Crying after sex... help.

[girlonmoon]

So my boyfriend and I were making love. Now, in most cases I would say having sex but after the experience I just had, saying "having sex" is not the way to even explain what I just encountered.

He was on top, and laying across me kissing me with his arms around me and mine around his neck. Now during this a wave of emotion started building in the pit of my stomach. This has happened before but usually I ignore it and just focus on the physical aspect. But this time for some reason my body focused on my emotions AND the physical part of sex. now I didn't cum, but as soon as he did I was hit with a gigantic wave of emotion. I felt instantly vulnerable and in the same instant I was crying into his shoulder, legs wrapped around him and I felt very exposed. This has NEVER happened to me. I felt like I could NOT let my grip around his neck go at all. It was like he was my life support in that moment and I don't know . It was so weird. He just held me while I cried into his shoulder. after I was done crying he asked me what happened and I don't even know how to explain what happened to me in that exact moment when he came. I have some ideas but I wanted everyone else s' opinion.

Girls: Has this happened to you?

Guys: Has a woman cried after sex with you?

[sarahbeara2010]

I cried during my first time a little over two years ago. It wasn't just because it was physically painful, even though it was (my boyfriend is a bit blessed, if you get what I'm saying...lol). It was because of a whole combination of emotions. Up until that point, I had always sworn that I was going to wait until marriage (I had a purity ring and everything), and I was upset with myself for letting everybody down by not keeping that promise. I was also indescribably happy, because I knew that he was the guy I wanted to be with for the rest of my life (even though I hadn't even known him for a full three months). I was scared to death because I thought that he would just wind up leaving me (which he did...several times, actually...but he always came back). And to top it all off, I just loved him so damn much! And when we did it for the second time...I cried all over again for the exact same reasons! He's the kind of guy who really can't deal with tears, so I've always felt so guilty for putting him through that. Lucky for me, though, he did just fine dealing with them on both of those occasions. ")

There was a time a little over a year ago when my boyfriend and I were broken up and I had stupidly had sex with one of our mutual friends as a way of getting back at him, and that "friend" had told him the very next day. Well, we got to another point a few months later where we were broken up again but slowly starting to work things out, and the same "friend" as before started trying to have sex with me and basically said that if I didn't cooperate, he would make up all of these horrible lies and screw things up before my ex and I could finish working things out. I repeatedly said no and asked him to stop, but he refused. I cried that time because I didn't want to do it, because I was terrified, because I knew that I couldn't say anything (I threatened to take legal action, but he basically assured me that he would get off scot-free because he had family involved in the local judicial system...and plus, he would just lie and say that I had wanted it, anyway), because I felt guilty, and because I was feeling so many other negative emotions.

[Anonymous]

Happened to me as well- two times and they were not even my boyfriend. Were just too much emotions to bear. At the first time I cried it was just so overhelming, because it was the first time having sex after 1,5 years. (I felt like I lost my virginity :-)) At the second time I cried, because I was so confused having sex with a good friend and knowing it was wrong. In both cases I was drunk) Well none of them were my boyfriend so it was just embarassing and they were irritated. :-)

But you shouldn't worry about it, enjoy to be with someone who means so much to you. Crying while sex is not exactly sexy, but you are not he first who feels like this.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it has happened to me. I don't know why but it was because I realized during sex when we were done that I really like him and don't wanna lose him,but I like didn't let him see me cry,but I held it in and rolled over and cried sliently in the dark rather odd it was.

[MrOracle]

While sex is often just fun or physical, it CAN be a profoundly emotional experience, especially if you're in love with the person, and even more if you're a woman (though guys can feel this way sometimes too). Being truly in love with someone, to the point that you're willing to be completely open with them and hide nothing of yourself is a wonderful thing, but it can also be scary and vulnerable. That's all normal.

My only recommendation is to let your boyfriend know that this is why you were crying, so that he doesn't misunderstand and think that he had hurt you somehow, or that you were regretting being with him (people always assume the worst, and that THEY are at fault, in such situations).

[ManWhoDropsTheBall]

My girl has never cried. Recently she has giggled during sex so I'm very self conscious as of late. If she started crying, I would probably think I'm going to jail for something

[Floch0401]

“I would think im going to jail”

Lmaooo you know you fucked up

[Anonymous]

Awh... I wish I could have that. (ugh doesn't help that I'm Premenstrual right now, I could cry lol)

but I can understand on somewhat lower level, when my boyfriend touches me so softly I could cry, especially on my cheek or neck or waist, I just want to fall into him..

[Anonymous]

my word. You better hope this guy never breaks up with you...You don't sound like the kind of girl who would be able to handle it

[Anonymous]

I think it's natural Ivey into his arms all the time

[RoyalCopenhagen]

No woman will f--k me.

[Arics]

Really helpful and constructive response.