How do you feel when men cry in front of you?

Question

Personally it makes me very uncomfortable. I believe everyone should cry it's healthy to cry. However, there's a place and a time for that especially if you're a man.

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Accepted Answer

How I feel about men crying in front of me depends on what the man is crying about. If he is crying because he lost a loved one, is in extreme physical pain (such as being shot or stabbed), is suffering in some way, or received some terrible news such as himself or a loved one being diagnosed with a terminal illness, I would feel sorry for him and attempt to comfort him. However, if he is crying for anything else, such as, for example, personal problems or failure in his life that everybody undergoes from time to time, I would feel like he is a weak man. A real man doesn't cry about negative aspects of his life or the world. Instead, he solves his problems and keep it moving. I believe it is healthy to cry, but only about certain things. Considering that men are definitely the stronger sex physically, they need to be the stronger sex emotionally. When it comes time to defend what you love the most, such as defending your loved ones, family, country, or your own life, you can't sit there and cry about what is happening to you. You have to use the strength that your testosterone gave you and take action. Imagine how the world would be if our fathers, brothers, uncles, soldiers, police officers, and so on didn't take action, but instead cried about the everday situations that they faced in life. As a species, we would have already been extinct. Therefore, if you're a man and you're crying about problems that could easily be solved, then I wouldn't want you anywhere around me and would be very turned off because men shouldn't be weak.

supercutebutt · Accepted Answer

My butt is like an onion. Its awesomeness always makes gentlemen cry.

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

I don't fully agree. To say there's a time and a place to have a break down, I'm not sure it's something I can hold in like going to the bathroom. If there's a sad part in a movie, I might tear up a little bit. Or if I see a family member I have not seen in a while I might tear up when i see them.

When my dad was suicidal, and breaking down crying in front of me, was I suppose to tell him he needed, to go into the other room? I hugged him and embraced him.

There is feel sorry for me crying and I agree that's too much, it's just attention seeking. Attention seeking crying is not ok.

But during a church grief counseling group a pastor was telling another man, it's ok to cry and passed him a box of tissues. That's how it should be.

Crying is not always recreational. It has a purpose, that's why it's there. Otherwise it would not work in the first place.

Again, crying on a regular basis or crying for attention, that's where it's a time and place.

skeetskeetskeet · Accepted Answer

It's a mixture of disgust and some of that " I'll give you something to cry about girly man"... Its just pathetic

I-am-a-nobody · Answer

Wow girl, you're tough.
Maybe if you saw weeping more it would make you less uncomfortable.

I remember breaking down at work a couple times.
One had to do with my mom having cancer.
I cried in the men's room. I remember a guy in there sympathizing even though it made him uncomfortable. He was a good sport about it. I don't think I even knew his name.
God bless him whoever he was.

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. - Romans 12:15

So, how am I supposed to weep with those who weep if they have to hide it?

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I feel bad for them but i don't know if i should cross over that invisible "man wall" to comfort them, or if i should just respect their space and offer to talk it over once they're done crying. I'm naturally quite empathetic so it burns me up inside to see anyone in emotional pain (unless they objectively deserve it). But when its a man, I kinda freeze up a bit coz its not expected, and i don't know what would help them in that moment. I'm the guy who will sit on your back porch with you til the early hours talking with you about your problems and trying to inspire you to come back swinging. But I don't know what to do in the moment another man is crying.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Well a friend of mine who is the greatest player I know once said if you can cry in front of a woman it's guaranteed sex. Well I don't know how he managed to do it but for me if a guy cries in front of a woman she is already calculating how to get out of this situation and fast. Unless it is the death of a parent or child or best friend. Then probably its guaranteed sex. But since you are mourning the loss of someone close you aren't thinking of sex. So my vote is if you need to cry excuse yourself and go for a drive or hide in the basement because it will not do your relationship any good.

ShortCircuit · Answer

It makes me feel uncomfortable in a way that it doesn't when a woman cries--and I HATE that. It just goes to show how ingrained in us it is to be disgusted by male expression of emotion.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

Bottling shit up is unhealthy AF. If there's a time and a place for a man, then there's a time and a place for a woman. That's why men are closed off and keep their emotions hidden now.

BellaBlake · Answer

I always end up crying when I see someone else cry, but I especially with men. I guess it’s because it’s more uncommon

xANGEx · Answer

depends why he's crying. but usually it doesn't bother me, I don't feel anything except maybe sympathy or sadness because of them. I'm not usually like "omg what a pussy" or anything. I've actually seen a lot of guys cry. it's only weird when it's for a really really stupid reason and they don't have ptsd or something that would explain that. like guys crying at movies or because a girl was rude to them or whatever.

