We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it. ~ Abraham Lincoln
Usually, when people look at you in a weird way, some of you automatically think "That person is hating me, that person does not like me or the way i act, or that person dislikes me for being me"
Yes, at times it might be right, it depends on the situation, but most of the times we just tend to over analyze a situation, not just in the case i mentioned above, but in EVERY SENSE, even with your Significant Other, sometimes even with Family and Friends ....
We need to seriously STOP, and try to live our lives to the best and fullest by simply IGNORING and LEARNING what is wrong with ourselves!!!
Being very sensitive, is not healthy, and if you get offended about every single thing that observes you, or is about you, or because it's more about THAT OTHER PERSON than you, then trust me, you need to change your habits, and i've been there, because i was very self centered ... I ADMIT !!
LOVE & DRAMA
Is your boyfriends female friend looking at you in a bad way, and is she trying to talk to your boyfriend a lot, and you presume she is trying to break you two up ???
Well guess what? IGNORE IT, because if HE WANTED TO BREAK UP WITH YOU, he would do it without hesitation, and without getting convinced by anyone !!
If somebody loves you, they will love YOU and they will never even listen to ONE negative thing people say about you, they will actually protect you, they will fight for you, and love you even harder, and you won't even notice ...
WORDS
It can be just that simple. In the heat of the moment, try asking yourself these questions: “What am I getting so bent out of shape for? Does this really matter? What’s the big deal?” Reason with yourself: “Did he really mean it the way I was just about to take it? Is he truly actually trying to hurt me? Well, then, what is he really trying to say?”
Tell yourself the person who is the potential offender has as much right to his opinion as you do to yours. Besides, they’re only words. What can words do? They certainly can’t break my bones!
OVERCOME SELF - CENTERDNESS
The It’s-All-About-Me mentality is fertile soil for being frequently offended. Every word out of every mouth, every action or inaction, all that is done or undone, all motives and intentions become a reflection on you. That is a HUGE burden to carry.
If everything is reduced to how it affects you, if you reside at the center of everything, no wonder you are so frequently offended! Move away from the center of everyone else’s life. You likely aren’t really there anyway. Nor should you be, in most cases. Allow most of life to be indifferent to you. My bad mood isn’t about you. Your mom’s neglect isn’t even about you either. It’s about her! This way, less in life will offend you and happiness will be much less fleeting too.
ACCEPT IMPERFECTION
If you expect others to act and speak a certain way, or assume others will be as kind or compassionate as you, if you’re offended when they don’t rise to the level of your expectation, you will almost always be offended or on the verge of it. Instead, allow people to be human. They are, after all.
None of us live up to expectations. But accept that too, not as an excuse to stop the moral climb, but as an understanding that where you are is fine for now, at this moment. Move from there, but right now, here, you are complete.
P.s. I'm glad to be semi back, I apologize to everyone for my disappearance from G@G but i had lots of work and as always traveled around, I'm sure i will share my experience on my other Takes.
Take care
<3 Natured
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