While I believe that Single mothers celebrating fathers for themselves doesn't really affect other fathers who were good, I do somewhat agree with this meme and find it annoying when I read many Facebook and social media posts from single mothers using their own father's day celebration as an excuse to bash on their baby daddies or deadbeat ex-significant other (which really doesn't do any justice for their children) and take the spotlight away from fathers who were good.
You never hear from single fathers making thousands of social media post celebrating mother's day to bash on their significant other or baby mamas and make this day about themselves to take the spotlight away from women who are good mothere.
Yes, I agree. This is stupid. Women need to stop thinking that the world revolves around single mothers and use Father's day as an excuse to vent their personal baggage and steal the holiday from men who are great fathers.
No, it still doesn't affect any other men or people that had great fathers.
No, Single mothers have just as much of a right to celebrate father's day as actual fathers do. Plus, no one is holding single fathers back from celebrating Mother's day.
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*good mothers*
What are your thoughts on this ranting meme about single mothers celebrating father's day?
I get that it's not doing any damper to the father's on father's day... But still.
It's like remembering ALL veterans on memorial day. When memorial day is for only the soldiers we have LOST. Even and especially veterans don't like themselves being grouped with the fallen and recognized during memorial day. Because they have veterans day. And memorial day is for the lost men. Not them.
The same sort of principle applies here. There is a mother's day. But this isn't it. This is for the mother's counterpart: fathers. It's just more respectful. Okay?
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i voted b.
i just don't see why good fathers should care. if you aren't a deadbeat, if you are present in your child's life, if you are a good father then that is all that should matter to you.
it may be in somewhat poor taste to bash bad dads publicly but it's really of no consequence to me or really anyone who isn't a bad dad
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It isn't of no consequences and all and these single mothers have the right to feel whatever they want about their own deadbeat ex significant others or horrible dads but it's still setting up a bad example for their own children that they're taking care of on their own, to be publically venting and ranting their personal baggage for their children to see.
It doesn't make them mothers of the year to use Father's Day as an excuse to expect special treatment (on a day intended for men who were great fathers or great father figures) for being a single mother and venting their problems publically.
so what's the consequence to the children? they see that their mother is unhappy that their deadbeat fathers aren't upholding their responsibility? seriously?
no one suggested they should be mother's of the year. again it's of no consequence. perhaps we should take the time to evaluate the problem of single parent households where men and women do not uphold their duties as parents rather than targeting the parent who is doing their job
I don't think it's affecting any father. They could be doing this for the kids. So they don't feel left out. Otherwise their kids won't celebrate father's day ever. Not good if its just done for likes
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Pretty much. It's not to say that single mothers don't have the right to celebrate Father's Day, but the way many of them celebrate on social media is what bugs the crap out of me. They make it about themselves rather than their children while they use father's day as a lame excuse to call out and bash on the deadbeats and their own baby daddies, which in the end, still doesn't do any justice or good for their children.
I've never heard of any single fathers celebrating mother's day the way single mothers do with father's day, let alone, even celebrate mother's day (as single fathers) for themselves at all.
There isn't much you can do about that. I would love see a single father celebrating mother's day. Unfollow or unfriend. I do the same to annoying people
Certainly there's some sort of father figure in the children's lives they can celebrate... I mean like a grandpa? Uncle? Teacher? ... Neighbor?
Kids need at least one of both genders to influence them. In some way shape or form. Certainly there is some father figure or male relative they could celebrate on father's day to not feel left out of having a father. Right?
I don't buy this whole both father and mother are needed for a child view. Because that rules out all the same sex couples raising kids. If a kid doesn't have a father then it should be ok to celebrate it with his mother or someone who has been like a father to him. But not necessarily a male.
... no. Dude. The reason it's called "father" and "mother" is cause it's a damn BOY AND GIRL. Otherwise it would just be called "parent #1" and "parent #2" gees.
They can have two mothers-- great! Two fathers? Swell! Wonderful!!! 😀😀 But they are defined as mother or father by *sex* not how they treat the child.
But a kid of either gender. I think. Should have at least one person of both genders they can look up to as a role model and mentor. At least. Two of the same is fine. As long as there's some form of the other. Even if it's just a teacher at school. Every child has a father and mother figure whether they're taught to or not. Even if they are an orphan. It's healthy.
By that logic kids with both parents will have to be successful and kids with a single parent are bound to be a failure. But that's not the case. Some times both the mother & father are not great parents and the kid grows up with a shitty personality. And many times the single parent kid grows to be a wonderful citizen. Even if he never had a mother or father figure in life. How do you explain that?
Everyone has a mother and father figure. That's basically a fact. Even if they didn't have an actual mother or father. They had mentors. And role models. That's how kids learn and grow. From being taught and guided and shown. By BOTH sexes. Whether they are biologcal parents or not.
The votes by men never fail to disappoint me 😂 lol when is a single woman taking all of the dad's fun? If children want to give their single mom's credit on Father's day then what's your problem?
I do think it's stupid and an attention grab. I know single parents have it hard but no matter how much you try you can't be 2 parents. Just let the ones who can have their day and be happy with the days you get.
Given how many fathers day posts I saw on facebook where the woman was the center of attention, I wonder how women would react if men treated mothers day that way. My guess is they wouldn't like it.
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I hate to generalize all women with pseudo biological science bullshit but it seems like a large chunk of women (mainly Western Women) have this mindset biologically ingrained into their brains that the world revolves around them.
It isn't bad in itself. It's kinda like the incel movement you wouldn't think they were harmful just by saying 'theyre people who can't get laid'
Single mothers often do it to spite men, branding all men as 'unworthy' of their own day, making the day about themselves. If you don't believe me look at the feminist blog, (THE one) and look at how many anti father's Day articles there are.
Yes, Father's Day is for fathers, for men. Fathers all over the world are doing great jobs raising great kids. They deserve a day of recognition for that. Mothers have Mother's Day and women have International Women's Day.
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