Why is being a housewife frowned upon in today’s society?

Question

What’s wrong with being a wife that likes spends her time at home to cook, clean, take care of the children, and greet her husband when he walks through the door?

Ideally speaking, I would want to be a working woman and be a housewife when I get married.

JimboGB · Accepted Answer

I won't get into it too much. I will only try to explain why society thinks it is wrong. There are many reasons but there are some fundermental contributors.
For one, the goverment of a nation builds the fabric of its society, its system, culture and demographics. These are not mistakes, even though they would like to remove the sense of responsibility.
For example, pushing for mass migration, which benefits the powerful and influential multinational corporations, to bring in cheap labour, also means they don't encourage their own populations to reproduce in greater numbers (encouraging and promoting family values would help this matter) which is cheaper for the corporations to import third world migrants then encourage an influx of first world citizens.

A rejection of religion and all its connotations. The break down of the family is linked to a loss of faith and religion in the west. We have replaced the family unit with greed, materialism and consumerism, over religious selflessness.

We have pushed a anti human environment agenda which will literally argue for less births and a lowering of the global population. (Prince Harry being a perfect viture signalling example)

Atheism is defined by the here and now, not the future. About what I use, not what I leave behind. Our current age is defined by attaining and owning material products in order to reach our selfish wants and desires.

Society also frowns upon house wifes because of propaganda feminists spread about "empowering" women and how tradition prevented women from reaching their potential.
Society likes to claim that it is wrong, because of fundamental feminism. Now there is nothing wrong with feminism, working towards equality for women is a good thing which the large majority support. But anything fundamentalist is counterproductive. When you tell someone that your a housewife, carefully planned propaganda pops up in the person's mind, that the only person who would ever want to be a housewife, is a victimized, uneducated, manipulated, and controlled woman. Now this is not true at all.

Fundamental feminists are generally women, who hate men, do not trust men, and feel that men should step down from power and allow only women to rule, they also lobby for special rights and freedoms enjoyed exclusively by women; Green party leader in the Uk, Caroline Lucas for example called for a all woman cabinet to take over the govement to cancel brexit and her reasoning was, "men are too tribal" 😄 the irony wasn't lost on her and you couldn't make this up. (Got a little side tracked lol)

Massageman · Accepted Answer

Society is getting it more wrong every day.

Virtues of a good wife
An excellent wife is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She dresses herself[b] with strength
and makes her arms strong.
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.[c]
She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

Prov 31: 10-31

Bensbrie · Accepted Answer

I mean, honestly I think people make a big deal out of stuff that's not even worth getting so upset about. When someone just gets so upset, smile at them and tell them to have a blessed day. Ask if they need a hug or something lol. But seriously, being a housewife isn't easy. If you have more than one child and they are young it especially isn't. Some men think that being a housewife is a piece of cake and that some women are just lazy, but that's not true. I wouldn't mind not working one day and having our own tiny house to take care of. Making a home isn't just about the physical aspects, but also making a warm and welcoming environment where a person also feels spiritually and emotionally safe.

menina · Accepted Answer

For some women being an housewife is a problem because it goes against what women have been fighting for. Freedom, the right of studying and working, the right of making your own choices etc...
It reminds them of the time when women were forced to get married, have kids and staying all day at home cooking, cleaning and taking care of their kids. Unfortunately in some cultures women are still forced to get married, have children and become housewives.

But if you want to be a housewife go ahead. Don't listen to what people say because it's your life.

MzAsh · Answer

There’s nothing wrong with it if that’s what you want to do. I just know it’s not for me. I’d get bored, and you know what they say about idle hands.

CoffeeWC · Answer

Society is evolving, and housewives will become the minority if not already.

ChronicThinker · Answer

It isn't bad, it just isn't realistic in most societies these days. Most homes need to a dual income in order to afford the cost of living, especially when you add kids into the mix.

If you're lucky enough to marry someone who has a lot of money, then by all means. Stay home and avoid career aspirations if that's your preference. I personally don't see a point, seeing as. your kids eventually fly the coop and essentially leave you with no other purpose than cleaning up after your husband.

To me, it sounds dull, but I don't condemn people who do it.

Adam1978 · Answer

There is two reasons to not become a housewife, it put you in position of dependency which can be exploited or lost where you end up in one of the worst spot you can be, outside the job market because you haven't done anything the job market request for who knows how many years, your education is old and perhaps obsolete. And you got no retirement fonds.

