Do you allow others online to insult you and keep talking with them?

[lightbulb27]

And how strongly do you feel insults? Discussions on perspectives and opinions quickly turn to insults. Some people... most people... don't want to change their view, they would rather "win" and defend their view. Change is painful in the sub conscious mind, because one feels like they are losing. Insults quickly flair as an attack on another's views or defense... like saying... they are an idiot.

There are several things in play I noticed in my own response. I often let something offensive slide and will continue trying to get my points across in this or subsequent posts. My underlying thought is to help the other person, or understand them. That in a way, is a submittal response, not a strong one. The insults fly over my head unless it's blatant. Sometimes that may be useful... I'm good at finding others views. Sometimes it's not good, dishonoring myself, while not pushing back... the other isn't going to change.
I know I take insults because as a kid, I took lots of insults and felt no means to fight back, so I just accept them. Conditioning.

I'm not saying there is a right or wrong response, just an observation of you... and are you ok with you?

I think... it's right to call people out on their insulting... tell them when they are out of line.

push back

Insults don't impact me

Other

[MCheetah]

I don't let others insult me. I can't take strong criticism and even impoliteness. But generally, if they start cursing at me or imply I'm an idiot or something, I just block them and move on with my life. I have enough experience from Reddit in the past to know to not waste my precious time on internet jackasses.

Likewise, I almost never directly insult anyone, even online. I will attack an argument, or attack a pattern of thinking or behavior. Or even criticize a certain type of people (usually generic idiots), but I don't actually attack people online. That'd make me a hypocrite if I did.

So in this case, Other. I don't tolerate insults. I just block people like that.

[MCheetah]

I *can take strong criticism and even impoliteness

[lightbulb27]

Agree, you are one of those I read what you write. level headed.

[MCheetah]

@lightbulb27
Eh... Don't make predictions quite so early.

[MuddyMole]

I think by that point the conversation is already over. They wouldn't be insulting if they had a valid argument to make. If you're insulting someone, that's essentially admitting defeat - it's like the theory that in any online debate, whatever the subject, someone will eventually mention Hitler or the Nazis, and whoever does so first has automatically lost the argument.

[silvermoon84]

I’ve been insulted on this site, either by men age shaming me for being single or by people who didn’t like an opinion I had who got triggered. I just block the age shaming men. The triggered people I will just back myself opinion with either factual sources or whatever personal reasoning I have for having said opinion without insulting back only one time and just leave it at that. If the person is that triggered that they have to resort to personal attacks, that’s on them and not me.

[Flower7]

Age-shaming is definitely a huge thing on this site.

[jlynn_jlw]

What is age shaming?

[silvermoon84]

@jlynn_jlw it’s telling someone they’re worthless or no good simply because they’re over a certain age. Women get age shamed a lot when they pass 30.

[FictionalCharacter]

When people insult me on here. I don’t have it in me to insult back.

Yeah, they’re behind Anon and throw jabs in their own little privacy shield.

But me, I’m upfront and facing those problems with users. I’m honest about who I am as person. People can see me either in bad or good light. That’s well within their right. Just as is within my right to block as many users on here. We don’t need to surround ourselves with toxic people.

[Lliam]

When people flat out insult me, it signals their stupidity. I know that further discussion is impossible. At that point, I consider them worse than worthless. There are times when my impulse is to verbally burn them to the ground.

[PinkMichae]

I don't feel like it bothers me. But I sometimes like to have fun with people who insult me. I also find myself sticking up for people others insult without reason.

[exitseven]

When they insult me I keep talking to them and when they blink I hit them on the bridge of the nose. They usually end up with two black eyes.

[Anonymous]

I voted push back.
In conversation, I rarely entrench myself on a stance. I try to understand every viewpoint. I do take insults personally and contest or ask them to be taken back.

[Massageman]

It's like a baseball game - they get three strikes, then, they are OUT!

[OddBeMe]

I push back, don’t let it impact me and other…things.

[Dargil]

I parry them in good humor.

[collie22]

i try to understand but probably move on

[SmokinAces2000]

If they insult me I’ll humble them

[bean2k21]

A true fuckwit.

[SmokinAces2000]

😂 don’t you have two accounts and you like all of your questions and opinions from that other account

[FictionalCharacter]

@SmokinAces2000

Oh please

[Bean2k]

fuckwit - a stupid or contemptible person

[SmokinAces2000]

FictionalCharacter oh please what 🙃

[Cousin_Stacy]

@BoobSlayer

[jlynn_jlw]

Wow that's a bunch of shit...