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Most people living in western counties would say hell no to this (for the most part me included).

But in other parts of the world there are arranged marriages where love is supposed to come later. Even back in 1800s and earlier people would often get married through community arrangements. One family knew another and the parents thought that their sons and daughters would make a good match. Even the ancient Spartans had this weird marriage ritual where they put young men and women together in a dark cave. Whoever opposite gender you grabbed first and walked out with into the light would become your spouse.

I have to wonder how often people ended up with someone they weren’t attracted to. However divorces were way less common many years ago. If so many people were really that miserable with their arranged marriage you would have to think there would be some serious mental health issues and more violence back then. But at least historically this wasn’t the case.

I have an opportunity to marry a younger woman who has an excellent personality and is a very hard worker. We have been friends with for a few years now. It was her idea is purely for economical reasons. It would benefit us both.

But I am not in love with her and she knows that. She said she doesn’t care if I date and sleep with other people. This would be a paper marriage.

I have gotten advice for a few trusted people about this. All but one person said it’s a bad idea. I am leaning towards no myself but besides the economical arrangement a part of me wonders if I’ll ever find an ideal partner given my age.

Ever since I hit 36 (in my early 40s now) my dating life has been hell on earth trying to find a truly decent woman I feel attracted to. I have had a few flings with attractive women who would make horrible wives. I tried dating a girl who i felt so so about physically just for her personality. That slowly got agonizing. I ended up breaking up with her and that ended very badly (she went psycho).

However of me just WANTS this life milestone. But I don’t want to be an adulterer. Even though she understands I might date other woman I do have spiritual beliefs. Oddly the Bible doesn’t say anything direct about premarital sex (but it heavily implied that’s not alright). But it is VERY clear about adultery. I wouldn’t feel comfortable cheating on my wife. Even if it really is a paper marriage and it doesn’t sit well with me.