What I believe is necessary for happiness - bible talk

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe that to be truly happy, you have to be willing to sacrifice your happiness for the welfare of others, or for your goals in life and that a person who pursues their own happiness and the expense of other people or at the expense of their goals will come out depressed and miserable.

Like everybody knows super models are rich but how many times did they have to say no to steal and potato chips to get that body? Everybody knows obese people have stunted emotional relationships but how many chicken wings were they able to enjoy before they became so big that it endangered their lives?

Everybody knows playing basketball is fun, but how many people play basketball during school hours and end up living in grand homes after graduation? Everybody knows reading boring literature is not comparable to a party, but when they vacation in Australia with their income, how many people will think they lived a life of self-deprivation?

True happiness comes at the cost of selfless sacrifice, if you refuse to pay the price, you will end up miserable, my mom abused both me and my dad during her entire 37 year marriage because she married for financial reasons and not relational ones and now she is angry and bitter with a husband and daughter who hate her and are waiting patiently for her to die, my dad pretends to love her cause he does not want to lose half his income in a divorce while I just try to hide how much I hate her.

My dad abused me like crazy all my life cause he thought I’d be skinnier and richer if he put more pressure on me to succeed and now my dad is angry, bitter, hateful, embarrassed, guilty, ashamed, lonely, desperate, fearful, anxious and scared almost 24 hours a day, including during his sleeping hours, because he treated his child like a financial commodity and social stepping stone and not like a beloved daughter you cherish and protect.

I knew a very selfless guy in my university who now has two Ivy League degrees, one in medicine, married to the woman of his dreams. Living the perfect life, because he was selfless and compassionate and humble.

I know another guy who was always extremely nice to everybody and he now works a medical career related to MRI clinics.

Another super selfless guy I know became a doctor and married the nicest woman ever, and has two adorable children who adore him and is dearly loved by everybody.

The way to happiness is selfless self denial, it takes a low calorie diet to look like Tyra banks and it takes boring nights in a library to become a mansion owning surgeon.

[PoliteSpeaker]

Extreme Selflessness is no better than selfishness.

Giving is VERY closely related with Getting. Law of Cause and Effect. The more you give the more you get. If you render loads of useful service then you GET loads of money.

I wrote a lot but deleted it because I don't fully understand what you are saying in this MyTake. I just innately feel what you are saying is gray.

[SenseiSeptred]

I know that pursuing a rare goal is more than worth it because it is seldom traveled down.

[Massageman]

Quite true.

Self-sacrifice is one of the major themes of the New Testament. Jesus modeled it for us in the way He lived. Though He was God, He did not demand His rights as God, but demonstrated servant leadership in everything He did (Philippians 2:6–8). He said to His disciples, “Whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:27–28).

Jesus clarified the path to godly self-sacrifice in Luke 9:23, saying, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.” The kind of self-sacrifice that pleases the Lord is the natural result of having taken up our cross to follow Jesus. A cross always represents death. So, in order to take up a cross, we must be willing to die to ourselves, our agendas, and our rights. When we crucify our fleshly desire to be our own boss, we begin to make decisions based on what Jesus would have us do (Galatians 2:20; 5:24).

The greatest commandments require self-sacrifice. The first commandment is that we love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. The second is to love our neighbors as ourselves (Matthew 22:36–40). We can do neither of these while still demanding our own way. When we willingly limit our freedoms, set aside our own rights, and pursue the best interest of those God has called us to serve, we are being self-sacrificial biblically. Self-sacrifice demands that we daily die to the passions of our flesh that are in opposition to God’s will for our lives (Romans 6:6–7; Galatians 2:20). We don’t do this in order to appease God or earn His favor. We already have that because of Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:21; Ephesians 1:4–7). We choose it because we know it pleases our Father and we want to be more like His Son (Romans 8:29).

[TheBigGuy9]

People that tend to go after the “feel good” right now things in life tend to be more depressed. What I mean by that is drugs. Make us feel good, but not for long. That’s why we need to redo it over and over more and more. Because we want that happy feeling. Or going out and cheating on your girlfriend. A lot of people do it because they need to feel good.
Now, people who discipline themselves. Do things that take time, consistent hard work, many long days, sleepless nights, having courage, overcoming adversity. During this time you have good days and bad days. Over time things will get better and the happy feeling that is felt in your heart and soul is a permanent good feeling. Like when you got an A on a hard midterm.


The best thing anyone can do to start is get your body in shape. Eat right. Planned meals. Things will start moving forward….

[collie22]

the Bible tells us how to live in this body and be happy. live in his word every day!

[crazysassypaws21]

do you really believe in happiness