The whole thing is a ticking time bomb.

I think that's the reason it's looked down on, it's crazy to take that risk if you don't need to.

But in the end those relationships are usually stronger than the modern ones. But it really boils down to picking a man with right values.

tartaarsaus · Answer

Well, it is pretty hard to sustain a family with just only the dad working. Furthermore, it is very hard to get back to working once your children are out of the house, because you just missed 18 years of relevant work experience in the years where careerbuilding happens.

It is all nice and well to dream of being a housewife, but the financial reality exists. A family needs sufficient money. A trade-off could be a family not having the money to ever go on vacation, just because the mom doesn’t want to work part-time.

Also, I’ve heard many find it boring but that is another matter.

Ellie-V · Answer

It’s not frowned upon. It’s just not a popular choice.
Most people probably wouldn’t understand but at the same time they wouldn’t ridicule you for it. It’s just a minority of assholes who go out of their way to make people like you feel bad.
In general, not many people care.

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

That really depends upon who you ask. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with that, so long as that is what you want. Feminists, especially feminist extremists, will probably see it as a step backward in the fight for female equality.

If that is what you want, then don't pay attention to those feminazis, you have the right to do what makes you happy, even if that means being a housewife.

JonT1993 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with it and everything right about it. That is if that's one of the things a woman want's to do in life. Someone has to do it. The problem today is that no one want's to do this (father or mother) and it's reflective in today's kids and lack of respect they have, lack of work ethic, lack of principles, lack of regard for life or humanity, entitlement, etc.

GreciaJackson · Answer

Since women have more opportunities, they want to be independent. It's not bad to be housewife, however, in today's society women tent to study, get a stable job, travel, and then they get married and have kids. Also, there are women who don't want to be mothers/wives and that is totally fine.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Nothing's wrong with that. The problem is people just assumes you're oppressed because of feminists who can't acknowledge the fact that that's how our brain is hardwired. Because they wanna be like men, they believe every women should. They hate femininity and hate men at the same time. I mean it's equality right? To hate both genders? I guess that's what they mean by "equality" Thinking being a housewife is BS but ignores the fact that's what makes children happy, keeps the family healthy and long lasting also ignoring she has the choice to work at home or be employed. All choice but their ego tells them to blame men for it.

JSmuve · Answer

Because that's "regressive, backwards-thinking" that's antithetical to the whole feminist empowerment movement. If you're not with them and their bra-burning demonstrations, then you're against them and woe be to the person who invites the wrath of loud, angry feminists. It's either they're right or you're wrong and there's no compromise about it to them.

I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home mom.

xkildy · Answer

My option is , Do what you want !!! Everyone does ready 😁. If you want to be a housewife my option is go for it. The only one holding you back is your self. And the friends people are called I don't like people telling me Society is evolving
Or the world is changing get with the program.
So just cause we want something outdated we are going to be forced in to something we don't want just cause it's 'the new normal'

kaewk · Answer

Because the media has succeeded in creating nations full of brainwashed individuals who perceive it not.

morrowlow · Answer

because people who believe in feminism think that a woman who stays home and raises kids is against their cause. according to them all women should do exactly what they say or they're not good women. but you should do what you want and no matter what you do people always have something to say. but i personally think women who can afford to stay home and do all kinds of housewifey things are lucky. a lot of women would love to do that but they need a job

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Because usually, housewives are lazy. The house is not clean, most times they order out instead of cooking (a lot of times, they don't know how to cook), and they let the kids run wild all over the house. Then when the kids are old enough to go to school, the women are still lazy don't want to contribute and they still don't clean or cook. So yeah, it's not ideal. I've known several guys that have and are currently struggling with this exact situation

Radi8rspringsdoc · Answer

Nothing wrong
And Good idea but make sure your spouse does equal amount of household work as you if you decide to work a job, or else you'll get tremendous amount of stress and start hating yourself.
Safe option would be either becoming a housewife, or a working woman.

