My bf keeps liking the every picture picture of the same girl kn instagram! Am i just overreacting?

[Anonymous]

I know this might seem stupid but this freaking annoys me. So my bf keeps liking every picture of the same girls, and they do the same back. I already told him how i felt about this and he told me he would stop cause he wouldn't like it either if i did it. But he still does it! does this mean that he just don't give a Fck about my feelings? Also there is this guy who does the same with me altho' i never like back, my bf confessed that it bothered him. He told me guys do this to secretly gets a girls attention. Does this mean this is the reason he keep liking their pictures?

Please i only want serious advice/comments

Guys what does it mean when you do this? Should i worry?
Girls what should you do if you were me?

[Paris13]

I feel that when a guy and girl are Exclusive And Official, their eyes And----hands----Stay Off, and this includes Online And Off as well. No "Ands Not Buttts" about It.
If he is "liking" the same pictures of Certain Gems on Instagram, and he knows it bothers you, And continues pushing buttons to Push More of Yours, then it is a slap in your face, and degrading besides. No respect, putting you on his "pay no mind" list, as though They counted More than You. Time to fight fire with fire.
The next time, you See "this guy who does the same with you," You Reciprocate by putting your own "like." Too bad if it bothers your Other half. If it's good for the goose, then it's sure as hell good for the ol' gander.
However, he may or may Not be doing it to get Their "attention," but instead Yours. He knows you can see it, and Could very well be trying to get a rise out of your Levis, but no matter What the excuse, you let him know-------You are Not going to stand for It, for if you Continued, you'd be stooping for "More whore" in the future.xx

[Paris13]

Hmmm...I just Saw "over there" your comment of him Actually having the ballies to do That...My last statement stands then..."More whores..."

[Paris13]

Maybe it's time to give this "pussy cat sniffer" tom cat his walking papers, for God only knows what Poop he is throwing your way.

[lamebabe]

I wouldn't approve of that either. It may "just be social media" but it's still a way of flirting and complimenting another girl. The only reason a guy will like a girls pictures on IG that often is because he finds her very attractive and wants her to notice him.

[Asker]

I was thinking the same! What should i do? I don't want to be that type of girl who forbid him things. I already told him how i felt about it but he doesn't stop neither and if he does than his like doing the same thing but with a "new girl"

[lamebabe]

I don't know. I'm kinda "crazy", I guess. I had this happen to me before and I just threatened to leave the guy. I told him if he liked the girl so much, go be with her- and I left. He deleted his Instagram that night and we stayed together. I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect. I would much rather be single and getting the attention I deserve than fighting over crap like that.

[Asker]

Yeah sometimes i get so mad that i too want to threaten him by telling that if he like them soo much go with them. But we are 2 years together now, it's not really that easy to let go everything. I just wished he would listen or at least tell me the real reason why he does this. I understand that there are plenty of beautifull girls, but why show it by liking their picture constantly. It's like in real life in real life "you can look but not touch". By liking their pictures it's like he's trying to show he's interested or something

[lamebabe]

Maybe he's getting bored? I don't know but it's a real problem if he is blatantly ignoring your feelings.

[Asker]

Well we do a lot of stuff together he recently ask me to move in till i go to the university. We fitness together so it's kinda easier to go together then cause the fitness we're going to is close to where he live. I just don't know what to think anymore. I feel like i'm making all this effort in a relationship that is not even worth it anymore...

[lamebabe]

Are there other problems in the relationship or just the instagram thing? Does he flirt with girls in real life or on other social media sites?

[Asker]

Our relationship is actually pretty good. Never had big fights, i always trusted him till this instagram thing. It's the only thing that bothers me. I don't know if he flirt with other girls in real life. I do now he sometimes text with other girls i don't know about but never ask about it cause i didn't wanted to sound to controlling. I do found out after asking 100000 times that he had contact with a girl on fb that he knew from instagram he showed me the messages. Altho' i didn't see something suspicious he might have deleted it cause before that i once ask if i can read his privatemessage just for a joke to see how he would react (he can watch with me if he wanted) and i saw how he suddenly acted all nervous and he was like "babe i have nothing to hide but reading mu private messages is too much). I mean if this js really the case he would't mind me reading it right?

[lamebabe]

Yeah. If there's nothing to hide, then he wouldn't be nervous. And why would he add a girl on FB from Instagram? There's literally no innocent reason to do that...He sounds like bad news to me.

[Asker]

I was rhinking the same.. I just don't know how to tell him cause i don't want him to think i'm overreacting cause that would be an huge turn off...

