Why do some guys like to flirt with much older women?

[Anonymous]

I don't flirt but it seems that several guys who flirt at me are so much younger than me and they all want to go out with me.The youngest one was 11 years younger than me.He asked me to go out with him which I of course declined.The funny thing is that he already has a girlfriend who is 10 years younger than me.I really don't understand.Why do some guys like to flirt with much older women?Are some guys really so poor at judging a woman's age?I normally can tell a guy's age quite accurately.

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These guys are strangers who hardly know anything about me.

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Guys,thank you so much for all inputs.Just wondering how good are men at juging women's age?Or you yourself. How good are you at judging women 's age?I am from a country in Asia where this cougar thing is so rare.So many people in my country don't even know what a cougar is.We call it ''older sister younger brother'' love.

[Rujwengye]

SIMPLE, and I am glad you specified 'flirt' and not go out.

One. Depending on the culture, going out or flirting with a younger woman can be stressful. For one thing, younger women may lack the experience of appreciating the flirt, they might be insulted, embarrassed, worry about the perceptions of their friends and potential mates.

Two. Because of the media and movies, it is perceived to be cool to be able to flirt and even more to score with an older woman. Older women are considered to be more experienced, and sophisticated, so by extension the guy is also those things for being able to get her attention.

Three. Older women are not likely to be offended, or brush off the advances of a younger person in such an embarrassing way as would a younger woman, and even if she did, "what would you expect", she's an older woman, "shes probably married", and you'll get points for trying something out of the ordinary, or something probably impossible, if the guy is in high school for example. Also, it is not likely to affect him in his immediate social circles (school for example), so if no one knows it doesn't matter.

Four. Some might consider an older woman to be easier to deal with, which may true in certain instances. An older woman may have more money, so the guy does not have to spend much on her, on the contrary she may spend on him, older women are also presumed to be more experienced sexually, an older woman may already be married and so if the guy is looking for a fling, then the relationship would be ideal. An older woman is not likely to nag, and call a younger man all the time, because she can figure out the type of guy he is more easily and anticipate his needs and personality. She is also not likely to take him too seriously, which is great for a guy looking for something casual.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for all the details.Really appreciate!

[Deft_maiden]

Ba IMO :) +1

[Bvroon]

There seems to be an undercurrent of popular culture for young men to flirt and possibly date older women based on the idea they might encounter a "cougar" Now I'm not accusing you of any such practice, just you combine the mythos that the "cougar" will seemingly pick up any younger male 10 or more years her junior for the purpose of abundant casual sex and you combine this with the poorly informed and often judgement impaired youth of today, and you get a bunch of immature young men flirting with older women such as yourself without having any idea of what they want or what they are doing, which is where you end up feeling not only uncomfortable but confused as well. On the opposite side of the spectrum, there are far fewer young women out chasing older men for similar motives.

[Asker]

I always like your answers.You always answer in great details in a respectful,no-nonsense and sincere way.That's the way it should be.Very good!

[Bvroon]

Well thank you kindly, I always make an effort to provide good solid information for any who ask. I'm always willing to help where I can. I'm afraid we have more than enough misinformation floating around, so my goal is to furnish information that is actually helpful, and thanks again for your input as well.

[Anonymous]

It's not about judging the age incorrectly. Some guys just prefer older women.

It's not necessarily politically correct, and it's probably not mainstream (poor Wayne Rooney still gets jokes told about him, because he used to prefer to sleep with women (often prostitutes) old enough to be grand mothers) But that's the simple truth of it.

Human sexuality is very broad. Different people are attracted to different things.

I've always been interested in older women myself (what are now called cougars or MILFs) but I blame my French teacher in school for that. She was fit...

[Asker]

So those women you are interested in are how much older than you?

[Opinion Owner]

I've gone as high as a 50 year old, but she was exceptional. Normally I'd crush on woman in her mid 30's or early 40's. But that's me. Different strokes for different folks.

[Bvroon]

Regrettably the whole "cougar" thing I mentioned before is mostly an "American" thing, though I have heard of it to some lesser degree in Europe. I fear it is not one of our greatest contributions to culture, but there it is. As for judging a woman's age? Well I feel I'm a fairly good judge, but honestly I'm not very flirtatious so it isn't really much of a concern for me.

[Verimas]

Your just attractive and some guys are attracted to you despite the age difference. And they may be more mature too. Why would you say "of course" to turning that guy down, was it him or his age alone.

[Asker]

He is good-looking but I am not shallow.I am not a cougar and he has a girlfriend.My conscience does not allow me to do this kind of thing.

[Verimas]

Ok that's understandable, I was just making sure that was why and not just age.

[cem93]

i think you should be proud about that are you sad about this situation. for me i will flirst with attractive older women probably for sex or i really like her matureness and beauty

[Asker]

I think it is really so weird and so incredible for them to be interested in me.

How much older are those women than you?

[cem93]

'm 18 and sometimes they are 25-26 sometimes 32-35, know that have ero chances with women older than 25 but talking with them satisfys me, like mature women in personality

[Ugliness]

Older women are sexy women.

Gorgeous women.

Extra tasty.

Excuse me, I'm getting hungry.

[CuriousEddie]

Good evening, Mrs. Robinson...

[CuriousEddie]

Well, you're anonymous here, but do you write questions or answers when you aren't anonymous? Do you have attractive photos on your profile?

Are you a cougar? ;)

[Asker]

Hahaha.You are really too curious.No wonder your name is CuriousEddie.I am definitely not a cougar.