Why doesn’t society like promiscuous women?

Question

By “society” I’m referring to the men and women citizens of the US and perhaps abroad as well.

From my observation and knowledge, it seems there is a disdain, dislike, hatred, disgust, etc. over women who are promiscuous that men who are promiscuous do not seem to receive.

Now, I suspect that a myriad of reasons can be the culprit, such as biological, psychological, societal, etc.

Some questions that pop up into my head are these:

•Does promiscuity more negatively impact a woman’s fertility as opposed to a man’s?

•Does promiscuity affect the family more if the mother has a history of it as opposed to the father? How so? In what ways?

•Is promiscuity more harmful for women? How so? Mentally? Physically?

•Do women feel the same about promiscuity in men, as men feel about promiscuity in women?

•What are the historical/evolutionary reasons for stigmatizing, discouraging, criminalizing, etc. promiscuity in women more harshly as opposed to men?

•Are women naturally promiscuous?

•Are abused, used, and traumatized women more likely to be promiscuous?

FakeName123 · Accepted Answer

Promiscuous people have been linked again and again to...
... mental instability and higher rates of mental illness
... higher rates of STDs (It's a numbers game)
... be more likely to be a single parent (numbers game)
... have higher rates of abortion (numbers game)
... have less stable relationships and higher divorce rates
... have increased chances of having been in an abusive relationship
... be more likely to cheat
... be more likely to become addicted
... be more likely to come out of a broken household.

Want some sources?

http://cdn.freedomainradio.com/FDR_2899_Marriage_Partners_Study.pdf
-> Page 19-25. Especially Page 24-25 is quite relevant.

http://www.everydayhealth.com/longevity/can-promiscuity-threaten-longevity.aspx

https://medicalxpress.com/news/2013-02-multiple-sex-partners-linked-drug.html

http://news-releases.uiowa.edu/2011/june/061411paik_study.html

http://www.barbararisman.com/uploads/7/8/9/2/7892654/allison_and_risman_social_science_research_final_paper.pdf

https://www.ideals.illinois.edu/bitstream/handle/2142/42210/Saroj_Hardit.pdf?sequence=1
-> Promiscuity is linked to sexual aggression.
-> Page 59. "The number of sexual partners was positively related to parental violence."
-> Page 70. "As the number of sexual partners increased, so did the propensity to sexually aggression."

http://www.bradley.edu/dotAsset/165862.pdf
-> Page 4. "Perhaps the strongest personality correlate of risky sexual behaviour is impulsive sensation-seeking"
-> Page 8. Promiscuous people are more likely to be impulsive, have low agreeableness, low conscientiousness, sensation-seeking and a higher level of sexual infidelity.
-> Page 14. "People who describe themselves as more unfaithful tend to have personality traits linked to a lack of trust and empathy (i. e. low agreeableness)"

www.sociopathicstyle.com/psychopathic-traits/
-> Point 11. Promiscuity is a common symptom of psychopathy. Goes hand in hand with the other study mentioning impulsiveness as it shows it here on point 14.

http://ink.library.smu.edu.sg/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2215&context=soss_research
-> Page 8. Higher amount of sexual partners is directly linked to higher degrees of psychopathy, narcissism, machiavellianism and an increase of any combination of those 3.

https://genepi.qimr.edu.au/contents/p/staff/CV262Bailey_UQ_Copy.pdf
-> Page 4, Table 1. (Note: Sociosexuality = Parameter for willingness to engage in sexual activity outside of comitted relationships)

To put it into my own words: I think promiscuity is a symptom of mental instability and is a way of self-destructive behaviour, just like i. e. Obesity (not physical-health induced obesity). It's a huge red flag objectively, biologically and evolutionary for anyone who wants a comitted and successful relationship.
Thus there is no logical argument to me that promiscuity is in any way to be seen as positive

