How do you feel when men cry in front of you?

[WowwGirl]

Personally it makes me very uncomfortable. I believe everyone should cry it's healthy to cry. However, there's a place and a time for that especially if you're a man.

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

How I feel about men crying in front of me depends on what the man is crying about. If he is crying because he lost a loved one, is in extreme physical pain (such as being shot or stabbed), is suffering in some way, or received some terrible news such as himself or a loved one being diagnosed with a terminal illness, I would feel sorry for him and attempt to comfort him. However, if he is crying for anything else, such as, for example, personal problems or failure in his life that everybody undergoes from time to time, I would feel like he is a weak man. A real man doesn't cry about negative aspects of his life or the world. Instead, he solves his problems and keep it moving. I believe it is healthy to cry, but only about certain things. Considering that men are definitely the stronger sex physically, they need to be the stronger sex emotionally. When it comes time to defend what you love the most, such as defending your loved ones, family, country, or your own life, you can't sit there and cry about what is happening to you. You have to use the strength that your testosterone gave you and take action. Imagine how the world would be if our fathers, brothers, uncles, soldiers, police officers, and so on didn't take action, but instead cried about the everday situations that they faced in life. As a species, we would have already been extinct. Therefore, if you're a man and you're crying about problems that could easily be solved, then I wouldn't want you anywhere around me and would be very turned off because men shouldn't be weak.

[supercutebutt]

My butt is like an onion. Its awesomeness always makes gentlemen cry.

[WowwGirl]

👉😎😂😂

[lucas262]

This girl

[888theGreat]

That is because you squeeze too hard when it is inside

[Jjpayne]

I don't fully agree. To say there's a time and a place to have a break down, I'm not sure it's something I can hold in like going to the bathroom. If there's a sad part in a movie, I might tear up a little bit. Or if I see a family member I have not seen in a while I might tear up when i see them.

When my dad was suicidal, and breaking down crying in front of me, was I suppose to tell him he needed, to go into the other room? I hugged him and embraced him.

There is feel sorry for me crying and I agree that's too much, it's just attention seeking. Attention seeking crying is not ok.

But during a church grief counseling group a pastor was telling another man, it's ok to cry and passed him a box of tissues. That's how it should be.

Crying is not always recreational. It has a purpose, that's why it's there. Otherwise it would not work in the first place.

Again, crying on a regular basis or crying for attention, that's where it's a time and place.

[WowwGirl]

Well said sir...

[Jjpayne]

Thank you :)

[WowwGirl]

Course

[skeetskeetskeet]

It's a mixture of disgust and some of that " I'll give you something to cry about girly man"... Its just pathetic

[WowwGirl]

Nice... Be nice dear

[skeetskeetskeet]

I am;)

[WowwGirl]

Makes me uncomfortable them crying unless a death or something it's not normal to me. I won't even cry in public

[skeetskeetskeet]

I'm with ya there... to be honest though... when my friend ran over my dog and killed him... i was close

[WowwGirl]

If you didn't I'd wonder

[666dangerouswoman]

Skeetskeet that is rude. 😛😛

[WowwGirl]

@666dangerouswoman it is
@skeetskeetskeet rude

[I-am-a-nobody]

Wow girl, you're tough.
Maybe if you saw weeping more it would make you less uncomfortable.

I remember breaking down at work a couple times.
One had to do with my mom having cancer.
I cried in the men's room. I remember a guy in there sympathizing even though it made him uncomfortable. He was a good sport about it. I don't think I even knew his name.
God bless him whoever he was.

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. - Romans 12:15

So, how am I supposed to weep with those who weep if they have to hide it?

[WowwGirl]

@I-am-a-nobody where I live it's not okay for men to cry unless something major happens.. I don't even cry in public because of pride and such
I'm sure it would help if I saw it more and I hate it makes me so uncomfortable.

[I-am-a-nobody]

@WowwGirl
It's not okay where I live either, but I model the change I want to see by weeping.
When I had cancer, I cried in front of my pastors and they prayer for me.
When my pastor had a heart attack in the middle of a prayer meeting and I called 911 and the youth pastor gave him mouth to mouth. It was stressful. When it was over, I cried like a baby. Thankfully, most folks at my church can handle it.
I don't know how guys without that kind of support system can make it.

[likelyOK]

I agree showing more emotion breaks the toxic stigma for me, good for you.

[WowwGirl]

I agree we all need support

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I feel bad for them but i don't know if i should cross over that invisible "man wall" to comfort them, or if i should just respect their space and offer to talk it over once they're done crying. I'm naturally quite empathetic so it burns me up inside to see anyone in emotional pain (unless they objectively deserve it). But when its a man, I kinda freeze up a bit coz its not expected, and i don't know what would help them in that moment. I'm the guy who will sit on your back porch with you til the early hours talking with you about your problems and trying to inspire you to come back swinging. But I don't know what to do in the moment another man is crying.

[Hermes-Paris]

Well a friend of mine who is the greatest player I know once said if you can cry in front of a woman it's guaranteed sex. Well I don't know how he managed to do it but for me if a guy cries in front of a woman she is already calculating how to get out of this situation and fast. Unless it is the death of a parent or child or best friend. Then probably its guaranteed sex. But since you are mourning the loss of someone close you aren't thinking of sex. So my vote is if you need to cry excuse yourself and go for a drive or hide in the basement because it will not do your relationship any good.

[WowwGirl]

It's guarantees I'll be freaked out and sex nooooo way.

