Search Results: needing more in a relationship

New relationships have so much excitement and energy. There are surprises and unexpected pleasures and every day brings something new. But after some period of months, or maybe a few years, there aren't many surprises and the excitement isn't at the same level as before. Eventually, you've tried everything you wanted to do in the bedroom and you are repeating things you've done before. It's the same-old same-old.

Some people are okay with things settling into a routine. For some of us, knowing what to expect is comfortable, and we don't have a need for excitement as much as we need stability and comfort. But some people need more excitement and stimulation. (How many people claim that they cheated on a partner because they got "bored?")

For this question, "long term relationship" means a relationship that has lasted at least one year. What do YOU need in a LTR: stability and comfort, or excitement and novelty?

Hi, I met this girl back in may 2023, a distance relationship, and we broke up recently. To be shorter I’m gonna say that she used to love me more than I loved her, we both put effort but she always put more, she used to be so excited about me, but recently we broke up because her feelings towards me changed, she isn’t excited about me anymore, and in her heart she doesn’t feel anything about me, she doesn’t feel the way she used to. I made my mistakes and we’ve been through up and downs, but I always gave her love and care. Throughout our relationship I matured and changed, I became a better person and learnt to give her all the love and care she deserved, even before the break up, but it was already too late. She said that there might be even the slightest chance that I can make her fall in love, win her heart again, get her back to me, and despite everything I never lost my hope and I’ll keep working hard for her, because I know that I’m a better man now and I deserve a new chance, even she said that I can have it, so what would you suggest me to do? What should I do to make her fall in love again? I’m in such a pain that I can’t explain by words, I want her back because I really can’t live without her, she was and she is my everything, and knowing that I actually have a chance relieves me but I need help pls, what should I do to get her back?