AlienParasite · Answer

When it doesn't feel justified, cries too often or he is a stranger, it feels uncomfortable.

When I understand why he's crying, he's not a person that would ever cry in a public place and he's close enaugh to me, I'm fine with it and I even feel like our relationship is even closer if he's comfortable crying in front of me.

MissRomantic · Answer

It depends what they’re crying about. If it’s something heartbreaking, I feel sad for them or I want to cry if I see my boyfriend crying. Another thing is if I see a man who doesn’t usually cry cry because they’re dejected by something, I feel heartbroken for them.

Avicenna · Answer

I'm OK with it. People shouldn't keep emotions bottled up.

Levin · Answer

I don't cry. But I would cry in front of you just to piss you off!

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

The same way I feel about girls crying.

Which is mostly uncomfortable and sad

Honestly If the man isn't a crybaby then I just confront him and try to make him feel better

If he is a crybaby then I just ignore him

Also If a man cries around me (who doesn't cry often/never) then I would feel happy cause that means that he trusts me.

And same goes for girls.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

doesn't bother me at all.. I feel honored he feels comfortable enough.. gives me an excuse to hold him and spoil him

bannacookies · Answer

I have one guy friend who cries quite often. At first, I was taken kinda by surprise by it since I'm not used to seeing guys cry, but now, I don't think anything at all weird about it.

spartan55 · Answer

For me it depends on the context. I don't blubber around people I don't know unless it's a pretty intense set of circumstances (like when I witnessed a family die in a car accident)

Agape93 · Answer

Confused as to why they are sad. But I’m happy to see that they feel comfortable enough around me

cute_short_nerd · Answer

I feel emotionally moved.

It’s not often that you wittiness a man cry. It’s a rare occurrence, and if he only ever shows that side of him to me, I would be honored.

I’d also be compelled to comfort him.

If he is a wuss then it’s not as *whats the word* meaningful? I don't know but that’s just some tough shit right there.

It’s okay to cry, just not excessively over everything.

MasRus · Answer

i want to console them. i don't want anyone to be sad

Naughty_Gentleman · Answer

Men- women thing comes later... First of all it's about a person... Yeah.. there are times to cry, laugh, happy, sad...
But human has emotions, which see no times but situations...
A man may be crying of hunger, grief, happiness or something else... I see a person expressing the emotions coming out of the eyes...
If I could, I would try to help him in his situation or at least give him few words of consolation...

666dangerouswoman · Answer

Crying is a natural thing, a natural response to very upsetting things, like a death of a loved one or something. In the case of a death, I would be concerned if no one cryed. When I see a man cry i always wonder what upset him so much and want to comfort him. At a funeral it's obvious why. But usually I get thus instinct to comfort. I don't judge someone before I get to know them.

nickstaa · Answer

I dont really care now tbh. When I was younger I used to think men that shouldn't cry. But now , as long as it's not over trivial stuff I don't care.

When you hear about the suicides and the issues males have, I don't have a problem with it. They can do what they want if it helps them get through those issues.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Unless its something serious then I don't want to see your cry baby self in front of me.

DanOh2018 · Answer

I've been a bouncer aka professional tough guy, and I still cry when sad shit happens. Crying is a sign of having a heart not a weakness.

That said I'm not going to cry just because life isn't always going my way. Takes something profoundly aweful.

I didn't cry when I got my leg twisted into a pretzel, but when my cat I'd had for 20 years needed to be put down that shit got me right in the feels.

Knuxx · Answer

I used to be one of the asses that refused to cry which led to hiding all emotion. Now I say fuck that. If I'm mad you will hear me. If I'm happy you will hear me and if I'm sad you might have to find me but I'm probably crying and after that you will hear me. My life has gotten loads better after I stopped acting like a damned robot.

leahzrc · Answer

guys have cried in front of me and i usually feel empathy because i cry too unless they are angrily crying and yelling at me because they hate me

Hurlyburly · Answer

Exactly the same as when a woman does. When it's someone I know I do my best to comfort them. If it's a stranger my shyness sadly takes over and I'm not really able to react 😅 so yea feeling kind of uncomfortable.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't judge people if they cry in public, but I feel uncomfortable because I don't know what to do. Should I offer words? Comfort them somehow? Leave them alone?