DirtyD408 · Answer

Probably because women now are more profitable then most guys. And it's really not that impressive. Every one should do their part as humankind. I've been in the kitchen since knee high, know how to so, crochet, fairies artistic and also jack of all trades. Put it down every step or body movement I do. Know how to treat a real woman and also beat down any opposition to my kinfolk. I mean that's what I got to say. There's just too many women that are able to lay on their back, others do more than just that and those are the ones we'll be cheating on with

btbc92 · Answer

Feminism And bad men who calls them lazy. We women were not meant to overwork ourselves. But what's rewarding aboitbworking outside the home or having a job is you make income. I think it really all depends on the type of environment and people you are around. My mother was a housewife before she died. And a lot of people who were working people gave her smack. But she wanted to work, but couldn't get the jobs she wanted. And it hurt her and her self esteem. She felt like she wasn't a good wife.

Levin · Answer

Women have bitten into the apple from the tree of knowledge. Women aren't precious little princesses anymore. Therefore, men resent treating them like they are, because they get taken advantage of. I treat my 9 year old niece like she's a princess. She deserves it.

Society isn't like this anymore. Sounds too idyllic. Sounds too privileged. Your husband will have to have a very well paying job.

SkipStop · Answer

Feminists / Misandrists think it's oppressive and the evil patriarchy. They say it turns women into slaves even if she enjoys the old school feminine lifestyle. That's why they hate on women who are conservative / traditional. But most men prefer feminine women. It's attractive and most effective in creating the best family.

ShortCircuit · Answer

Because even if you have young children to look after all day, that you would've otherwise had to pay a babysitter to do, and you do ALL household chores--your contribution to the household still amounts to less monetary value than federal minimum wage.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Because what they are really saying is "I don't want to go to work or contribute to society in any way, I just want people to take care of me like my parents did when I was a child."

Greeting people and "accepting their money with love" is not a job.

HOAAH · Answer

I think if you can find a husband who is well off financially and allows you to be a housewife, than why not? Be happy with your decisions and ignore everyone else who opposes you. You are not living to please them anyway.

Expecto_patronads · Answer

Feminism usually comes full circle and contradicts itself. They're so focused on women being independent that they oppose women being housewives, taking away a choice. Like that dipshit Alyssa Milano, with that failed "sex strike" making women seem like their only use is their bodies

GigiMary · Answer

It is not! At least, not by those who have respect for a women's choice of their own career. I have met a few who don't think my aspirations to be a housewife are respectable, but they most certainly do not represent society as a whole.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

If you choose to be a housewife then it should be fine by all right.

However with the big feminist movement going on. More and more woman look down on a housewife. Telling her should could have her own job.

Not trying to bash on a working class woman by any means.

Also there are a lot of single parents out there trying to fill both rolls. But I would think the number is like 1 man for every 3 women as least.

Catnipboi03 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with choosing and enjoying being a housewife, or a househusband for that matter! It is frowned upon only by those whose agenda it does not further politically. Your a person and no one's pawn!

AnthonyBufoni · Answer

Being a housewife is not only one of the most important but also one of the most difficult jobs in the world. I use the word "job" for lack of a better term, but it goes way beyond a job. Being a housewife, you don't have a set time to clock in and there's no time that you can say "I'm off" it is a 24/7 365 day thing. Housewives have my unwavering admiration and utmost respect 🙌

Passinggas · Answer

It doesn't fit with the anti-family Cultural-Marxist liberal-feminist's agenda to destroy society. Once one accepts that liberals/feminists are all about death, dissolution, and destruction of the current society to replace it with their communist-utopian-tyranny, then everything makes perfect sense.

MrTuxedo · Answer

It actually isn't. It's just those stupid feminists who think that housewifes do everything and men just sit and do nothing. There's nothing wrong with being housewife, if you want of course.

PositiveT · Answer

No idea. As long as the man earns enough to support the family then I'd be quite happy with the idea. In the same way that if the woman learnt enough money, I'd be happy being a househusband. Either way it means the house is kept nice & there'd be more chance of getting jobs done that are more difficult when you both work.

grkmanga · Answer

I wish I could find a housewife... what's wrong with it is that there are barely any left !!! Most girls wanna be like guys and work. But then are hypocritical when it comes to dates and want guys to pay lol. Ahh maybe I need to move out of this country

Gedaria · Answer

By who, I don't. You have children someone needs to look after them. Whether it the man or the woman, usually it's the woman, I find this better than sending them to the child minder. Only problem with that is the child is brought up with the child minder attitude not the parents...

Cask23 · Answer

No. I live in a fairly high income area and I'd say at least 80% of the women are stay at home moms, including my wife.

