This is a very broad summary of numerous incidents, but you and I don't have time for details ;).
I'm almost done school anyways but I still would seriously appreciate feedback from all of you...what is this all about?
Yeah sounds like he has a crush on you, if it makes you uncomfortable, you should tell him again, you've already done it once, and that made him cool it down a bit. the picking on you was to have your attention, just like if he were a guy just having a laugh and picking on you to actually show affection.
I have a similar problem with a manager at work, he stares at me constantly, I feel watched on a daily basis, he comes and makes an effort to say good morning to me, even though he has no reason to be on my department. And he knows I know he does it, because he's on ocassion made it so damn obvious by actually following my direction change, and ending up in the same place, despite clearly going somewhere else before he saw me.
unfortunately for me, I haven't yet confronted him, because, well... I don't know how to yet. But you've done it once, you can do it again...
good luck, and if you can tell me how to get rid of mine, ideas would help...thanks.
Wow, that manager of yours sounds like a real creep! I mean following you around. If I were you I would say something to him, that would repel him. Just say something blunt. With men women need to learn to be blunt. It's easier for you than for me , I mean he even works in a dif. department so one morning when he greets you, be like 'hi' and look annoyed or just confront him when he follows you! "funny how you always go the same direction as me" and look at him irritated. And walk in a fast pace
Well I can certainly look into those things, and believe me, I'll try anything... yes, personally if this were happening in the outside world, and not in work, I would tell him to stop stalking me,but I wanna approach this kind of sensitively, cause I like my job, and him being a manager...he might be sly and lie...but I'm taking note believe me, and will try and pull of some of these things...cause its not nice, makes me feel uncomfortable
yeah be sure to watch your back or talk to someone about this... maybe he just crushes on you though and is shy?
Yeah it could be he is, I think he's more nervous, but that don't make what he's doing right, because it makes me uncomfortable, and unfortunately without meaning to I encourage him, but only because I'm aware of him.
No, no I definitely didn't mean to hint that what he's doing is acceptable! I was just trying to provide you with an explanation on why he's acting so askew. But since this is a real problem for you and you need to be sensitive in this setting, I suggest you just look pissed around him and don't reply to his good mornings, you are only encouraging his behavior! Google some tips on how to seem UN-interested and apply them. Since you need be subtle with this guy, work your body language, Goodluck
Nah its OK. and thanks for the advice, hope you manage to solve yours...
I think you should express your concerns to some sort of authority, anonymously if you feel more comfortable. I'm not someone who would normally be all for 'telling,' but this guy sounds really out of line. I realize you're graduating, but who knows what will happen in the future with him and other young girls; if something terrible were to happen later on, and you hadn't expressed your feelings now...? Plus, while you can handle yourself, another girl might be made to feel much less comfortable by actions like these, even if it didn't go further, and that's not something anyone should have to worry about.
He probably has a crush on you. I mean, you're either 17 or 18 if you're a senior so you're probably already "developed" and guys of all ages are going to take note. It's probably worse for him because he sees you so often.
There are other avenues you could take if you feel very uncomfortable such as telling your parents, the school admin or other teachers, etc. However, as you mentioned the school year is almost done and if you can ride it out a little while longer you will be done with it and never have to see him again. Assuming he is not picking on you in terms of giving you unfair grades or anything like that then riding it out may be the best solution.
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Look the reason he keeps pickin on you is for the reason your asking this question...he wants to get in your head... don't look around or at him to see if he is looking at you (cos he will think that your looking around to see where he is & that will make him continue with his cheap intentions), so show no interest, don't smile at him either ...don't giv him a chance to get to know you, cos that's why he is pickin on you, he wants to get comfortable talkin to you...stay with your female friends and if he does anything that you don't like then make sure he doesn't get away with it..& tell your parents as well.
Thank you :) I appreciate your advice, I'll do as you say :D
He definitely likes you and I'm willing to bet it's because you're incredibly hot. I think this is a judgement call. If you think he just really likes you but he's harmless that's one thing. You'll probably get a better grade anyway. If he starts touching you or saying out of bounds things... or quid pro quo... then report it. It's okay if he knows you're hot. Who doesn't, right?
Yeah I won't sabotage his future, I only have like 2 weeks of classes left. It just bothers me because I dread his class and his presence. By the way your comment made me blush :P Thanks for your input
Don't worry about it, it seems like he's got a crush on you.There's my economics teacher who always makes rude jokes with me and tries to flirt. He's funny and tries to always touch me. But to be honest just ignore him. If it gets worst then just report him, but I think it will not get that far.