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I can break it down pretty easily. People are insecure, and in the case of guys, they’re insecure about their dicks, lmao. I’m not totally discounting things like people’s personal values and morals, but I even feel like some of those learned values and morals have at least some of that insecurity in them in their foundation, from those who first established them. You ever notice how some guys see a woman previously dated a black guy, and they consider that a dealbreaker? I’ve never heard that about any other race, and, stereotype or not, the common public perception is that black dudes have the biggest dicks. Those guys in question will say it’s something else, but... funny how that works, lmao. So I think a lot of guys seem to have this fear that they won’t be the biggest or best the gal has ever experienced if she’s had more than a few partners (or ONE black man, lmfao). They’d never in a million years admit to it, but I feel like that’s the at least part of the reason behind it, or you have some misconception that sex somehow “taints” you, so more partners = more tainted, to them. Seems like a primitive attitude to me, but I can’t live life for other people, haha, I can just do me. I suppose some have religious reasoning behind it too, but same deal in my opinion, I feel like religion, particularly the Judeo-Christian brands, are at least in some part human-made. I don’t mean to rattle anyone’s cage with that or start a god vs no god debate, but I’m just saying it’s more than a little plausible that many of these religious values were created by humans in an attempt to control the population, and that can occur even if there actually is a deity up there somewhere. But The Ten Commandments, with all due respect, that just looks like a list of things primitive humans didn’t want the other primitive humans do to themselves or each other, to establish order, and protect themselves from feeling negative emotions. “Hey, don’t steal my livestock, and stop looking at my wife’s tits!” Shit like that, haha. Just a hypothesis, but I’m just throwing it out there. I heard something somewhere about how our psyches seek pleasure and avoid pain. Pleasure can be found in a lover. Pain can be found in analyzing or thinking about her with previous lovers. Fewer previous lovers = less pain. Pretty simple.

ImSparkly · Accepted Answer

I'll take your last hypothesis. Those who have undergone trauma of some kind can go either way, celibacy or finding security in homosexual relationships are two routes through life. I on the other hand, feel a sense of detachment from sex, which has led me to being what many would call "easy". I dont fault anyone for how they are/have processed experienced trauma (s), we all handle things in different ways. We are never supposed to talk about traumatic experiences, just repress them until we lash out.

Sex does not require love or romance for me, its mostly just a way of getting off and burning calories, with some gratification of knowing that my partner (s) is/are having pleasure too because of me. My friends have generally been where I have found nurturing. True, i'm preparing for the day when my friends won't be as available as they have been, and as such I need to be more self reliant. Overall though, I probably have more of a male perspective around the act than 97% of my gender, but i've made it work for me.

Fu## society.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Well for starters... who (outside of the gay or asexual) doesn't like pussy 😂 i of course dont love these hoes but there's too many people who’ll tolerate promiscuity if it means they get some kinda pleasure out of it. I dont see how promiscuity affects fertility unless she's constantly on BC or constantly aborting. I think promiscuity is harmful for women because they may get raped if they come across misleading AND its harmful for the men who will probably catch something from screwing these hoes. I think men are promiscuous but its a different term to describe them. I just can't pinpoint it atm. Historically, werent women expected to spread their legs when told to... and now the most men want them to keep their legs closed 🤷‍♀️ I think everyone has a promiscuous side but i dont think its naturally common to show it. Well i mean maybe in todays hookup culture but mehh. I think abused/used women are more vulnerable rather than promiscuous.

razelove · Answer

You say whatever you want about me, but don't you ever insult sluts and whores you son of a bitch!

Chlamydia is the STD I can think of most likely to impact fertility, if a guy doesn't get it treated within a couple months, pretty much sterile, not sure about women.

Not sure about family, my wife's slept with one man, and the only other women have been with me. I honestly have no clue how many women I've been with.

Blah blah, can't answer questions of what of a man/woman's perspective because you would need a hermaphrodite to know both perspectives.

Historical and evolutionary trends- Agrarian society. When we were hunter gatherers, moving, chasing game, men leading the hunt and getting status, and women, based on the meat they brought back, women gathering vegetables, fruits and fibers to go with the meat, who knows who cook it, depends on culture I guess, easy to know who the father is. The guy with the spear and most kills. Everyone wants to fuck him. We move over to growing crops, settling into areas, and that isn't the case any more, also with increased lifespan women not, you know, dying at or before 30 start to worry about caring for their kids. Monogamy and monotheism start to go on the rise at about the same time. Polygamy, and polytheism existed for a long time, but both declined and continued to do so as people settled down, especially post agrarian societies where we have settles peoples where some don't even have to be farmers.

MzAsh · Answer

It’s to protect the old fashioned double standard that women must remain virginal (aka pure) for their husbands, but that husband is excused of promiscuous behavior.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My guess is that, historically, societal expectations have been driven by male interests and by the church (which has historically been controlled by men.)