In fact, in some ways being a stay at home mom/wife is a status symbol. Life is so expensive that only the highest incomes in upper middle and higher classes can afford it.

The only people that "look down" upon it are other jealous working moms who can't afford to do it and feminists who mostly become lonely cat ladies cause men can't stand them.

abc3643 · Answer

It's not, but it's also not very realistic because 2 incomes are now needed to "make it through life".

PrettyRegular · Answer

The problem is that you wouldn't make any money and one person should make the money for the whole family. Surely even your husband would rather stay at home and do some tasks, than go to work, but I don't think it works that way. Of course if your husband would approve it, why not, but he should have a good salary to provide alone.

holograph · Answer

Because a family needs two sources of income these days unless one parent is rich to begin with.

There are a bunch of replies here from men saying they would love it. Most men today are NOT like that.

95% of us are going to expect you to work.

MajesticTwelve · Answer

Nothing wrong with it at all. Feminists have ruined society, don't let them ruin you too.

candyaurora · Answer

If you are happy being a housewife then it's all good. Only becomes a problem when women are forced into it.

Avicenna · Answer

It's viewed askance for two reasons- the high cost of living and the danger that if the marriage ends, the woman is left unable to support herself and her kids as well as she would be able to if she had developed a career or continued to develop one.

Dav1ss · Answer

Because some people demand women to be stronger then men

TrueGem · Answer

I don’t care. I want to be a housewife and I’ll find a man who will provide for me

KeniKeni · Answer

Its not frowned upon. It's the thought that all women should be

humanearth · Answer

Hell screw them assholes who say that. My wife is a housewife and at one I was a housewife to.

There's no shame in being a housewife. As a matter a fact it can be the worlds toughest job and you do it for free.

distressedanonymus · Answer

Blame your feminist women for this one. I've seen girls make fun of my fiance for being a stay home woman.

I make enough money to keep the house running fairly well and give her a good life and her and I believe in gender roles so feminists can go fuck themselves.

It's gotten out of hand when they claim men have fragile sexuality when they dont want to have sex with a guy pretending to be a chick. Nothing against trans but I'd never have sex with one or date one nor would most men

markscott · Answer

There is nothing wrong with being a housewife, particularly is there are children. It's a lot of hard work and coordination of activities and needs, to be an effective housewife.

buttcrackjoe · Answer

thats how it should be but modern lifestyle is expensive and unless your hubby has an above job average good luck

Piteka5 · Answer

Society has totally lost track of what it should or should not be doing, so it just strikes in all directions, everything is seen with bad eyes nowadays

LuWe22 · Answer

Because it is not paying the bills. To be financially dependent on a single partner is not wise. What happens if he gets fired? What happens if he can't work anymore? What happens if he dies?

Edanurus · Answer

Ideally speaking I would be happy in a traditional relationship. The issue is that a single income family is something that the privileged can afford but most can't.

bolverk · Answer

The only ones who frown up being a housewife are the "Radical Feminists" and their allies who look down on one of societies hardest multi-skilled occupations that has no breaks, its full on all day - every day.

name_is_eric · Answer

It's not. It's honorable and you'll gain much more respect that way. Only feminists and weak men are against it.

TheFlak38 · Answer

because society wants to strip you off your feminine nature and turn you into a depressed, miserable, ball-busting career woman without your consent.

genericname85 · Answer

you know what's the more pressing question? why is in todays society still nobody a "househusband"? i personally wouldn't mind having a wive with a career while i do the cooking and shit.

normalice · Answer

Conservatives tend to regard it as "freeloading" when anyone alive doesn't help some rich guy obtain more money.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I want to be a mom but not a housewife. I dont find anything fun about cooking and cleaning. I rather go work then come home to my kiddies

BeHappy1985 · Answer

Because it shows that you're a useless member of the society and you have no aspirations in life

hellacray · Answer

It's frowned upon? That's my idea of a perfect wife. I know some side gigs that can be done at home or around the neighborhood so she actually can earn some money while doing those things.

mermaidia_lol · Answer

That's what I've dreamed of being since I was five years old but people destroyed that for me.

loveslongnails · Answer

Who told you it's "frowned upon"? The simple economics are that only a small percentage of families can exist on one income, so being a stay at home mom is a luxury these days.

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