Teacher makes me feel uncomfortable!

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I'm a senior and I have a teacher that kind of scares me. He had his eye on me since the beginning of the year, singled me out and picked on me non-stop. By picking on me I mean that he would publicly make fun of me, pick on what I say and watch me outside of class. He's 28. People in my class have noticed too,especially when he called me beautiful. When I verbalize my concerns to others, they don't understand me as he's considered 'cool'. The only one who understands and has herself picked up some very awkward vibes from him towards me is my close friend. I've spoken to him and told him that I feel uncomfortable with his 'picking' on me. He said he'd try to treat me normally. That was a week ago. The number of comments he makes have gone down. But he started continuously staring at me. In the halls, at lunch and especially at class. He was once showing a movie and I felt watched during the whole effing thing, and when I checked he was already watching me.

This is a very broad summary of numerous incidents, but you and I don't have time for details ;).

I'm almost done school anyways but I still would seriously appreciate feedback from all of you...what is this all about?

ayla79 · Accepted Answer

I am a teacher and worked with seniors and also in adult ed. I'm telling you this because I have worked with both male and female teachers that simply have no boundaries. This situation has also happened to me as a third year Uni student where my Lit teacher was 27 and kept picking on me as well. So I've seen both sides. First of, it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with this guy. You are a young woman, he is probably single and although he KNOWS that he is NOT ALLOWED to date a student BY LAW, (at least there was legislation forbidding teacher-student dating where I worked), his feelings are all over the place and that's why he is picking on you. He probably thinks that by "picking on you" it makes it all look like innocent fun and that other people won't realize what he's doing. In my case (at Uni) although I was a scholarship student, the guy almost failed me and caused me my scholarship grant cause I didn't flirt back. I've seen female teachers, scantily dressed, leaning over students "innocently" and having their underwear showing in order to provoke them. I DO KNOW that what you say is 100 per cent LEGIT. I need you to be VERY careful. As a teacher, I've seen other teachers bad mouth students to head masters (or other stuff) for their behavior setting a precedent and causing them trouble. These people can go from simple flirting, to being very vindictive if they don't get the attention they crave. And since I don't know this man, I cannot possibly know what he is after. He could be a weirdo who wants you to flirt back (DONT DO IT EVER) just to get his cudos points OR could be a mega-weirdo who wants to have sex! In any case never find yourself in a situation where you are alone with him. In my case, I went to talk about my project with this idiot and he locked the office door! Nothing happened but he freaked me out so much I almost lost it! When and if he asks to see you for whatever reason go with your friend! Avoid this person at all costs. And IF he goes on acting like so tell someone. Department manager or supervisor or head master whomever. They need to know! Also tell family members you can trust. Cause it could get ugly! I'm not trying to scare you but its best to be safe with people like that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah sounds like he has a crush on you, if it makes you uncomfortable, you should tell him again, you've already done it once, and that made him cool it down a bit. the picking on you was to have your attention, just like if he were a guy just having a laugh and picking on you to actually show affection.

I have a similar problem with a manager at work, he stares at me constantly, I feel watched on a daily basis, he comes and makes an effort to say good morning to me, even though he has no reason to be on my department. And he knows I know he does it, because he's on ocassion made it so damn obvious by actually following my direction change, and ending up in the same place, despite clearly going somewhere else before he saw me.

unfortunately for me, I haven't yet confronted him, because, well... I don't know how to yet. But you've done it once, you can do it again...

good luck, and if you can tell me how to get rid of mine, ideas would help...thanks.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think you should express your concerns to some sort of authority, anonymously if you feel more comfortable. I'm not someone who would normally be all for 'telling,' but this guy sounds really out of line. I realize you're graduating, but who knows what will happen in the future with him and other young girls; if something terrible were to happen later on, and you hadn't expressed your feelings now...? Plus, while you can handle yourself, another girl might be made to feel much less comfortable by actions like these, even if it didn't go further, and that's not something anyone should have to worry about.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He probably has a crush on you. I mean, you're either 17 or 18 if you're a senior so you're probably already "developed" and guys of all ages are going to take note. It's probably worse for him because he sees you so often.