Oh...I hope you're okay. Maybe you guys are right, I'll just hang in there. I won't report him for sure, that would be too much considering he hasn't tried to touch me. But you too, be careful hun :)
i felt uncomfortable around one of my young teachers too. he always seemed to stand a little too close and act different to me than to other students.
but I'm a senior and its finally over and I never have to see him again.
i think maybe sticking it out would be better because if you report him it could start a lot of legal drama and it could really be over nothing
Same with me... but I am 16 and he is probably in his mid 30's at the least. I see him every damn day and sometimes weekends and after schools (I live in a bording school). Today he winked and clicked his tongue at me. I was the only one that actually saw it but my friend heard the clicking and we both pissed off before anything else happened... scary... Anyway hope ou sorted it out! It can be heaps scary ay.
He probably fancies you. Especially, if he's young. Just be wary and conservative while in his class or around him in general. Tell someone if it gets TOO serious. Ride this out until school is up and you'll be fine.
Thanks Distant, for answering this one too. I really appreciate your input :)
Sounds to me like he has a sort of crush or fixation on you, which is professionally inappropriate. I'm a mature man, and I can appreciate finding a young woman beautiful to look at-you are in your physical prime and your beauty can be very compelling--but he is in a power situation with you. He should NOT be behaving in this way. He is most likely harmless, but I'd still talk to an authority figure at school about it. You deserve to feel safe at school.
Yeah I would say he has a fixation/crush too. And yes, he is in a position of power, he shouldn't be abusing it like this. Thank you :) for reassuring me!
HeY! that's what happen to me too! He would often call me to answer question and we always have eye contact which all of my girlfriends say he most of the time doesn't; look at them..and him standing near to me.. when he teach, I could fell him watching my every single move! When he talk to me he would also blush as he is a shy guy..I always felt that there is something between us! :D
I have the same issue with my Teacher, exept he is really old... if you don't believe me, go to Google Images, and type the name " Mr. Racco" and he is the old dude with gray afro
Well if you think this is a major concern,you should tell the school about it
Also he is still kind of young and probably likes you when he seems to stare at you a lot
This is dangerous ground, I'd think long and hard about whether he's done something actionable before you ruin his life. It's possible you are mistaken.
I'm not planning on reporting him, that would be mean, especially since he hasn't done anything 'solid' if you know what I mean. But I just wonder, why me?! It's crazy.
I agree, if you report him even if he was Innocent it would ruin his career and he would probably never be able to get a teaching job again. Unless he has tenure.
I would make a complain to your school if you care that much.
Otherwise just let it go.
Unless you care enough to do something about it you should attempt to ignore it
lol, he sounds like me except I screwed that chick when she came into my ta office
not in the ta office, at my apartment
In my opinion, I think he's just being a creep and not genuinely interested. Just ignore him. Even if he really IS interested, then he's being unprofessional.
Maybe it's all in your head...
No, I'm not delusional...
post some pics?
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I am a teacher and worked with seniors and also in adult ed. I'm telling you this because I have worked with both male and female teachers that simply have no boundaries. This situation has also happened to me as a third year Uni student where my Lit teacher was 27 and kept picking on me as well. So I've seen both sides. First of, it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with this guy. You are a young woman, he is probably single and although he KNOWS that he is NOT ALLOWED to date a student BY LAW, (at least there was legislation forbidding teacher-student dating where I worked), his feelings are all over the place and that's why he is picking on you. He probably thinks that by "picking on you" it makes it all look like innocent fun and that other people won't realize what he's doing. In my case (at Uni) although I was a scholarship student, the guy almost failed me and caused me my scholarship grant cause I didn't flirt back. I've seen female teachers, scantily dressed, leaning over students "innocently" and having their underwear showing in order to provoke them. I DO KNOW that what you say is 100 per cent LEGIT. I need you to be VERY careful. As a teacher, I've seen other teachers bad mouth students to head masters (or other stuff) for their behavior setting a precedent and causing them trouble. These people can go from simple flirting, to being very vindictive if they don't get the attention they crave. And since I don't know this man, I cannot possibly know what he is after. He could be a weirdo who wants you to flirt back (DONT DO IT EVER) just to get his cudos points OR could be a mega-weirdo who wants to have sex! In any case never find yourself in a situation where you are alone with him. In my case, I went to talk about my project with this idiot and he locked the office door! Nothing happened but he freaked me out so much I almost lost it! When and if he asks to see you for whatever reason go with your friend! Avoid this person at all costs. And IF he goes on acting like so tell someone. Department manager or supervisor or head master whomever. They need to know! Also tell family members you can trust. Cause it could get ugly! I'm not trying to scare you but its best to be safe with people like that.