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

There's no sense in crying, especially in front of someone you love.  Personally, I don't feel the need of wasting tears with any of the women I currently have in my life.

AndrewMG · Answer

Geez, I'm rubbish when anyone crys in front of me, but when it's a man I'm even worse... unless it's a direct reaction to my football team losing in the playoffs... and then I'm crying with that Mofo! And I'm crying some more! lol

Akachan · Answer

It makes me uncomfortable if anyone is crying in front of me.

IAMNathanael · Answer

I'd just back off and give him his space. Ain't anything wrong with crying but I think that's something best done in private if it can be helped. I mean that for women too.

Amh123 · Answer

I also start crying with them haha When a man cries, he is filled with so much powerful emotion that he can't help but cry. Some men cry inside but do not cry outside and it creates problems..

JayParris · Answer

Yeah... that place and time is when you're alone. Men don't get comfort. If a woman sees you cry, or that you've been crying, it's over. She will see you as weak and move on

Quackthulu · Answer

Totally depends on who the guy is to me and why he is crying.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

What if your husband just learn through a relative that yours and his daughter just committed suicide and you happen to be there cleaning the house? Sometimes men can't contain their tears.

When you are emotionally hurt, you should cry.

luvstoned4him · Answer

depends I listen to my gut. some men lie and cry to make it believable but if its a genuine tear from real sadness then almost always, I feel bad for the guy

CheoMlue · Answer

I would feel sympathetic towards the man who was crying in front of me. I am not good at comforting a crying person, but I would try to comfort that man however I can.

itsjustlew · Answer

It makes me sad because men don’t cry a lot in public and I’m already empathetic but when it comes to men crying it’s always over something really bad and I try to comfort them best I can

JananiiSrii · Answer

Feel sad and console them. There's nothing shameful about crying if you've been hurt.

penneva581 · Answer

It would make me uncomfortable because I'm not good at comforting people. But at the same time it would make feel like they trust me.

KeziL · Answer

Guys struggle too, when I see that I just want to make things better for them.

AdithyaR · Answer

I guess my case is weird, the only time I cry is when I watch really emotional deaths in an anime, I've never cried in any other situation. So I'm guessing people would think I'm weird. But then again, I don't care what they think.

pointyhat · Answer

exactly, men crying is totally weird and not manly... like u i also think they should do that in private if they really feel they need to,
i dont get the girls that are trying to encourage guys to cry now... tf?

madgoat · Answer

Rare to see.  It can show extreme passion or commitment or emotion.  More understandable than demonstrating exasperation, frustration, or lack of direction.

shygirl789 · Answer

One of guy friends cried in front of me and I've never seen a guy cry in front of me before. It shows that he truly cared for me. Unless he was fake crying

BlessedDaddy · Answer

Like their mom or dad better have just died because crying in public is not okay. In private, guys can sob their eyes out.

meeso13 · Answer

I lost my wife in December and we were together 20 years and I have my moments where I have to excuse myself I try not to bring anybody else into it there's a time and place for everything yes

Jadeseymour · Answer

I just cry with them makes me feel better and them too.

Littletwink · Answer

I don't mind it. Men have emotions too. They can cry :)

Anpu23 · Answer

That is purely situational. There are times and places that I totally get it, and other times where I just want to avoid him all together.

Mymy2458 · Answer

I dont like when anyone of any age cries in front of me. I get agitated.

R3DthatDude · Answer

When a man cries it’s probably something very very serious

AcidT0y · Answer

I don't like when anyone cries in front of me. I don't remamber the last time I cried because I'ma fucking grown up. Just makes me feel awkward when other people do.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I cry too. Then we hug each other. Then we full blown ball our eyes out. We get so emotional. 😭😭😭 I hate it when we are out of pizza. 😥

jojixlight · Answer

In movies, I'd feel emotional. In real life, I never saw them crying lol

angiebangie · Answer

It makes me incredibly uncomfortable.

hamza_boux · Answer

We are too having feelings but when a man cry which means that he have a lot of pressure he can't hold it up

zagor · Answer

Like Bill Maher said, men are given one pass for crying: When your Mom dies.

tartaarsaus · Answer

I’m not used to it and usually feel uncomfy, wouldn’t know what to do

Brandonlee54545 · Answer

If women comfort their lityle girls crying but tell their little boys crying to stop behaving like a girl why on earth would i cry in front of a woman... Women look down on men who cry

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