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I typically don’t. If they’ve made up their mind, then why fight it?

Most recently, a woman text me after 4 dates saying that it was really nice getting to know me, but she didn’t think we’re a good fit for each other, she knows that I’ll find what I’m looking for, and that I’m such a great kisser. I never responded. It was such a shock to me because we were making out at my house the night before and our conversations were going great. Some people said that I should’ve responded politely to end on good terms, while others said I did the right thing by not replying.

Another time, a few years back, a woman rejected me after a couple of dates by texting me she was so sorry, but she wanted to get back with her ex. I never responded, but mutual friends have sent me tweets that she put out about me and most recently she’s been appearing in my suggested on Instagram (does that mean she’s viewing my profile?). In the tweets she’s complained about not getting closure and that she’s had people die without saying bye. I think she has anxiety or something. So why not text/call me again then if you care so much?

Overall, I don’t think it’s worth it. It’s different by doing the rejection in person or via phone call.

I was talking to a girl a few years ago. She was really interested in me and wanted a relationship. I kind of pushed her away because of things I was dealing with. It definitely seemed like a rejection from her viewpoint. I always felt awful about rejecting her, so I apologized and told her what I was thinking. I said it was my fault and she didn't do anything wrong, and that she is great. I told her it was my anxiety and depression and I didn't handle it well and I didn't want to reject her. I owned up to everything, took full blame and shared what I never was comfortable sharing with anyone. Her response was to ignore my apology and then post a picture of her all Dolled up trying to look as good as possible. Her hair done, makeup, trying to look like an Instagram model. She doesn't always post pictures like this, so the timing felt intentional. My impression of it was like a, hey, I'm great this is what you're missing type of thing.

Noone owes anyone forgiveness, but I am put off by this response. I went from feeling sad I hurt her feelings to feeling grossed out by her character. I told her she was great, and it was my anxiety and depression, and she responded like I had rejected her. I don't know, no response at all would have been one thing. But to kind of rub it in someone's face with a "Screw you im the bomb" post after someone talks about dealing with depression. That seems kind of messed up to me.

Where do you stand? Noone owes forgiveness or her response was a red flag?