ThisDudeHere · Answer

It has historically been proven to be detrimental to society.

shimmeryns · Answer

STD is non-discriminatory of gender.

MrOracle · Answer

The biggest reason is that for pretty much all of documented human history (Sumerians and ancient Egyptians forward), the vast majority of human cultures passed down family names, titles, properties, and incomes to LEGITIMATE children only - children born of married parents. Paternity was incredibly important and was a subject of routine discussion because it was so important.

Many wars, invasions, etc. were started because of a lack of a legitimate heir, including the problem of illegitimate children being born of nobles. And while it's obviously fiction, Game Of Thrones was heavily based on real European and Middle Eastern cultures, and illegitimate births were a central plot point throughout the show - it's a great example of what I'm talking about.

Promiscuous women routinely got pregnant by men who were not her husband, and that caused great chaos in the culture, so it was naturally frowned upon, and all major religions declared it to be a sin (religion was a key way that cultures were spread and preserved, and cultural rules enforced).

We have about 8000 years of well-documented human history, and well over half a million years of undocumented human history before that, but we've only had effective birth control for 60 years. It's easy to forget that before 1960, sex would almost always result in pregnancy before very long. That's why people married so young.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Statistically promsicuity harms the family and woman more then it does with a man. According to studies it increases a woman's probability of cheating, divorce, unhappiness in long term relationships, dissatisfaction with sex, increased rates of anxiety as well as depression. For men these effects while they exist are minor.

The second issue is that a man has no ability to determine paternity. The only thing he has to go on is the woman's behavior, so if she has slept around a lot their is a better probability of him raising a child that is not his as well as a greater probability that she will cheat (because honestly, why would her behavior change when married? That's like presuming an alcoholic will stop drinking once married, with no other factors at play why would this ever be the case?).

The third reason why women dislike promiscuous women is because sex is an exchange and promiscuous women lower the price that a woman can exchange her reproductive abilities for. Just look at the modern age, sex is freely given by many women, now women are finding it harder to get relationships because why would a man commit to a woman, spend significant effort and resources on her and to maintain that relationship, with uncertain amount of sex, when he can just find a casual partner with a simple swipe of a finger? So women are against promiscous women (more so then men according to research) because they lower their market value (if some one else is giving the same thing your selling for cheaper your going to lose out on potential customers, the sexual market is no different.).

AzureGirl · Answer

Society tends to see promiscuous women as sluts or whores unfortunately. Personally as long as they’re conscious about their sexual health (and making sure their partners are also aware of their sexual health) and practicing safe sex practices then, hey, you do you.

As far as your other questions you posed:
1. I don’t think it would effect fertility but don’t quote me on that. I’m not a health professional.
2. I don’t think an individual’s “body count” should be anyone’s business but theirs and maybe their future partner if they care to know.
3. I’m not sure about physical but the negativity surrounding the topic could be harmful negatively. I don’t think guys have as big of a social stigma surrounding having a high body count.
4. I think it’s about the same views.
5. The only thing I can think of for this one is maybe promiscuous could seem synonymous with cheating? And if you think media-wise the promiscuous one is usually some seductive looking lady. Not normally so much a man I think. Again, though, unsure.
6. I’m going to say no. I think it largely depends on the person and their sexual comfort level and views on sex in general.
7. Again, I think it’s largely dependent on the person, their level of trauma, and the help they received post trauma, if any.

SirRexington · Answer

Promiscuity is associated with lack of commitment, loyalty, trustworthiness, dedication and responsibility. If a woman is or was promiscuous it means she cares more about herself and hedonistic pleasure rather than a child or a potential mate. They are less likely to be good partners and mothers. Pair bonding becomes far more difficult the more people they sleep with. They are more likely to cheat with other men. Meaning a smaller likelihood of her having your child and spending care on said child while simultaneously increasing the risk of having another man's child and resources going towards that child. Not evolutionarily beneficial to the man. It is commonly associated with personality issues. Sexual diseases are higher risk. It also shows that they don't respect or care about themselves. They are open for business rather than making the act special and seem like a privilege. Do you want a car to have low milage and have few previous owners or an old hand me down that is cheap and clearly used? Assuming money was not a concern?

Are women more naturally promiscuous than men? There are controversial and debated studies on this with no clear conclusion. It certainly benefits men if women are more monogamous.

