And relationships communication is a key because if you don't have communication followed by trust then you guys might as well kiss your relationship goodbye
In opposite-sex relationships the biggest communication problem is that guys neither speak nor understand "womanese", but women keep talking as if we do. Of course, failure to understand is always the guy's fault, never the woman doing the talking. (goes without saying.)
Men tend to be poor at communicating but much better at comprehending. "Guessing what you don't know based on what you do know."
Women on the other hand tend to be quite poor at comprehending, but much better at communicating at great length on subjects they utterly fail to comprehend, or, "guessing what you think you know based on what you don't know, but think you do."
It's tough because they can be equals to me... I'd say proper communication in the first place. Many are misunderstood but that's based on not having words that make sense in the first place. Given some do not understand college textbook terms but we all have a solid understanding of how to comprehend. However, jumping to conclusions or making assumptions can be a really huge problem too...
So assuming you're already communicating, how does comprehending come first as it's secondary to communication, as you had to communicate something for them to reach the stage of comprehending to begin with
it's like you want it to be comprehension, but you can't have comprehension without communication, but you can have communication without comprehension.
You have to build up communication before you can build up comprehension
for example there's a boy and a girl, boy loves said girl, however he does not communicate said love and hides it, said girl can't even comprehend that he loves her, because he never communicated it
Question wasn't what comes first. Was what breaks down communication more... If you don't understand the way I'm communicating, I can try to say it in a better way for you to understand, someone who just can't comprehend or who listens without really hearing what's being said if harder to fix...
well yes that wasn't the question, but it does factor into play. For example a couple with poor communication, but comprehend each other very well, is less healthy than a couple who has good communication and poor comprehension, because they are both invested into communicating each other, they can learn to understand one another. Where as the couple who barely communicates is not invested at all despite understanding each other 100%
for example, this music video is about a couple, the girl could not comprehend the guy at all because he's deaf, but their communication was great, and lead to them being able to understand each other better because of good communication.
First love doesn't always just have to be said, love can be shown... We do communicate with more than just words... My husband barely said the words in 30 years, but he 'showed" me so the time with his actions... Second... You can be the greatest communicater in the world, but if someone doesn't comprehend "understand" what you're saying the communication breaks down... I do know the definitions 🙂
I really don't think you're understanding what I'm saying, it's the communication between the individuals that is good, not being good at being a communicator. There are even different love languages that you learn to understand in your partner which works best.
there can be a couple let's say 5 years together, they comprehend each other very very well, but they got comfortable together and don't communicate like they once did, poor communication plants doubts of the relationship lasting long, and end up breaking up.
I understand you're trying to argue the point comprehension is what keeps communication alive, in a sense it does, but isn't as important as communication itself.
For example your husband learned how to comprehend you by communicating, and now that he comprehended which love you respond to the best, he can communicate that. HOWEVER, if he had poor communication skills, he wouldn't be able to love you effectively as he did even though he understood what worked best.
Not everyone, for sure. That takes a bit of knowing tge other person/understanding them (or painfully plastic/oversimplified language in questions - which you kind of get used to in multinational settings because many people gave very different backgrounds, values, beliefs)
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And relationships communication is a key because if you don't have communication followed by trust then you guys might as well kiss your relationship goodbye
In opposite-sex relationships the biggest communication problem is that guys neither speak nor understand "womanese", but women keep talking as if we do. Of course, failure to understand is always the guy's fault, never the woman doing the talking. (goes without saying.)
A little of both. I feel the communicator is probably more the breakdown though.
I would say more the listener, some people hear what they want to hear instead of what you're really saying
I've definitely experienced that.
I'd say communication. In my experience, most comprehension difficulties can be overcome by communication.
Men tend to be poor at communicating but much better at comprehending. "Guessing what you don't know based on what you do know."
Women on the other hand tend to be quite poor at comprehending, but much better at communicating at great length on subjects they utterly fail to comprehend, or, "guessing what you think you know based on what you don't know, but think you do."
