I was 21 when I lifeguarded with a bunch of high schooler's and other college kids. It gets kind of weird and you realize you have to have a different kind of dynamic with the college guards vs the high school guards. A couple of the girls were into me. I just politely declined. I don't know man Shitty people are Shitty and should he punished. And I'm going to have all my daughters learn a martial art so they can kick some ass if they ever need to, and I'm gonna teach all my sons about consent, inside and out and the clear communication that needs to happen ANY time you have sex. Men are physically stronger than women. This will never change, but we have to do all we can to prevent horrible shit from happening. I know WAY too many girls who have been raped.
I can imagine that as a female facing this situation it may be assimilated and affect you differently than a male.
But if I were subpoenaed, I'd go in and do my duty. If I were somehow the victim, I'd go in there with even more determination of getting justice.
Although, to be honest, I'm a bit more barbaric. If I were his victim, I'd feel more like justice had been served if he were shift-delete from existence.
This event should have never happened in the first place.
Just going to put this out there if you had the option of allowing people to post anonymously I could have shared my own story here along with others on this site but I personally won’t do it knowing my Gag name will be shown because I don’t feel safe sharing my story while there is no anonymous option.
@yofuknutz I am disabling anonymous comments on all of my questions from now on. I respect the privacy of people but due to the unfortunate amount of harassment and trolls I will continue to do so. If anyone feels uncomfortable responding publicly they are more than welcome to message me
What an awful thing to experience, and then be further forced into at such a young age. I would imagine I would be equally angry and terrified. You are tough stuff.
Oh no it wasn't optional, I didn't have a choice in the matter, the worst part really was just sitting in the waiting room with the other girls and their families before having to go in and be interviewed.
I was chosen to be on a jury in a trial like that before. When I told them that I wouldn't convict anybody based on someone's word alone because people can say whatever they want and that doesn't mean it is true. I said I would need actual physical evidence to convict anybody of anything, and then the prosecution dismissed me.
Go to court and do so! I got molested by my next door neighbor a couple times but, I had no idea it was any kind of crime! I just thought he was just some weird guy that had a problem. As far as I know, he never DID go to jail for it and, decades later, I found out he also got my brother and one of my ex-sisters!!
It sure is!! Especially since he made me play with his dick, too! There's also the bit about how parents never listen to their kids when they talk about such things because they all believe their kid makes up shit and just has a wild imagination.
Well i like to see the evidence against him, i would like to ask how long was it when the victims were assaulted and where? Than i like to hear why? Ok after reading what you wrote, All that leave's is the proof of this happening. Is their any visible evidence or is it 4 v. 1 word against word. Yea if were just going off by what the girls are saying he's guilty but what else is their?
Of course I would be nervous, possibly scared. I would also feel good that I would have the a chance to testify to what he did to me and how my world will never be the same. Having a hand in sending him to jail and showing him that he is a coward and I'm not scared of him will also help me move on
Depends what I thought about the guy. Whether I thought he was innocent / a good person in geneal. Emotions could range from "Do I really need to leave the house for this?" to "I should help him out, no way he would've", to "Fucking hell, I knew he was a retard"
I'd want to survive the ordeal with as much grace as I could. Tell the truth and fulfill my mandate, yes, but my primary concern would be my own well being. That's a dark path to have to travel. Again.
I would do the exact same thing as I would if I were ordered to testify for any other crime. I would go and do it. I would honestly answer every question put to me.
As a victim of sexual abuse I am conflicted. It's not easy to come forward. It's different for men and women but men have a different stigma attached when they are victims.
I would not believe the girls until I saw concrete evidence because way to many “metoo” loving females falsely accuse men of sex crimes and they have made it impossible to trust accusations at face value.
yeah doesn't really work that way unfortunately... I am surprised that @TruthBringer and @Daniela1982 aren't in here asking what we were wearing to cause that to happen..
@Subarugirl Kind of you to do that, love. Just make sure that next time you're not going to take other people's words out of context in order to make them look bad.
@Subarugirl Seems like you need to go to school and learn what an analogy means. Thanks for proving everything that myself and many others were trying to tell you went straight over your head.
@TruthBringer I think you are right about not wearing a Rolex in the ghetto but @Subarugirl is also right that a woman is not like a watch. Rape is more about anger and control than it is about sex. A woman can wear a trash bag and still attract a rapist.
@exitseven Sadly miss Subarugirl here has misrespresented my analogy entirely. Nowhere did I compare a woman to a watch. I compared two different scenarios who are similar in portraying the consequences of not taking proper personal responsibility. And that was where my analogy of wearing a Rolex in a ghetto came to play. I didn't compare a watch to a woman as she desperately tries to put it as, I compared two vastly different scenarios to bring the similarity of the context forth.
The main argument of this was on one of her other questions under an entirely different comment. Miss subaru is having a damage control session because her arguments got debunked by scientific study and common sense alone. Hence why she is slandering my name and that of Daniela over here
@exitseven "A woman can wear a trash bag and still attract a rapist." That's pretty much what I have been telling her on her other question as well (which has nothing do with this question). So basically what you're saying is something I strongly believe in as well, only she has twisted pretty much every word I've said and is portraying me as someone who blames women entirely for what befalls them. Quite a cowardly move on her end.
@exitseven No worries. This woman simply misrepresented my words and arguments completely for the sake of make myself and Daniela (the other woman she tried to tag) look bad. Thanks for the apology, but it's not your fault, sir.
@exitseven truthbringer blames rape victims for wearing inappropriate clothing. He also says men can have tons of sex partners and women no more than 3. 🙄 He’s a fuckin hypocrite.
@loves2learn I've never done such a thing. Another person who misrepresents other people's point of views. I never claimed such as thing you try to put in my mouth about the sex partners. And when it comes to "victimblaming", I've made the following take just for people such as yourself who throw the term "victimblaming" around recklessly in order to silence people for daring to bring forth factual nuance.
This is not the first time you're so hell bent on throwing dirt on my name even after blocking me. Shame on you, especially for someone who is considered a moderator.
@loves2learn Correction since I've linked the wrong Take: here is the linkhttps://www. girlsaskguys. com/sexual-behavior/a66340-why-the-term-victim-blaming-is-both-misused-overused
@loves2learn You call yourself "loves to learn" while you clearly do not want to hear other people's perspectives. On the contrary, you yourself lie about others, twist everything they say and put false statements and words in their mouths while simultaneously slander their name after losing face and blocking them. Classic case of the pot calling the kettle black. And that for someone who is a "moderator". Goes to show that G@G needs to work on it's "recruitment" policy. Not interested. You're 38 and clearly still need to grow up.
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You do what you have to do but I don’t understand all these years later and now it’s coming up you are now 24 not 16 what had actually happened to you?
Newberg Or. here, I am sorry he wasn't jailed for 30 years. I know it's difficult, but if no one testifies, he will go free and attack other underaged girls, GOOD for you, your testimony saved future victims
I was a sheltered 16 year old having to testify in front of a group of adults about what id seen, heard and experience. I hadn't even had my first kiss at that point, and all of a sudden I'm a witness in a sexual abuse case involving at least 3 minors. Imagine if you had a 16 year old daughter that had to deal with that.
Definitely. I had to testify to something non-sexual when I was 17 and even that was nerve wracking. I can’t even imagine having to testify at 16 to sexual abuse.
Well it was a closed Grand Jury, and the prosecutor because of the minor involvement but it was graphic because everything that happened had to be talked about.
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