There are other avenues you could take if you feel very uncomfortable such as telling your parents, the school admin or other teachers, etc. However, as you mentioned the school year is almost done and if you can ride it out a little while longer you will be done with it and never have to see him again. Assuming he is not picking on you in terms of giving you unfair grades or anything like that then riding it out may be the best solution.

Marciano1 · Accepted Answer

Look the reason he keeps pickin on you is for the reason your asking this question...he wants to get in your head... don't look around or at him to see if he is looking at you (cos he will think that your looking around to see where he is & that will make him continue with his cheap intentions), so show no interest, don't smile at him either ...don't giv him a chance to get to know you, cos that's why he is pickin on you, he wants to get comfortable talkin to you...stay with your female friends and if he does anything that you don't like then make sure he doesn't get away with it..& tell your parents as well.

confused4now · Answer

He definitely likes you and I'm willing to bet it's because you're incredibly hot.  I think this is a judgement call.  If you think he just really likes you but he's harmless that's one thing.  You'll probably get a better grade anyway.  If he starts touching you or saying out of bounds things... or quid pro quo... then report it.  It's okay if he knows you're hot.  Who doesn't, right?

Rubzie · Answer

Don't worry about it, it seems like he's got a crush on you.There's my economics teacher who always makes rude jokes with me and tries to flirt. He's funny and tries to always touch me. But to be honest just ignore him. If it gets worst then just report him, but I think it will not get that far.

throwit · Answer

i felt uncomfortable around one of my young teachers too. he always seemed to stand a little too close and act different to me than to other students.

but I'm a senior and its finally over and I never have to see him again.

i think maybe sticking it out would be better because if you report him it could start a lot of legal drama and it could really be over nothing

JuatAnotherGirl · Answer

Same with me... but I am 16 and he is probably in his mid 30's at the least. I see him every damn day and sometimes weekends and after schools (I live in a bording school). Today he winked and clicked his tongue at me. I was the only one that actually saw it but my friend heard the clicking and we both pissed off before anything else happened... scary... Anyway hope ou sorted it out! It can be heaps scary ay.

Distant · Answer

He probably fancies you. Especially, if he's young. Just be wary and conservative while in his class or around him in general. Tell someone if it gets TOO serious. Ride this out until school is up and you'll be fine.

~Distant

Jm186 · Answer

Sounds to me like he has a sort of crush or fixation on you, which is professionally inappropriate.  I'm a mature man, and I can appreciate finding a young woman beautiful to look at-you are in your physical prime and your beauty can be very compelling--but he is in a power situation with you. He should NOT be behaving in this way.  He is most likely harmless, but I'd still talk to an authority figure at school about it.  You deserve to feel safe at school.

nette9648 · Answer

HeY! that's what happen to me too! He would often call me to answer question and we always have eye contact which all of my girlfriends say he most of the time doesn't; look at them..and him standing near to me.. when he teach, I could fell him watching my every single move! When he talk to me he would also blush as he is a shy guy..I always felt that there is something between us! :D

kittyheartyou · Answer

I have the same issue with my Teacher, exept he is really old... if you don't believe me, go to Google Images, and type the name " Mr. Racco" and he is the old dude with gray afro

smokahontas · Answer

Well if you think this is a major concern,you should tell the school about it Also he is still kind of young and probably likes you when he seems to stare at you a lot

Shaun · Answer

This is dangerous ground, I'd think long and hard about whether he's done something actionable before you ruin his life. It's possible you are mistaken.

DanielSan · Answer

I would make a complain to your school if you care that much. Otherwise just let it go. Unless you care enough to do something about it you should attempt to ignore it

Anonymous · Answer

lol, he sounds like me except I screwed that chick when she came into my ta office

Anonymous · Answer

In my opinion, I think he's just being a creep and not genuinely interested. Just ignore him. Even if he really IS interested, then he's being unprofessional.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it's all in your head...

NonchalantBro · Answer

post some pics?

Teacher makes me feel uncomfortable!

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