Oh that's such sexist crap but okay thanks for your "opinion"
I swear, it's highly accurate.
Usually both in more or less equal measure I would say.
Comprehension I'd say
I'd think so
I'd say it's the lack of care or concern of proper communication overall but among your choices...
It's tough because they can be equals to me...
I'd say proper communication in the first place. Many are misunderstood but that's based on not having words that make sense in the first place. Given some do not understand college textbook terms but we all have a solid understanding of how to comprehend. However, jumping to conclusions or making assumptions can be a really huge problem too...
communication comes first, without communication there's not even anything to comprehend
But you can be communicating, it takes someone comprehending to keep the communication going tho
So assuming you're already communicating, how does comprehending come first as it's secondary to communication, as you had to communicate something for them to reach the stage of comprehending to begin with
it's like you want it to be comprehension, but you can't have comprehension without communication, but you can have communication without comprehension.
You have to build up communication before you can build up comprehension
for example there's a boy and a girl, boy loves said girl, however he does not communicate said love and hides it, said girl can't even comprehend that he loves her, because he never communicated it
Question wasn't what comes first. Was what breaks down communication more... If you don't understand the way I'm communicating, I can try to say it in a better way for you to understand, someone who just can't comprehend or who listens without really hearing what's being said if harder to fix...
well yes that wasn't the question, but it does factor into play. For example a couple with poor communication, but comprehend each other very well, is less healthy than a couple who has good communication and poor comprehension, because they are both invested into communicating each other, they can learn to understand one another. Where as the couple who barely communicates is not invested at all despite understanding each other 100%
I think you're getting confused on what is
com·pre·hen·sion
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the action or capability of understanding something.
now communication includes listening and speaking, comprehension does not include listening
for example, this music video is about a couple, the girl could not comprehend the guy at all because he's deaf, but their communication was great, and lead to them being able to understand each other better because of good communication.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c4qgqNS_20s
Granted it's obviously a break up song, but aside that fact you can grow to comprehend each other but you can't do that without good communication
First love doesn't always just have to be said, love can be shown... We do communicate with more than just words... My husband barely said the words in 30 years, but he 'showed" me so the time with his actions... Second... You can be the greatest communicater in the world, but if someone doesn't comprehend "understand" what you're saying the communication breaks down... I do know the definitions 🙂
*20 years not 30
I really don't think you're understanding what I'm saying, it's the communication between the individuals that is good, not being good at being a communicator. There are even different love languages that you learn to understand in your partner which works best.
there can be a couple let's say 5 years together, they comprehend each other very very well, but they got comfortable together and don't communicate like they once did, poor communication plants doubts of the relationship lasting long, and end up breaking up.
I understand you're trying to argue the point comprehension is what keeps communication alive, in a sense it does, but isn't as important as communication itself.
For example your husband learned how to comprehend you by communicating, and now that he comprehended which love you respond to the best, he can communicate that. HOWEVER, if he had poor communication skills, he wouldn't be able to love you effectively as he did even though he understood what worked best.
being extremly closed minded.
Agree there
Comprehension. I can teach my employees communication skills. Comprehension skills? Go back to school.
Both. Each couple has a communication language, and you both have to learn it with each other.
I think it is a combination of both.
It can be,
People are stupid though right?
a lot seem to be 🤣
Men definitely can't answer a question I end up blocking before they do no time for that kind of stupid 🤐
Lololol
I think both of them are quite bad.
Yeah
either of which is lost in translation... not one or the other is at fault
Miscommunication for sure
I'm listening...
Anyone can listen, but does everyone "hear" or "really comprehend"?🤔🤔
Not everyone, for sure. That takes a bit of knowing tge other person/understanding them (or painfully plastic/oversimplified language in questions - which you kind of get used to in multinational settings because many people gave very different backgrounds, values, beliefs)
*the* and *have*
Poor communication skills.
both can be ! thanks