Have had 3 boyfriends none of them ever loved me

[Anonymous]

I'm just thinking about my life, and the fact that I've had 3 boyfriends in my life, and none of them ever loved me. We were together for a period of time (Different periods of time with each boyfriend) 2 years with one boyfriend, and none of them loved me. I haven't had a date in 3 years, and haven't had a boyfriend in 6 due to other problems in my life that upset me. I'm very independant, and 90% of me never wants to get married, and I definitely don't want children. I'm not sure I ever want to get involved with a man again. I don't know what I'm really asking you guys, but I've just come to accept that any man I meet will never love me, so I'm very put off by getting involved with anyone. I just feel I'm not good enough for anyone, they would cheat on me, and leave me, and never love me anyways. Anyone ever felt like this? I don't know if I will ever be able to move past this. (By the way, me and my mother have no relationship at all, and don't get on whatsoever). Anyone else feel like this, or maybe there is something wrong with me.

[Anonymous]

there is nothing wrong with you other then your just down on yourself . people see you as you see yourself. if she think no one will ever love you then really your not giving anyone a chance to even try to love you . EVERYONE who gets in a relationship has the chance of being cheated on but you can't just avoid relationships so that you don't get hurt . if you do this you will never be happy . I think everyone has been cheated on at some time in there lifes and most more then once but that don't make you an unlovable person . YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH . even the most sexy wonderful women in the world would probably get cheated on . you can't take it so personal . if someone cheats on you then THEY WAS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU !

As for getting involved with someone right now maybe its best that you don't . you don't sound very happy right now . you really need to work on the way you feel about your self before you can really be in a good relationship . you should feel loved and wanted rather your with someone or not



i think people base how they feel off of how others treat us and sometimes that is not good at all. just because you and your mom don't get along don't mean your not worth being loved . NEVER let someone make you feel down on yourself . Love who you are and you don't need anyones approval . not your moms not a mans . do what makes you happy and don't waste your time trying to please everyone or trying to make people care about you . I bet that's how you are to . I bet you get into a relationship with a man and are very good to him and it still don't work out no matter what you do . the reason this happens is because you try to hard and get taken advantage of. don't put all your hopes into one person . date around and just enjoy life .

[Asker]

Thing is, I haven't been happy in years. I have absolutely no happiness in life, and life is a constant struggle. To be honest I haven't been happy my whole life, I think there were 3 years in my life where I was a bit happy but that's it. I don't know what its like to be happy. Me and my mother have never got in, even when I was a child. All she does is tell me I'm wasting my life, and I'm a failure, and I'm useless. She has told me that my entire life, for as long as I can remember.

[Opinion Owner]

im sorry your mom and you have that type of relationship . she is probably unhappy her self and puts it out on you . like I said tho don't let anyone make you feel down on your self not even her HAPPY don't just happen . make it happen. I no its painful to have a mom like that but your not a child no more and she can only hurt you if allow her to do so . you got to do what is best for you and not worry about no one eles . that's not being selfish its being HAPPY

[sweetone]

I don't think there is anything wrong with you except for the fact that at your age you have no found a reason to love yourself. It's extremely important that we take care of ourselves before anyone else can. I know it sounds cliche but it's honestly the truth. At one time in my life (which was recent) I felt the same you do now. Like, why am I even living, no one loves me, no one will, and lot of other very frightening thoughts. I also am not in contact with my mother but there are reasons for that and I am sure there are justifiable reasons as to why you also lack a relationship with yours. Don't sit around feeling bad for yourself. Stop looking for reasons to play victim and start looking for ways to improve yourself. Love yourself. How can you really know your old boyfriends never loved you anyway? And...why does it even matter? That was 6 years ago! If you don't want to get married then that's fine, don't want kids? also fine! Honestly, this world can be a scary place and tomorrow isn't ever promised... we can see that after all these tragedies..so stop wasting time feeling down. Only you can change your mindset!

[Anonymous]

I never felt that.

It's just that you must be not putting effort in your relationship, enough to feel the love of your guy.

[Asker]

I did put efforts into my relationships. I'm regarded as being a pretty girl, slim, long dark hair, and treat people well. I don't let people walk on me either though. I was nice to the guys I was with, especially the guy for 2 years. He told me he just wasn't able to love me. My mother never loved me, so I feel like no one has, and no one will. Its been like this to date and I'm 30 now can't see it getting better.