game to keep me away from her, right? I don't even care anymore."

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1 mo

The last thing she said was, 'I have a boyfriend, so I can't talk to you anymore.' What she said was probably just an excuse to keep me away, right? Because three months ago, her long-term relationship ended badly. We last sat down together 20 days ago, and if she had a boyfriend, I probably would have noticed. I don't even care anymore, and I don't want to talk to her either."

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1 mo

Most importantly, she used to see me and talk to me when school was on. Once school was over, there was no reason left to talk, and I think that’s why she said this. Am I wrong?"

[Anonymous]

Well she definitely got what SHE wanted out of the relationship. If you learned from it that' all that matters at this point my friend. There's nothing wrong with being friends. But NEVER wait for a woman, ANY WOMAN.👍 And always be cognizant of emotinal vampires. My guess is she got boyfriend treatment from you (attention, adulation, maybe favors) without having to pay boyfriend prices (physical affection, potentially sex). Again, it's ok to be friends but never let a woman, ANY WOMAN get away with that. Again at this point as long as you learned from this that's all that matters.

[Asker]

Does she told a lie at the her last letter about relationship situation

[Opinion Owner]

Hard to say. She probably did. What's wrong is she new your interest and preyed upon it.

[Anonymous]

there's no grand conspiracy and no villian. She stopped you from being her rebound, kept things light and then executed a boundary knowing you had feelings for her. She knows hanging out with a guy who told her he has feelings while she is dating someone is a recipe for disaster. Your anger is valid, pain and anger go hand in hand. But this pain is clean and not infected, you will live

[Asker]

Did she told a lie about relationship situation at the last text

[Opinion Owner]

No, she gave a soft rejection and then a hard rejection. If she were lying, saying "i can't talk to you anymore" wouldn't be present. That is a hard painful thing to hear from someone you have feelings for, and this doesn't reflect your value. Dont let this stop you from asking girls out in the future, don't less this turn you bitter. She isn't evil, but you have every right to be mad at her. Both are true

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy dating situations so you don’t lose your mind or your heart, babe 😄

She wasn’t lovebombing, but she also wasn’t clear. She liked the attention, the comfort, the ego boost. Emotionally unavailable + fresh breakup + career focus + maybe going abroad = huge red flag cocktail.

Not a real game, more selfish confusion. Blocking and moving on was king behavior. You dodged a ghosting-prone girl, not a girlfriend.

[Asker]

The last thing she said was, 'I have a boyfriend, so I can't talk to you anymore.' What she said was probably just an excuse to keep me away, right? Because three months ago, her long-term relationship ended badly. We last sat down together 20 days ago, and if she had a boyfriend, I probably would have noticed. I don't even care anymore, and I don't want to talk to her either."Most importantly, she used to see me and talk to me when school was on. Once school was over, there was no reason left to talk, and I think that’s why she said this. Am I wrong?"

[Anonymous]

Why do you like her?

[Opinion Owner]

And how do you know this mutual friend conveyed the message right?

[Asker]

I knew that was correct. I liked because she was beautiful and kind

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think she’s aware. How does she look? And u?

[Asker]

No she knew my love

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look?

[Asker]

Our dudes said you look like awesome together

[Asker]

Whats your comment did she told a lie about relationship situation at the last text

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhh? How tall are u both? What makes her beautiful?

[Asker]

180 cm me and she was 170

[Asker]

She look like dissimilar of another girls. We lived in Europe country in Germany. And she does not similar to another German womens

[Opinion Owner]

What you are 6 feet tall? Ohhh. How is she different / unique

[Asker]

Did you any met a German women? Maybe you have an opinion about them. Which country do you live

[Opinion Owner]

Am from India

[Asker]

Off you asked same things ıf you have not an opinion ı dont want carry on to talk

[Asker]

I said she was beautiful and polite

[Asker]

Okay. Have you got a serious opinion

[Opinion Owner]

See you need to propose directly , it shows sincerity. How can you convey such things through someone else

[Asker]

Thats have ended. Did you read the last letter of her

[Asker]

You are joking and not funny