My Girlfriend Cheated On Me With Another Woman and Everyone Is Defending Her? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2017-10-07T20:31:38Z

I was dating my girlfriend for 3 years. Everything was fine but she started acting weird. Then one day I came home from work early and found her in bed with another woman. I was hurt and angry so I told her to get her stuff and get out of my apartment and I left and came back to the apartment later that night and she was gone along with her stuff. We spoke later on the phone and basically, she said thought she was gay when she was a kid but then thought she was straight when she was a teenager and then thought she was a lesbian at 17 but then was straight again and now she is realizing she is bisexual. She had urges and fantasies she never got to explore and she didn't feel that I am a man was good enough or her because I didn't fulfill the other side of her attraction. This is a bullshit excuse. If she is bisexual, fine whatever, but that doesn't excuse cheating. If she felt she couldn't handle being in a monogamous relationship or wanted to explore she could have talked to me about it or broken up with me and not stay with me and lie behind my back. Apparently, she has cheated on me several times with 2 women. My Ex girlfriend and I have the same circle of friends. When I went to the UNI I spoke to my friends and all of our friends defended her. They said I should be more understanding about LGBTQ issues and me feeling hurt for cheating doesn't compare to the historical oppression that LBGTQ people face. They said I can't understand it because I have the privilege to not deal with conflicting sexual feelings, and for me to be upset is sorta homophobic/biphobic and I'm not being empathetic enough. Honestly, this got me so mad I ended up dropping all of my friends. How can they defend her cheating on me because of conflicting feelings? Being Gay or Bisexual isn't an excuse to cheat. If she wanted to be a lesbian she could be honest and break up with me. How dare they call me homophobic for feeling the way I feel. Right now I hate my life. Advice or thoughts?