[lamebabe]

It's better to communicate and express yourself than to submissively allow yourself to be cheated on. And if you don't say anything at very least you will become resentful. I think it's always best to be open and honest.

[Asker]

You're right if he act all agressive it's definetly not worth it anymore... Thanks for your time, really appreciate it!

[lamebabe]

No problem. Good luck.

[Krypt0nite]

You're overreacting. Why would this hurt your feelings?

[Asker]

I think it's just im jus scared that he will get interested in those girls... I mean there mist be a reason right?

[Krypt0nite]

Yes but is your reason even logical? If he doesn't want to be with you he'll leave.
Guys will always think other girls are attractive and they'll always think sexual things about other women but it's not about HER - it's just sexual.
He's not in love with other girls, taking them out, telling them he loves them etc. He is looking at images and he thinks they're visually appealing.

[Asker]

What if he just don't wanna tell me that? Some guys already trying to know other girls while in a relationship just to make sure they still have you if it doesn't work out.. I'm scared i'll be that girl...

[Adenn]

I regularly like woman's pictures that I find attractive. Though I don't go through and like all of them. Some pictures are better than others. I don't think I have ever had a woman like any of my pictures back, which is fine, I don't really care.

In all reality though, if he is "attracted" to someone over the internet, what are the chances of him every meeting these people? Maybe it is time to ask him why he does it.

If it were me, I wouldn't worry. The chances of my S.O. actually meeting the people they find attractive is about zero, even if they did meet, the chances of them doing anything are lower than that.

[Asker]

We live in belgium and most girls he do this to are from the netherlands, he's there every weekend so the chances are pretty big.. And that's what worry me the most cause he can say whatever he want i can't see what his doing there.

[Adenn]

Then yes, I would be worried if I were you, especially since you asked him to stop and he regularly goes to the location of the women he is stalking online. Also, since she is liking his stuff as well there is a good chance something is going on.

[DrBigolenuts]

i can't say anything bout if he cares for your feelings etc..
only you can know that!

but if i randomly like a girls pic then it must be coz she's beautiful or its a nice one..

and if i like almost each pic she posts then yeah, it might be to get her attention and i would also drop her a word!

[Asker]

So you admit that he might do this cause he's trying to get their attention? What should i do then? Do i just need to leave him because of this? I don't wanna feel like this everyday alltho' he's always telling me not to worry about it cause it's "just pictures".

[DrBigolenuts]

but that doesn't mean that he wants to leave you for the other girl!

i know lots of guys who do this only to let the other girl know that theyve noticed her and that she's beautiful!

i feel that you're really insecure!

just talk with him again and this time be more aggresive/threatening!

its not as if he's cheating on you so i dont see why you should leave him!

he's clearly jealous when other guys like your pics which clearly shows that he likes you a lot!

and again thats not enough to just leave somebody!

lool by the way if i like another girls pic, my gf is like "go and sleep with her!! why are you talking to me?" she's angry/jealous

you can try that!
dont overdo it though (i find it annoying when she goes too far with that)

[Asker]

I must admit that i act like your gf about this. I mean he told me it would bothered him if i was the one who did this. So why would he do it if abviously he knows how it feels like... But i don't think that you do this a lot like my bf, i understtand that he'd like i don't one or two pics from a girl cause he find it a cute picture but literly every picture? I just don't know how to react and tell him to just stop cause i don't want him to think i'm acting all crazy for something little, cause i think that would be a serious turnoff...

[lamebabe]

A person in a relationship should not be letting other people know they've "noticed" them or letting them know they find them attractive.

[Asker]

So so if i was your gf, how would you like me to tell you? Cause i noticed that guys think that girls overreact easy...

[DrBigolenuts]

the thing is that i do this when that girl is a close friend of mine!

so you wouldn't have to do that! (my gf hates all my friends who are actually girls) haha

but as i said, threaten him by saying that you won't speak to him!

true he may find that you're over reacting but if he cares about you, he'll do whats necessary!

by the way you have any trouble with him?
other than the instagram issue?

[Asker]

Well if the girls were close friends of him than it wouldn't bother me.. I think it's just the fact that he acts like he shows interest in them, cause if this is the case than he just can say the truth, it might hurt my feelings but then i can finally get over all this instead of thinking everyday if his doing something behind my back... And no actually our relation is been good all this time till i noticed all what his doing on instagram. I know i might sound stupid cause it's just a social media but a relationship cam change in one day cause he suddenly got interested in someone else. And its just stupid to throw away a 2 year relationship only because of instagram.. But i feel that if he doesn't stop i will always have this angry feeling inside me and that's not healthy for our relationship...