To be fair, I don't support or appreciate men who are promiscuous either.

winterfox10 · Answer

I think the reasons are largely relics of an older time when technology and government, and such were less capable of helping people in times of need. Women have a huge issue in casual sex and reproduction: pregnancy. They can only get pregnant with one man at a time, and the ordeal of child bearing is so intense that the risks to her health, even after she successfully gives birth, would have left even the luckiest of women and their young extremely vulnerable. Thankfully we now live in less desperate and dangerous times.

However, even though our technology has improved, there are things about women that probably won't ever change. For example; orgasms take time for women. They have intense orgasms, yes, but there is a whole process of them getting to that point. Many women (maybe even most) seem to agree that good sex is often a day long (sometimes a multi-day long) project, and that's just on their end, not including things that they can't control. The woman has that whole build up before the big moment. Logistically, that alone is a headache, even if she lands a hottie when she goes out on the town.

Think about it, assuming that the woman truly feels no connection to the guy she's hooking up with, here's all the stuff that has to happen for her to have casual sex (and this is JUST ON HER END): She needs to be in the right headspace (feeling sexy and adventurous, and her girls usually have to give their stamp of approval on the guy as well), she needs to actually meet and connect well enough with a desirable guy who she wants to have sex with, then she has to go build up the tension the whole night without getting cold feet or some weird drama happening, then she has to have sex. Even if all that stuff happens, the quality of the sex totally depends on the all-to-rare chance that this random guy has the ability and willingness to please her.

It's just a lot of work for the woman to do

bangyourhead · Answer

To answer a few of your questions...

1) Promiscuity is not natural for women. Eggs and pregnancy are expensive (biologically speaking).
2) Promiscuity is harmful to women. Women with many sexual partners have greater dissatisfaction in long term relationships
3) It’s not that ‘society’ hates promiscuous women, it’s that women hate promiscuous women. Imagine if you are selling a product. You want maximum profit for your product. So you try to make consumers believe it’s rare (think diamonds). So if another seller comes by and undercuts the market, you eventually have to lower your price.

Physics-Man · Answer

I think it has to do with the Psychosocial association and role during sex; men are seen as conquerors due to their penis penetrating the woman, resembling a sword or arrow penetrating and killing an opponent. So a man who penetrates many women is a man who is a successful conqueror. This is a dominant role and therefore positive. A woman who enjoys sex with many men is equated with an opponent who loves to be dominated and conquered. This is submissive and thus negative.

I don't follow this thinking however. Women have every bit a right to enjoy sex and not be shunned for loving it as much as men currently do.

PrimalInstinct · Answer

Reality is, promiscuous men aren't viewed much more favorably. Few decent women want a guy who has screwed half the town because if he can't keep to previous relationships ***how*** can he be trusted to stick with her?

cicchis0 · Answer

USA was founded by religious puritans and the values still shape the country. Film and video game censorship still consider sex to be terribly harmful, whereas graphic violence is barely a consideration. The attitude towards female sexuality is also informed by the country's incredibly sexist biblical roots.

lightbulb27 · Answer

historically, they'd make a baby sometimes, but without an identifiable father. That leads to shame, guilt, stress, tragedy, sadness... sin.

We don't like sin...
Phillipines and other places of prostitutes filled with kids like this and they have no chance sometimes. That's sad emotion. Men to blame... Primary emotion should be... love. That is not promiscuous womens fault, that is men's fault because they behave like roving boys.

NerdInDenial · Answer

One aspect is that as women have more partners they lose the ability to pair-bond; as such, they have a higher probability of abandoning the relationship. Another reason is that creating offspring requires a lot of energy and has a lot of risk. Thus, women have to find a mate with the best DNA. As such, being promiscuous and non-selective is irresponsible for the survival of a species. Instinctively, society looks down on such women.

Anonymous · Answer

Nature does not like promiscuous women. And if you think STD are the same risk for men and women, go talk to nature about it... or read

''10 Ways STDs Impact Women Differently from Men - CDC'' It's a PDF file, but clearly the tip of the iceberg. Direct links don't seem to work.

Little_ginger88 · Answer

It's to do with our past before birth control where If a woman slept around and got pregnant she wouldn't know who the father was.

CarpetDenim · Answer

Because only men are allowed to be fucking disgusting and avoid commitments to be whores lmao, duh

Rangers · Answer

It indicates low self worth, lack of self respect, and liberalism. All of which are negative and they always seem to fall into those categories quite perfectly

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