I suspect that a lot of anger stems from fear or insecurity, so I'd approach it like you would a mistreated dog or a skittish horse. I'm assuming that there's no threat of physical violence to you--that'd make things somewhat different. Be gentle but firm. Don't allow him to tell you what you can/can't do, but respond in a calm, loving voice and see if you can lower his arousal. Though you wouldn't do this with a dog, I'd try to make eye contact with him. Remember that you're not treating him like a little kid--you need to respect the fact that he's really upset even if not for the reasons he might claim initially. Once you've got him somewhat calmed, I'd hold him in your arms. Keep looking him in the eyes. Tell him that no matter what upsets him, you love him and that you'll help him feel better but that he must not, can not, yell at you or others. Again, be firm but loving. It's not your job to figure out what's at the root of his anger/fear/insecurity, but you can respond appropriately and teach him not to yell at you. I would definitely encourage him--maybe require--to see a therapist to help him out. It sounds corny, but you've got be a sort of "horse whisperer" to him. It couldn't hurt to get some help of your own on how to deal with him. I'm assuming he's worth the effort! Best of luck...
Why give up? I'm sort of in the same situation, my anger is what killed my most recent relationship because I got jealous easily, I tend to say stupid things when I'm mad but have always had a sincere and good intention with her. I also love my girl but I also tend to be a douche bag sometimes because I find her flirting with other guys or saying things about my cons which irritate me. I wouldn't want my girlfriend to give up on me just because I tend to get angry sometimes, it's also something I'm working on myself, it isn't healthy getting mad alot. A lot of stress...But then again I'm still in love with her and have been trying to be overall a better person not only for her but myself, my family and friends..
Don't give up, no, but he needs to work on it with you. He can't just fly off the handle all the time (imagine how that would work if you two had children!). HE needs to get control of that, and you can help him. You two need to talk it out and the next time he does get angry, maybe you need to point it out and he needs to calm down/internalize his anger. It is NOT right for you to live with the constant fear that at any second you could push him over the edge by the smallest action. He should respect you more, and you should be able to trust him more. See if he's willing to work with you to overcome that.
You could always cut him.. lol jk (no, really, that is an option).
I'd just leave whenever he started doing that. When he's in mid-sentence just put in your headphones and walk away. When he asks about it (if he's not a complete @ss then he should ask about it) just tell him that you're tired of his sh*t!
Ask him to go to councler of something to learn to control his anger
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First have a long talk with him about his anger, maybe he could try an anger management program...See if he's at least open to working on it before ou give up on him.
Tell him that he's verbally abusing you and that you are to be respected, no one should be tolerant of that sort of behavior.
Stand up for yourself. my boyfriend is the same way but I am not passive one bit. You need to speak up for yourself
Will you be asking the same question when he resorts to physical violence?
Tell him when he is angry think about you & your Luv
and tell him keep in mind
" you will not be punished for your anger but you will be punished by your anger"
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