[Hermes-Paris]

Hahaha... Agreed. I advise guys just go for a drive. Nobody want to see that. There is enough sadness in the world right? At least where I live people are like that.

[ShortCircuit]

It makes me feel uncomfortable in a way that it doesn't when a woman cries--and I HATE that. It just goes to show how ingrained in us it is to be disgusted by male expression of emotion.

[WowwGirl]

@ShortCircuit I'm the same

[ShortCircuit]

You had me until "especially...". You should've stopped at "that".

There is a place and time for crying. Period. That isn't any more or less applicable to one sex or the other.

[WowwGirl]

Men should be more rational women emotional. Keeps a balance

[ShortCircuit]

I disagree. Men and women should be whatever the fuck they want to be.

Let me be clear: When I said that men crying made me more uncomfortable than women crying, that was not me condoning the double standard. That was me acknowledging my gut feelings about men and women crying, in order to point out just how ingrained in our psychology the double standard is, and denouncing it.

[WowwGirl]

Okay understand

[CHARismatic110]

Bottling shit up is unhealthy AF. If there's a time and a place for a man, then there's a time and a place for a woman. That's why men are closed off and keep their emotions hidden now.

[BellaBlake]

I always end up crying when I see someone else cry, but I especially with men. I guess it’s because it’s more uncommon

[WowwGirl]

You're sweet

[Levin]

That's a funny image. Everyone just crying

[BellaBlake]

Haha yeah 😂

[Levin]

Did your 16 year old boyfriends cry in front of you? =/

[xANGEx]

depends why he's crying. but usually it doesn't bother me, I don't feel anything except maybe sympathy or sadness because of them. I'm not usually like "omg what a pussy" or anything. I've actually seen a lot of guys cry. it's only weird when it's for a really really stupid reason and they don't have ptsd or something that would explain that. like guys crying at movies or because a girl was rude to them or whatever.

[AlienParasite]

When it doesn't feel justified, cries too often or he is a stranger, it feels uncomfortable.

When I understand why he's crying, he's not a person that would ever cry in a public place and he's close enaugh to me, I'm fine with it and I even feel like our relationship is even closer if he's comfortable crying in front of me.

[MissRomantic]

It depends what they’re crying about. If it’s something heartbreaking, I feel sad for them or I want to cry if I see my boyfriend crying. Another thing is if I see a man who doesn’t usually cry cry because they’re dejected by something, I feel heartbroken for them.

[Avicenna]

I'm OK with it. People shouldn't keep emotions bottled up.

[WowwGirl]

I wish it didn't make me uncomfortable

[Levin]

I don't cry. But I would cry in front of you just to piss you off!

[WowwGirl]

Doesn't piss me off at all makes me sad

[Levin]

I will cry to make you feel uncomfortable. Ain't cried in 10 years so it would be hard work though

[WowwGirl]

You're good I'd just leave

[pointyhat]

lol fake crys are funny as fuck. would u do that "waaa" sound too? lmao

[DanaeAdam5]

The same way I feel about girls crying.

Which is mostly uncomfortable and sad

Honestly If the man isn't a crybaby then I just confront him and try to make him feel better

If he is a crybaby then I just ignore him

Also If a man cries around me (who doesn't cry often/never) then I would feel happy cause that means that he trusts me.

And same goes for girls.

[bannacookies]

I have one guy friend who cries quite often. At first, I was taken kinda by surprise by it since I'm not used to seeing guys cry, but now, I don't think anything at all weird about it.

[WowwGirl]

Good🙂

[spartan55]

For me it depends on the context. I don't blubber around people I don't know unless it's a pretty intense set of circumstances (like when I witnessed a family die in a car accident)

[Agape93]

Confused as to why they are sad. But I’m happy to see that they feel comfortable enough around me

[WowwGirl]

I don't know how to comfort a man? I would but I have no idea what to do

[Agape93]

Let them express it and don’t shame them or make them feel awkward for doing so.

[WowwGirl]

I will try that next time

[cute_short_nerd]

I feel emotionally moved.

It’s not often that you wittiness a man cry. It’s a rare occurrence, and if he only ever shows that side of him to me, I would be honored.

I’d also be compelled to comfort him.

If he is a wuss then it’s not as *whats the word* meaningful? I don't know but that’s just some tough shit right there.

It’s okay to cry, just not excessively over everything.

[MasRus]

i want to console them. i don't want anyone to be sad

[WowwGirl]

Me niether I like happy

[Naughty_Gentleman]

Men- women thing comes later... First of all it's about a person... Yeah.. there are times to cry, laugh, happy, sad...
But human has emotions, which see no times but situations...
A man may be crying of hunger, grief, happiness or something else... I see a person expressing the emotions coming out of the eyes...
If I could, I would try to help him in his situation or at least give him few words of consolation...

[PeacefulRainDrop]

doesn't bother me at all.. I feel honored he feels comfortable enough.. gives me an excuse to hold him and spoil him

[MariamAlsaeed]

Same

[PeacefulRainDrop]

I want him to be able to lean on me like he's my rock.. how come some women have unrealistic expectations of men and treat them like crap?

[666dangerouswoman]

Crying is a natural thing, a natural response to very upsetting things, like a death of a loved one or something. In the case of a death, I would be concerned if no one cryed. When I see a man cry i always wonder what upset him so much and want to comfort him. At a funeral it's obvious why. But usually I get thus instinct to comfort. I don't judge someone before I get to know them.