[DrBigolenuts]

yeahh i get you!

this has completely changed the way you se him and has installed the fear that he might cheat on you!
it would be hard to live with that kind of feeling everyday!

after 2 years in a relationship people start getting bored and some take each other for granted! (like he's doing right now)

when did you talk to him bout this?

[Asker]

Like i answer at the commenter under you we actually do a lot of stuff together. He recently asked me to move in with him till i go to the university wich is in September. I'm not ready yet tho so i told him i'll stay with him 2-3 days a week. We also fitness together so we actually have a really active relationship.
I once ask him a while ago if i can read his messages on fb and suddenly he started to laugh and acted all nervous.. And couple of days later after asking 1000000 of times he finally let me read it (together) , i didn't saw something suspicious but he might have deleted it that's why he finally aggree that i can read the messages.
It was couple of months ago that i told him this bothered me and now i get mad of the most little things cause it's still in the back of my head...

Im sooo sorry by the way for bothering you with this i sound like a whiny B

[DrBigolenuts]

you guys seem to be having a great relationship going on! :3

about the fb matter maybe he's used to chatting with other girls but he doesn't want you to know about it coz he knows that this'll hurt you!

and lemme guess something!
correct me if im wrong!

he's more of an extrovert/ open type of guy! and you're more of the shy type!
right?

i dont think you need to worry too much!

I've got a friend whos a real social beast, he keeps talking to girls/guys whatever! its in his nature! he's very open and easy to talk to, and he's been goin out with the same girl for almost 2 years too!

i think you bf is almost the same type of guy! the only difference is that he tries to hide things so as not to hurt you!

by the way what you can do is bring it up jokingly!
like pouting and saying: " i hate you. u still like that other girls pic"

i find that cute!
haha
and no you're not bothering me! :3

[Asker]

Yesss! I'm indeed an introvert ;d he's not thaaat extroverted tho'. He do love hanging out with his friends and his always out he hates staying at home all day. I'm just not used to to see him with other girls or talking to other girls cause he doesn't really have female friends.
but your idea is actually not that bad! ;d
I'm just so mad sometimes by this that i can't hide me emotions anymore.
But i actually need to try it jokingly like u said! ;d it actually might work!

Lol thanks really! I really appreciate your time and helping me out with this one!
Your gf is definitly lucky with you ;d!

[DrBigolenuts]

good luck with that! :)
i read bout the belgium/netherlands thingy!
now i know why you're so insecure bout this!
let us know how it goes!

dont be too pushy though!

haha everybody goes through bad times, im goin through a rather good period right now. but as you said it can change anytime!

hope i really helped!
bon courage :D

[Asker]

Well i hope he's doing nothing wrong when he's in the netherlands.. But i still need to wait 3 weeks till i can talk to cause he's interning in LA right now.. I'll def let you know how it went!

Thanks for the advice!! Xx

[DrBigolenuts]

looks like he travels a lot!
just keep your mind off these till then!:)

ait!

tcr

[Daph81]

Your bf sounds like an immature little brat who doesn't respect you and your feelings. You can get a better one, girl!

[Asker]

Yeah sometimes i think about just leaving him too, but i don't wanna make decissions when i'm mad. We are 2 years together now it's not that easy to leave someone for so long.

I know i will sound like a freak now but sometimes i "stalk" him on insta just to see if he contact girls on instagram. There were some girls he suddenly follow on Twitter too, he don't even know them. He told me to not worry cause it's just on social network. Also i once asked him if he talk to girl on instagram he saif no. Then suddenly i saw him befriending a girl i saw on instagram that he recently followed. I always have to ask 100000 of question to find out things like after asking him a lot of times he admitted he was talking with this girl on fb from insta. He showed me the messages i didn't aaw anyting suspicious but he might have deleted it i dont know. But if there was nothing to worry about why would he keep it a secret right! I dont wanna act like a little whiny kid about this all...

[Daph81]

I think he might be bored with you. 2 years is a long time for a guy who is always playful and never satisfied with just 1 girl. How old is he? Because he acts like a teenager.

[Asker]

I'm 20 now he's 22. We actually do a lot of stuff together he lives alone with two friends. He also recently asked me to "move in" with him until i go to university. I'm not ready yet tho' so i told him that i can stay with him for 2-3 days a week cause we fitness together so everytime i'm with him it's easier to go together cause it's not far from where he live.