The only people I see who judge men for being genuinely upset are adult women and weak male feminists.
Telling someone to stop crying over spilt milk is one thing, actually shaming men for their feelings is another.
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Because in many places crying is seen as a sign of weakness and not being in control of your life. Also men were historically expected to be the defenders and protectors of the family, and many think that crying is a sign you are not tough and resilient enough. Many women even these days would reject a man who cries (as they themselves admitted on GaG).
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I'll never follow society stance on this - sometimes in life crying is needed and if I had a man who needed to cry I'll just be there with open arms or an ear to listen.
Maybe they see it as a sign of weakness. Many men do have problems with expressing emotions.. Maybe because they are scared and feel like others see u as week.
Not really, its like a language in my head programmed from birth, try having only English language your whole life and then suddenly you need to speak latin like you need training or something
This is ridiculous. Crying doesn't make anyone less emotionally solid or strong and thinking so is the epitome of weakness. This is why men commit suicide so frequently, because they've been culturally conditioned to associate being human with weakness. I was in the room holding my grandfather's hand while he died. I cried my eyes out but I was able to sit there and be with him while he passed on. There was strength in my tears. My brother on the other hand didn't shed one tear in front of anyone but had to leave the room frequently and had nightmares about the whole thing. Or what about the incredible nurses who through there tears helped my grandpa go as comfortable as they possibly could and were able to shake my father's hand and tell him it was an honour to look after his father. Are you going to honestly tell me that wasn't strength? Crying isn't a weakness thinking it is sure is though
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The only people I see who judge men for being genuinely upset are adult women and weak male feminists.
Telling someone to stop crying over spilt milk is one thing, actually shaming men for their feelings is another.
Because in many places crying is seen as a sign of weakness and not being in control of your life. Also men were historically expected to be the defenders and protectors of the family, and many think that crying is a sign you are not tough and resilient enough. Many women even these days would reject a man who cries (as they themselves admitted on GaG).
I'll never follow society stance on this - sometimes in life crying is needed and if I had a man who needed to cry I'll just be there with open arms or an ear to listen.
Because society is dumb. Crying is not always a sign a weakness. Sometimes it can be a sign of enormous strength.
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Because men are suppose to be strong and brave. And not show emotion according to society
Some people think showing emotion isn't masculine or something similar. I don't understand it.
Because a lot if cultures consider stoicism to be a virtue, especially for ken of traditionally or at least historically patriarchal societies.
Maybe they see it as a sign of weakness. Many men do have problems with expressing emotions.. Maybe because they are scared and feel like others see u as week.
Because society has always been a judgmental bitch.
Because men aren't allowed to have feelings, but we are supposed to bend over backwards any time a woman is upset.
Preach
It just does... due to outdated expectations and limitations based on sex.
I honestly wish i knew, i feel like crying sometimes but I've been so heavily programmed not to that i physically won't allow myself to
Break free of the coding😊
If only it was that easy
It's as easy, or as hard as you make it😊
Not really, its like a language in my head programmed from birth, try having only English language your whole life and then suddenly you need to speak latin like you need training or something
Self discipline
Nope they aren’t being judge , it’s their mentality that hunting them down and judging them. Crying is normal. It’s only wrong if you think it is
I don't judge them, it's not unusual to have feelings
Because men are supposed a source of stability for others. Particularly their wives and children
What do you think? Your opinions must be rejected, so you seeked to us.
I honestly don't understand myself. Men too should cry once in a while. It's unhealthy for you and your relations to keep everything to yourself.
Because people tend to judge so called transgressions if masculinity very harshly, which results in then society not being very fond of men crying
Because society has made men to be strong reliable and emotionally solid
This is ridiculous. Crying doesn't make anyone less emotionally solid or strong and thinking so is the epitome of weakness. This is why men commit suicide so frequently, because they've been culturally conditioned to associate being human with weakness. I was in the room holding my grandfather's hand while he died. I cried my eyes out but I was able to sit there and be with him while he passed on. There was strength in my tears. My brother on the other hand didn't shed one tear in front of anyone but had to leave the room frequently and had nightmares about the whole thing. Or what about the incredible nurses who through there tears helped my grandpa go as comfortable as they possibly could and were able to shake my father's hand and tell him it was an honour to look after his father. Are you going to honestly tell me that wasn't strength? Crying isn't a weakness thinking it is sure is though
Men have to look representable and strong, even emotionally.
You cannot let your feelings get control over you.
It's a bad look to show weakness.
It’s not a weakness in my opinion
Randomlips i agree with you